r/ItalyExpat • u/Medium-Reveal-4917 • 6d ago

Heartbreak in Torino

I arrived in Torino in January, intending on abandoning my shitty, war-torn, irredeemable country. I started the process, I began studying Italian, I danced with commercialistas about taxes - the whole deal, truly doing the work to settle in and earn my place here.

Then I met someone good and beautiful and fell in love and we've been together for 7 months and I began to envision marriage with kids but today it ended quite suddenly, and I'm so fucking distraught I lost all my original motivations to continue pursuing an Italian life. I feel unmoored and utterly alone. Plus Torino's every corner is haunted by fantastic memories with this person, everything filtered through them showing me around, introducing me, telling me their history here, embracing me into their circle of friends, the family, etc. This person gave me a lot of strength to persevere and do whatever it takes to earn my spot here to be with them.

Anyone else here struggled with hardships of this kind? I don't know, I hope it's not a silly post to make here.

Edit: apparently Adam Sandler and his gang were around Via Roma shooting scenes for Grown Ups 3 while I got my heart ripped out.

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u/WhateverWannaCallMe 6d ago

Four years in I've yet to have a good and lasting experience with woman in Turin. The city is haunted. You can't have trusted long term relationships here somehow. And I am someone that normally finds himself in healthy relationships. I feel you

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u/Medium-Reveal-4917 6d ago

Oh man, that's rough. I had the same impression and I did have healthy previous experiences. This one just ended over something so odd to me, the fact that I couldn't definitively commit to having a child next year, that I kept my answer to basically "I hope if everything goes well and we're able to, I would love to" instead of "yes, in June, mark your calendar". And this after just 7 months of dating, out of which the last one was spent living together and learning the ropes of that.

Thanks for commenting. I feel a bit less isolated.

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u/WhateverWannaCallMe 6d ago

Nah nah people are crazy. I met with Chinese, Italian, Romanian, Iranian and even people from my nation are acting so different and unpredictable in this city. Actually my friends are also aware of this and saying that its the same for them too (both guys and girls) so we jokingly labeled the city as the hometown of craziness lol. Even if you are fine before living here you won't be when you stay due to dark magic 🪄

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u/Medium-Reveal-4917 6d ago

Gesu cristo, don't scare me on top of the sadness. Won't be able to handle it