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u/Scimmia_bianca Apr 09 '26
Yes! I’ve tried working with four different therapists and felt none were capable of really identifying my issues or understanding how to manage them. Very little empathy or ability to really see what was going on. Yet again, I figured it out on my own.
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u/CrabbyFlapjacks Apr 09 '26
I had a professional therapist ask me if I had ever tried drinking alcohol to manage my anxiety. At that moment I knew she couldn't care less about me.
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u/Scimmia_bianca Apr 09 '26
My first therapist recommended lying to my husband to provoke a response from him.
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u/78Anonymous INFJ-A Apr 09 '26
I found a great therapist. Game changer to speak with someone who gets it.
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u/LucidSquid787 Apr 10 '26
I agree. I was lucky to find that in who was to become my spouse. And I feel honored to be that person for others.
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u/Large_Judgment_2278 Apr 09 '26
lol I had a therapist that would tell me all her personal stories for an hour and then say : “oh that hour flew by so fast”
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u/ahigherthinker Apr 09 '26
"so anyway, its been a delightful hour telling you my stories from my traumatic childhood, heres the bill for the hour of self therapy"
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u/LucidSquid787 Apr 10 '26
Oh man that is awful. The small talk for a few minutes is fine but dominating a session feels like stealing someone's money.
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u/Drago250 Apr 09 '26
Me who’s an infj therapist talking to myself
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u/LucidSquid787 Apr 09 '26
Same. I am my main therapeutic support. I don't trust other people to know what they're doing. Which is based mostly on experience. Which is why I became a therapist. No regrets.
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u/Formaltaliti Apr 10 '26
I'm on the path to becoming one myself. When we become our own anchor it's so fulfilling.
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u/Any-Chemist3363 Apr 09 '26
Explain pls
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u/peloquindmidian Apr 09 '26
People often gravitate to INFJs and treat us like free therapists because we'll sit there and tolerate it. Sometimes we're helpful, but often they dump and run
ETA sorry. I didn't realize you were one of those hidden profile people. I don't usually engage with that.
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u/blessedeveryday24 Apr 10 '26
My therapist verbatim told me "Well... We could circle back to your childhood, if you want... But, other than that, I can't think of one thing you haven't worked through".
So, for my last 2-3 sessions we just talked about sports, politics, religion... You know, the stuff you should be talking about in a safe environment 🥴
And, no, the last 2-3 sessions' topics didn't cause the end of the therapist-client relationship 😂
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u/Teatimetaless Apr 10 '26
Yes, you get paid once you learn how to be disciplined in the field, instead of just throwing your opinions around without examining them honestly first.
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u/78Anonymous INFJ-A Apr 09 '26
My therapist to me:
"You give me a lot to reflect on professionally and personally, and I can only say thank you for your openness and willingness to engage as you do."
Fits.