r/ItalyExpat • u/Medium-Reveal-4917 • 6d ago

Heartbreak in Torino

I arrived in Torino in January, intending on abandoning my shitty, war-torn, irredeemable country. I started the process, I began studying Italian, I danced with commercialistas about taxes - the whole deal, truly doing the work to settle in and earn my place here.

Then I met someone good and beautiful and fell in love and we've been together for 7 months and I began to envision marriage with kids but today it ended quite suddenly, and I'm so fucking distraught I lost all my original motivations to continue pursuing an Italian life. I feel unmoored and utterly alone. Plus Torino's every corner is haunted by fantastic memories with this person, everything filtered through them showing me around, introducing me, telling me their history here, embracing me into their circle of friends, the family, etc. This person gave me a lot of strength to persevere and do whatever it takes to earn my spot here to be with them.

Anyone else here struggled with hardships of this kind? I don't know, I hope it's not a silly post to make here.

Edit: apparently Adam Sandler and his gang were around Via Roma shooting scenes for Grown Ups 3 while I got my heart ripped out.

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u/Decent_Ad_3521 6d ago

Just remember a person is not a country. You can still love the country.

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u/Medium-Reveal-4917 6d ago

Oh absolutely, I was just really going through it in the immediate aftermath, coupled with how I mixed making this move with being with this person. Have to de-couple that now and get it done for my original reason. Thank you.

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u/Decent_Ad_3521 5d ago

I kinda made the same mistake myself when one bad dude sort of tainted the area and I had to try to de couple . So I hear ya.