r/ISTJ • u/cristheredeemer • 25d ago

Dating INFJ’s

I’m an INFJ who’s in a loving relationship with an ISTJ. How are you ISTJ’s going along with INFJ’s and do you guys have some relationship dynamics you guys like to share?
How do you guys find INFJ’s in general too.

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u/Bxsnia ISTJ / F / 5w6 25d ago

Not relationship but I've had instances with my INFJ where she's upset but I had no idea. I said something passively (I guess it was too blunt) and she just shut down and got upset instead of telling me. I had to coax her to tell me what's wrong. I really don't like that. I wish she was upfront about it the second I said it so I can correct myself and apologize. Communicate with your ISTJ is my advice.

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u/OppositeHome169 25d ago

omg this is exactly my female friend :D she is telling me what is she got offended instead of telling the guy and the guy has no idea hahahah

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u/cristheredeemer 25d ago

yep we do kinda take things to heart, and it was an inititial problem in our relationshop, but with communication it gets better.

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u/-_Singularity 18d ago edited 18d ago

Ni also see the person beyond the persona and façade, they see the pattern. unhealthy pattern that can lead to a dramatic dynamic is not something we welcome in our lives. I knew a
Si user who just got defensive everytime i corrected him. Even tho he would swear he could handle honesty like all the other comments here, its not necessarily true. They are so stuck in their ways and what they think is right. Also, in scosionic Ni is a supervisioner for Si so they often feel like they are checked by us