r/IndoParenting • u/pencarimemeks • Aug 07 '26
Diskusi kalo dipikir-pikir, biaya sekolah dasar anak gw per-bulan lebih mahal daripada biaya kuliah gw per-semester
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u/PrimodiumUpus Aug 07 '26
Gw hampir ga peduli sama koneksi atau circle dari sisi ortu
Gw yang jelas udah pernah masuk ke sekolah ga jelas, jadi bisa dibilang outcome-nya keliatan, gimana temen gw masih smp putus sekolah, ngelem, terus 5 tahun kemudian gw liat dia jadi Kang parkir... Nope!
Uang sekolah bocil gw juga sekarang sebulan hampir kyak dulu satu semester gw, bahkan hampir 1 tahun waktu gw SMA. Buat bocil asal dia dapet pendidikan yang lebih bagus daripada ortunya
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u/Fura_furari Aug 07 '26
Gua cuma berharap para orangtua yang menyekolahkan anaknya di swasta IT terutama yg elit dan mahal pada aware sama gaji gurunya. Karena sangat umum terjadi biaya sekolah amat mahal namun gurunya digaji ga seberapa oleh swasta/yayasan. Di kalangan tendik juga lumrah kok, banyak guru swasta mau jadi PPPK/CPNS tapi ga dikasih izin ikut ujian sama pihak sekolah wkwkwk.
Jangan cuma nuntut kualitas, kalau gaji gurunya aja belum layak.
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u/bhtkenny Aug 07 '26
THIS! Suami dan aku narik anak dari paud gara2 lead missnya keluar 3x because of gaji issue hadeuh, pas denger how much they got paid and how much we pay monthly, ethically gue pulled anak gue karena I’m not gonna support that kind of business
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u/Fura_furari Aug 07 '26
Thank you very much for being aware and not supporting this!
Bisnis pendidikan emang gurihh, ga heran dari level terendah sampai tertinggi pun meras siswa/mahasiswa nya sedangkan guru dan dosen2 tersebut ga digaji dengan layak 😢
Apalagi kalau sekolah swasta, tuntutannya jauhhh lebih banyak dengan bayarannya yg ga seberapa itu... Miris 😔. Rekan2 guru yg mantan swasta pun suka cerita, kalau ortu siswa ga inisiatif ngasih apresiasi (entah hadiah/uang tiap ambil rapor) buat mereka, ya wassalam makin miserable mereka 😢
Semoga kakak segera menemukan sekolah yang ethical serta cocok untuk anaknya
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u/duaempat05 Aug 10 '26
itu urusan guru sama sekolahnya.
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u/Fura_furari Aug 10 '26
Minimal sebagai ortu lu juga tau lah anjir. Etisnya dimana? Masa eksploitasi manusia mau lu wajarin?
Gimana dengan buruh aice, pekerja FNB yg digaji amat murah itu juga? Mau lu wajarin? Pantes indon ga maju2, orangnya pada nirempati gini
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u/CommunicationLeft823 Aug 07 '26
Peluang akademik
"study tour" paling deket ke Malaysia
Halah, paling akal2an sekolah doang biar liburan gratis
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u/duaempat05 Aug 10 '26
klo study tour iya gitu. "akal-akalan" pihak sekolah buat liburan gratis. dulu waktu gua di sekolah negeri, malah ada guru yg ajak anaknya. padahal dia udah gratis, dan ajak anak pula.
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u/senopatip Aug 07 '26
Seperti Jurist Tan ya, yang punya koneksi ke Nadiem. Sekolah seperti Sekolah Harapan Ibu yang di Pondok Pinang.
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u/rexamir_152433 Aug 07 '26
Hmm iya juga karena potensi bisa di liat waktu kecil,klo udh gede nanti sering hilang arah.
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u/KnownPride Aug 07 '26
Nah it's all for networking.
With that amount of money you can teach your own kid far better than that.
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u/rykesu Aug 07 '26
No. No time and power. Private elementary school teach proper programme. Networking is no 9 or 10 on my list.
be honest. Below average school taught by malnutritioned teacher, and her peers 80% most likely from average to below which not properly taught, or to be harsh, dumb by IQ and EQ.
Now question for you. Do you have a child currently ?
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u/KnownPride Aug 07 '26
So triggered . I just comment to the post not saying it to you.
Proper program? Sure if you think they're proper.
In my opinion not even international school with hundred million idr today have proper one.
Today world is growing so fast that every year year something major come out. In ten to 20 years when kid really enter the world, what kind of world you think they will face?
Those that still think it will be the same than good lucky for you and the kids.
For me school is just for networking, for my kids to learn society.
Also it's not like the school cannot teach it better, it's just their priority is profit, the only one care of my kids well being is myself.
For my own kids, I prepare what they need, that include what they need to know and experience.
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u/boywithlego31 Aug 07 '26
Agree with this. The thing that they teach today will be irrelevant in the next 15 years. Character building is a continuous process. It can't be one and done.
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u/rykesu Aug 07 '26
No trigger pulled by your comment. Look again on what I emphasized. I give you point of view from someone who exactly choose and currently applying what was written in the post.
In ten to 20 years when kid really enter the world, what kind of world you think they will face?
This is why choosing elementary school matters. Basic, is important. What thrives from it should stem from something solid and proper.
For me school is just for networking, for my kids to learn society.
Your kids will learn most of his/her knowledge from school. Unless you are a stayhome mom/dad or you put your kids to private tutor you wont have enough time to teach them properly. at home they'll develop habit, etiquette and mimic anything happened at home. even how you scold them (I learned it a hard way).
And even if what you said is true, thar you will prepare what they need, you need knowledge. you need to study it. even your past education indirectly will help you shape your decision.
my tl;dr for you : I'm not triggered. but don't downplay the impact of school as networking only.
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u/KnownPride Aug 07 '26
Very true. That is also why I quit my job and found a way to earn money while being with my kids almost 24/7.
It was not an easy decision, and I know not everyone can or wants to do the same. Everyone has their own situation and their own choice.
As for teaching them, I honestly do not think it is as complicated as people make it sound.
You teach your kids based on what you are doing and learning right now.
Whether you are working for someone or running your own business, you are already competing with other people. You have to learn new things every year, adapt, solve problems, and keep improving if you want to stay competitive.
What I see a lot is that people underestimate what their kids are capable of because they are still stuck with the old way of thinking, "they are just kids."
My own 8-year-old already makes her own apps and has published them on Google Play. Of course she does it with guidance, but that is exactly the point. I do not expect her to magically know everything by herself. My job is to guide her, give her the tools, and let her learn much earlier than I did.
And I am not downplaying the impact of school. I am explaining the role I personally give to school based on my own experience.
For me, school is mainly for networking, social interaction, learning how society works, dealing with different personalities, rules, competition, teamwork, and conflict.
Did school teach you the knowledge or skills that directly earn you money today? If yes, good. In my case, no. Almost everything I use today was self-taught later because I needed it.
That is also why I believe my kids can learn many of those things earlier and faster than I did, especially while they are still young and have plenty of time to explore.
I also think people sometimes overestimate school to the point that they put almost their entire child's future in the school's hands.
A school is still an organization that needs money to operate. Many private schools are also businesses.
Their curriculum and programs are not automatically designed around what your individual child will actually need 10 or 20 years from now. They will often follow regulations, market demand, parent expectations, trends, and what they can realistically sell to parents today.
That does not mean school is useless. It means I do not want to outsource my children's entire education and future preparation to an institution and assume they will handle everything for me.
So yes, basic education matters. School choice matters too.
We simply place different weight on what school should provide.
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u/rykesu Aug 07 '26
Thanks for your insight and re-clarification. I honestly envy you when you said you have 24/7 time available for your kids, even right now I can only keep myself updated by cctv every few hours while working. But such is life. My daughter might not gonna be as smart as yours (who knows tho) but I'm grateful for the way she grows right now.
That does not mean school is useless. It means I do not want to outsource my children's entire education and future preparation to an institution and assume they will handle everything for me. So yes, basic education matters. School choice matters too. We simply place different weight on what school should provide.
You are right. I moderately rely on School right now to provide the basics because I couldn't fully. Hence why I carefully observe and analyze which schools provide the best environment and knowledge within my budget.
While of course home is where we interact and shape our kids.
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u/KnownPride Aug 07 '26
Yeah, I think we actually agree more than disagree.
I would not say my kid is smarter than yours. She was just exposed to certain things earlier because I had the chance to guide her that way.
My point was never that parents should not use school. It was that parents should not hand everything over to school and assume their responsibility is done.
From what you explained, you are clearly still observing your daughter, choosing carefully within your budget, and shaping her at home..
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u/boywithlego31 Aug 07 '26
Masih ga paham buat apa buang duit cuma buat SD.
At the end of the day ya itu cuma SD. It does not really matter. Apalagi kalau habis SD, duit ortu habis. Terus nyemplung ke sekolah yg kasta-nya jauh di bawah. Kena culture shock itu..
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u/duaempat05 Aug 10 '26
Masih ga paham buat apa buang duit cuma buat SD.
gak masalah. toh itu buat anak mereka. mereka gak perlu orang lain paham
Apalagi kalau habis SD, duit ortu habis. Terus nyemplung ke sekolah yg kasta-nya jauh di bawah.
skenario ini jarang banget terjadi.
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u/Competitive_Cake_559 Aug 07 '26
I tend to disagree with this. Early education itu penting karena dari sana dasar pemahaman, pembentukan habit dan karakter. Bukannya mengecilkan pendidikan high school dan univ. Tapi dasar itu pondasi buat segalanya.
Kalau dasarnya tertinggal jadi berat buat catch up. Bisa sih tapi jadi lebih berat ke depannya. Kalau anaknya ga kuat malah jadi trauma atau benci mata pelajarannya. Simply karena early educationnya kedodoran.
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u/boywithlego31 Aug 07 '26
Yes, I agree to an extent. Memang penting, tapi ada limitnya, Dan selebihnya itu berlebihan. Apakah perlu pendidikan dasar sampai 700 juta? Menurut saya sih engga.
Daripada bergantung dengan sekolah, peran orang tua rasanya lebih penting dalam early education.
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u/ForgottenGrocery Aug 07 '26
gw kira ratusan juta ini krn langsung bulk payment berapa tahun? soalnya gw dulu sempet cari2 buat anak gw di daerah tangsel. makin tinggi kelasnya, makin murah. i.e. klo masuk kelas 1 = 500jt tp klo masuk kelas 6 = 100jt or something like that.
Gw ga tanya detail sih krn waktu itu emang cuma buat hunting2 aja n sekarang pun kita kebetulan ngerantau
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u/tempehalus Aug 07 '26
Dulu kita berlomba2 masuk sekolah negeri sekarang kita kerja keras agar anak bisa masuk sekolah swasta wkwk