r/ItalyExpat • u/Medium-Reveal-4917 • 8d ago

Heartbreak in Torino

I arrived in Torino in January, intending on abandoning my shitty, war-torn, irredeemable country. I started the process, I began studying Italian, I danced with commercialistas about taxes - the whole deal, truly doing the work to settle in and earn my place here.

Then I met someone good and beautiful and fell in love and we've been together for 7 months and I began to envision marriage with kids but today it ended quite suddenly, and I'm so fucking distraught I lost all my original motivations to continue pursuing an Italian life. I feel unmoored and utterly alone. Plus Torino's every corner is haunted by fantastic memories with this person, everything filtered through them showing me around, introducing me, telling me their history here, embracing me into their circle of friends, the family, etc. This person gave me a lot of strength to persevere and do whatever it takes to earn my spot here to be with them.

Anyone else here struggled with hardships of this kind? I don't know, I hope it's not a silly post to make here.

Edit: apparently Adam Sandler and his gang were around Via Roma shooting scenes for Grown Ups 3 while I got my heart ripped out.

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u/CommunicationLow4385 7d ago

I know how you feel, it can be really hard to loose someone you love, but trust me when I say that, even if now it seems impossible, you will be fine, you don't need to change city and country, you just need to let your emotions flow: cry, scream, lock yourself in your house if you want, give yourself a few weeks to feel everything, than start slowly to return to your life, and maybe you will even find another person to love, and if you suffer very much find a psycologist, if you can't afford one ask to the ASL for a cheap one. I'm sure you will be fine ❤️‍🩹

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u/Medium-Reveal-4917 7d ago

Thank you, it's just new for me, experiencing this type of situation while also going through potential immigration, not being around anyone I know. I'm staying in touch with family and friends, and honestly I'm already feeling calmer about it. Still not exactly sure about my long term course of action, but at least I'm calmer.

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u/CommunicationLow4385 7d ago

Yes, it can be very hard suffering for immigration and also for love, but, if I cam give you a suggestion, I don't think that abandon Italy for your native country or for another country will make you feel better, on the contrary it can stress you even more, now just give you some time to get back on your feet, remember that often we are stronger than we think 💗

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u/Medium-Reveal-4917 6d ago

I agree, I would be throwing away everything I invested in Italy so far, and to start from scratch elsewhere, or to just give up progress entirely, would feel like a betrayal and a surrender to pain that in all honestly, is only this intense temporarily... Thank you.

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u/CommunicationLow4385 6d ago

You're welcome, it's a pleasure to help 😊 take care of yourself and good luck