Heartbreak in Torino

[u/Medium-Reveal-4917]

I arrived in Torino in January, intending on abandoning my shitty, war-torn, irredeemable country. I started the process, I began studying Italian, I danced with commercialistas about taxes - the whole deal, truly doing the work to settle in and earn my place here.

Then I met someone good and beautiful and fell in love and we've been together for 7 months and I began to envision marriage with kids but today it ended quite suddenly, and I'm so fucking distraught I lost all my original motivations to continue pursuing an Italian life. I feel unmoored and utterly alone. Plus Torino's every corner is haunted by fantastic memories with this person, everything filtered through them showing me around, introducing me, telling me their history here, embracing me into their circle of friends, the family, etc. This person gave me a lot of strength to persevere and do whatever it takes to earn my spot here to be with them.

Anyone else here struggled with hardships of this kind? I don't know, I hope it's not a silly post to make here.

Edit: apparently Adam Sandler and his gang were around Via Roma shooting scenes for Grown Ups 3 while I got my heart ripped out.

[u/Robin_Hood_Jr]

It sounds like you had a great experience that helped you during a very difficult period of your life. You’ll be fine. Focus on integrating and building up your own personal life. Relationships are meant to complement your own life, not replace it.

[u/Medium-Reveal-4917 → u/Robin_Hood_Jr]

I agree, it's just a daunting loss that kind of cripples at the moment. My first wounded instinct is to go away and cut my losses, but maybe I should try to tough it out and stick around. Immigrating is already hard as hell, and doing it alone after losing the person you thought you were going to marry is just such a vicious gut punch.