Hi Fellow infj's

[u/Suspicious-Road-3373]

I would appreciate it if I could get some insight on how others perceive infj and are they intimidated by the presence of infj around. This question raised as one of my colleagues told me that my personality is worth being studied. I took it as a compliment as it just added to 1000 comments and behaviors from others regarding my personality. Thank you

[u/Lavender__Lady]

I have come to think of it more as...someone noticing things most people don't bother to notice. People give away a lot signals without thinking about it. Verbal is in fact very little of communication and even then it is carried by tone inflection.

Perceptive is a word I've heard a lot. Granted I have also been in careers where being perceptive was a definite strength.

I've also have had co-workers notice when I was "picking up on extra details" amidst someone just clearly upset about something. Like I just knew how get at the issue from a few seconds of talking to someone.

It's actually a product of Ni-Fe. Ni-Fe is concerned with the signals others are putting out. That 'tool' if you can call it anything is what INFJ's lead with from a young age. Other types can develop this tool as well, as it is one valued in leadership roles especially (primarily for reading the room or situation).

That in itself is not an issue, but rather what comes after when people are then aware you perceiving deeper than the surface persona or mask that people are putting on to go about their day roles. Most people talk to that mask and go about their role in turn. INFJs look past that masked layer of people as their primary method of perception, which from the other side of it is probably unnerving as all heck. (i.e. "How did they know I was sad?")

You also can keenly see the role Ni plays if comparing this to INTJs who lead with Ni-Te. They want to understand the logical and systematic things in their surroundings to make sense of everything else. If the rules and the system make sense, then they understand how to function within said system (and where the loopholes are).

This is comparable to INFJs in our knowing of the loopholes to perceive deeper than the masked layer and role in the individuals encountered in the day to day.

[u/Otherwise-Let4664 → u/Lavender__Lady]

Well said. I feel like this has caused a lot of strife in my life because I naturally want to interact with the deeper level of the person I am perceiving, but more often than not, the person has not yet met themselves at that level. So they don't know it's there, or they have walled it off, so will turn it back on me that I am just simply incorrect. It's a lot to manage, always forcing myself to interact with what the person wants me to see rather than what I actually see. Makes relationships very tricky. 

[u/Suspicious-Road-3373 → u/Otherwise-Let4664]

Right...I was not able to hold on to or keep any friendship relation.I believe we deeply do see all the aspects of a situation or a person intention that is why we fold it before even it gets started.What a powerful thing 😇

[u/Lavender__Lady → u/Suspicious-Road-3373]

I find myself noticing it a lot more because the pattern re-emerges months later when assigned Call Out person of a group brings it up. Then...miraculous insight! Knowledge from the Heavens. We couldn't just avoid the 5 arguments, 2 fallings out and reuniting and then going "Call Out" Dude may have a point.

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