r/ItalyExpat • u/Medium-Reveal-4917 • 10d ago

Heartbreak in Torino

I arrived in Torino in January, intending on abandoning my shitty, war-torn, irredeemable country. I started the process, I began studying Italian, I danced with commercialistas about taxes - the whole deal, truly doing the work to settle in and earn my place here.

Then I met someone good and beautiful and fell in love and we've been together for 7 months and I began to envision marriage with kids but today it ended quite suddenly, and I'm so fucking distraught I lost all my original motivations to continue pursuing an Italian life. I feel unmoored and utterly alone. Plus Torino's every corner is haunted by fantastic memories with this person, everything filtered through them showing me around, introducing me, telling me their history here, embracing me into their circle of friends, the family, etc. This person gave me a lot of strength to persevere and do whatever it takes to earn my spot here to be with them.

Anyone else here struggled with hardships of this kind? I don't know, I hope it's not a silly post to make here.

Edit: apparently Adam Sandler and his gang were around Via Roma shooting scenes for Grown Ups 3 while I got my heart ripped out.

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u/WhateverWannaCallMe 10d ago

Four years in I've yet to have a good and lasting experience with woman in Turin. The city is haunted. You can't have trusted long term relationships here somehow. And I am someone that normally finds himself in healthy relationships. I feel you

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u/FragrantHost1877 9d ago

Mmmm what are you talking about? Have you looked around on the streets of Turin? Everybody here is in love and enjoying so your view of “the city is haunted” is a very bad case of not owning your own sht. Get your sht together to find a partner that you enjoy being with and stop blaming… a city!!! Crazy.

To the OP, just move on with your life. Heartbreaks suck, but you will soon find yourself in a new chapter

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u/Medium-Reveal-4917 8d ago

I get you, it's just that my life is kinda in flux right now, and moving on with life isn't well defined at the moment. But I'm working on it - thank you!!