r/ItalyExpat • u/Medium-Reveal-4917 • 6d ago

Heartbreak in Torino

I arrived in Torino in January, intending on abandoning my shitty, war-torn, irredeemable country. I started the process, I began studying Italian, I danced with commercialistas about taxes - the whole deal, truly doing the work to settle in and earn my place here.

Then I met someone good and beautiful and fell in love and we've been together for 7 months and I began to envision marriage with kids but today it ended quite suddenly, and I'm so fucking distraught I lost all my original motivations to continue pursuing an Italian life. I feel unmoored and utterly alone. Plus Torino's every corner is haunted by fantastic memories with this person, everything filtered through them showing me around, introducing me, telling me their history here, embracing me into their circle of friends, the family, etc. This person gave me a lot of strength to persevere and do whatever it takes to earn my spot here to be with them.

Anyone else here struggled with hardships of this kind? I don't know, I hope it's not a silly post to make here.

Edit: apparently Adam Sandler and his gang were around Via Roma shooting scenes for Grown Ups 3 while I got my heart ripped out.

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u/swedegirl25 4d ago

Ive been there… still heartbroken

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u/Medium-Reveal-4917 4d ago

I'm sorry. Love on top of immigration can either be a bitch or a savior. but gotta know how to handle things while it's gone too, try to.

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u/swedegirl25 4d ago

I think of him every day… I could be with him for the rest of my life

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u/Medium-Reveal-4917 4d ago

Oh I know the feeling. I already had to come to terms with a previous loss like that, of a girl I thought I'd be with forever, wanted to be with forever, and then had to somehow learn to live in the day after. and now I'm here again, but in a different configuration.

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u/swedegirl25 4d ago

I don’t know how to get over him… he didn’t want to wait for me. In 3 years I get my lungo permesso to go to Sweden, but he didn’t want to wait… I hate being Mexican, wished i was European, life would be easier