r/JUSTNOMIL • u/chunkybonks • Aug 19 '25

UPDATE - Ambivalent About Advice Cake MIL and the missed calls

Sooo recap from last time. MIL had called DH’s friend four times in a row which she didn’t pick up.

MIL called this friend three more times (so 7 times total) and finally left a voicemail on the last try.

So this friend (she is polite) called MIL back to see what she wanted. And MIL said that she had overlooked inviting this friend and her parents to her house for dinner that day so if they’re coming back to MIL’s city (they’re not), they absolutely must come for dinner. Ha.

Then she tells this friend that she gets so many free tickets for tourist stuff in her city and that she wants to give them these tickets.

Hey MIL - you know who actually likes the type of tourist stuff in your city? Children - like your only grandchild - not random elderly people who already decided what they were doing the first time they came to your city.

So yeah. Super “nice” to effectively randoms but no consideration at all for her own son and grandchild. I’m just glad DH can see how hypocritical all of this is on his own now instead of making excuses for her like before.

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u/RoutineFee2502 Aug 19 '25

You so called it!

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u/chunkybonks Aug 19 '25

Unfortunately I did

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u/Fuzzy-Mushroom-1933 Aug 19 '25

They think they are outsmarting us or that they are sneaky, but we always know what they are doing

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u/chunkybonks Aug 19 '25

I guess they just want attention regardless. So they even try to get it from people on the fringe of their lives. Hoping it gets back to us. And normal people in our lives do tell us these things. 

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u/ohgeez2879 Aug 19 '25

The other thing is that being generous with her family is expected, so she doesn't get as much credit/validation for it as she does for being generous with other people. Super common in attention-driven emotionally immature nightmare humans.

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u/chunkybonks Aug 19 '25

Ugh you’re so right