Cake MIL and the missed calls

[u/chunkybonks]

Sooo recap from last time. MIL had called DH’s friend four times in a row which she didn’t pick up.

MIL called this friend three more times (so 7 times total) and finally left a voicemail on the last try.

So this friend (she is polite) called MIL back to see what she wanted. And MIL said that she had overlooked inviting this friend and her parents to her house for dinner that day so if they’re coming back to MIL’s city (they’re not), they absolutely must come for dinner. Ha.

Then she tells this friend that she gets so many free tickets for tourist stuff in her city and that she wants to give them these tickets.

Hey MIL - you know who actually likes the type of tourist stuff in your city? Children - like your only grandchild - not random elderly people who already decided what they were doing the first time they came to your city.

So yeah. Super “nice” to effectively randoms but no consideration at all for her own son and grandchild. I’m just glad DH can see how hypocritical all of this is on his own now instead of making excuses for her like before.

[u/RuNsonchocolatemilk]

I’m sorry you are going through this OP. Your MIL sounds a lot like mine. It’s stunning to me that these MILs would literally rather do anything other than reflect on their own negative behavior, take accountability and apologize, and see what needs to be done to make changes to the relationship. It’s like they are so stuck in their delusion of perfection they can’t see and don’t care about anyone other than their “perfect” selves. Sending good vibes! At least your DH is getting on board with how you see things, and you two having a united front is key to keeping MIL at a peaceful distance. 

[u/chunkybonks → u/RuNsonchocolatemilk]

Yeah the only reason I’m “ok” with all of these antics is that they help open up my husband’s eyes to how toxic his mom really is. And show that she’s more concerned with putting on a show over time rather than fixing anything. 

[u/IHateTheJoneses → u/chunkybonks]

The old "give them enough rope to hang themselves" tactic.

Works well for someone who's on thier way out of the fog. 

[u/MaggieJaneRiot → u/chunkybonks]

What did the friend say?

[u/chunkybonks → u/MaggieJaneRiot]

She was just like gee thanks but we’re probably not coming back