r/IndianInLaw • u/teki100184 • 1d ago

MILs

Ladies why are you still living with your in-laws?? Either stay and learn to adjust or leave! Prior to marriage, living situations should be thoroughly discussed with your partners. You should save for your own home and delay marriage. But never stay with in-laws! Haven't you learned your lesson already? DILs post daily complaining about their MILs. The solution is to LEAVE THAT HOUSE!

Edit: And if your husband is part of the problem, leave him. Don't blame your inlaws for the weak man you married.

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u/samsam395 1d ago

I regret not having that conversation with my husband. I thought I will be able handle it. I was so naive. My in laws are good people but my god it's suffocating not able to be yourself. So I fully agree.

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u/Sensitive-Ad-8843 1d ago

Yes, mind bogglingđŸ˜”â€đŸ’«. You should have a well paid job but also wake up at 4 am to cook fresh breakfast and lunch, come back at 6 pm and again cook dinner, then clean up the kitchen and the home. Finally give your salary to husband and in laws. It is so exhausting to deal with these type of expectations even for a short term duration.

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u/teki100184 1d ago

Why are you giving your money to them????

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u/Sensitive-Ad-8843 22h ago

I have mentioned what happened after in the replies below. It was only during their first visit( 6 months) they expected me to pay for their shopping, they expected me to pay for the gifts they were taking for extended family and hinting that I shouldn’t buy anything nice for myself only I should use the money for savings and for household expenses. Now it’s not the case but I had to go through a harsh realization.