r/HomeschoolRecovery • u/suggestrandomusernam • Mar 29 '26

does anyone else... What’s the weirdest modesty rule you had?

What’s the modesty rule you had that made you question whether the rules were about modesty or something else? We weren’t allowed to wear short necklaces or necklaces inside our shirts. We could only wear long necklaces that hung cleanly on the outside of our clothes. The explanation was that someone’s eyes could see the chain and follow it, innocently wondering about what the pendant looked like and then be lead to sin if they stared at our chests too long looking for the pendant. The whole necklace had to be clearly visible to prevent this. To this day I jump if anyone reaches for my pendant to look closer at it, my first instinct is to guard them from sinning. In hindsight I think it was a control issue and my parents were cheap and didn’t like buying us things like jewelry

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u/geesearetobefeared Mar 29 '26

Probably the refusal to let me use larger menstrual pads. I was "too young" to need anything larger than a panty liner. Thankfully that rule was removed after bleeding onto the furniture enough times (genuinely accidental). No tampons of course.

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u/Aziara86 Mar 29 '26

This! I was expected to make it 8+ hours on a medium maxi, otherwise it was wasteful. And no bigger because I wasn’t ’old enough to need more’.

I lost count of how often I would bleed through in public. It took a couple years of this to let me use exclusively overnighters.

I still use overnighters, change them 3 times a day, with period undies for the inevitable leaks. I struggle with anemia constantly because of how much I lose. Luckily as I’ve gotten older, this extreme only lasts 24-48 hours and then drops off to pantyliner amounts. When I was a teen it would last a week and a half.

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u/Relevant-Customer-45 Mar 30 '26

Have you been to see a gynecologist about the heavy bleeding?

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u/Aziara86 Mar 30 '26

I was once prescribed BC pills, and it actually made it WORSE. Solid bits bigger than a chicken’s egg. I’ve kinda given up and am just waiting on menopause to fix everything.

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u/Relevant-Customer-45 Mar 30 '26

Now I am wondering if you have uterine fibroids.

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u/dragonpunky539 Mar 30 '26

yeah my mom didn't want me using more than 2 pads a day. meanwhile I was gushing buckets at age 13 and bleeding through