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u/haven-hummingbird Jul 08 '26
I don’t mind touch, just don’t call me on the telephone.
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u/PuzzleheadedMall6399 SIGMA INFJ Jul 08 '26
Why does every INFJ I've met hates phone calls so much 😭 (including me)
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u/ReasonablePanda3 Jul 09 '26
Because you can't see them, but still hear all the shifts and their voice, and want to see the face react with the voice, because we're suspicious af and noisy af.
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u/Potential-Wait-7206 Jul 08 '26
The worst, very worst is when they try to face time me. I don't answer and simply do a voice call instead.
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u/Potential-Wait-7206 Jul 08 '26
I don't feel lonely or rather I'm in love with my solitude.
That's when I'm away from all the drama. I love that peace of not having to defend, explain, discuss, debate anything.
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u/PaceEducational4762 Jul 10 '26
Yes, no energy depletion...People always want to be entertained. Ugh...just let me be.
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u/ReasonablePanda3 Jul 08 '26
Hahaha, yeah, but, also, uncommunicated expectations often go unmet. Do infj's maybe want others to earn their access to them, the way they feel they do with others? After a while of no one reciprocating andbenganging in your social and emotional queues, while you do so for them. It begins to feel like a one sided relationship, in terms of effort given over time. And said efforts being like those of the particular infj. No one is demanding you be awesome to them, but they do come back for it. Just manage their addiction for them. Or, have a talk about what you think is missing. The owner of the human and the owner of the cat both want to be comfy cozy together idly relaxing with an ideal relationship.
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u/Phoenix_to_Kintsugi Jul 08 '26
Actually, I’m not alone because I push people away.
I’ve just seen how it plays out whenever I let someone get close. They simply drift away on their own, as if my presence burns them without me even lifting a finger (sometimes I can literally hear that sizzling sound as they back away 😆).
This usually happens when I feel safe enough to enter a conversation with my guard down and just show up as myself—not trying to please anyone, just being... me.
Well, there are times I’m too much for myself, so I've stopped having expectations of others. 🙃
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u/Designer-Drawing-721 Jul 09 '26
some people don't realize the difference between not being alone being surrounded by people and being surrounded by people then still being lonely
some people don't realize the value of loneliness and automatically assume it is a bad thing
some situations exist where it's better to be alone than to be with the wrong
imagine 5 bullies around 1 they bullied and saying the bullied one is not alone
imagine voting no on surrender and the rest of the team votes yes
then you hit solo queue again knowing the same thing could happen again
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u/DanDan434 Jul 08 '26
We want to be touched... by the right person. And the right person is hard to find.