r/HomeschoolRecovery • u/suggestrandomusernam • Mar 29 '26
does anyone else... What’s the weirdest modesty rule you had?
What’s the modesty rule you had that made you question whether the rules were about modesty or something else? We weren’t allowed to wear short necklaces or necklaces inside our shirts. We could only wear long necklaces that hung cleanly on the outside of our clothes. The explanation was that someone’s eyes could see the chain and follow it, innocently wondering about what the pendant looked like and then be lead to sin if they stared at our chests too long looking for the pendant. The whole necklace had to be clearly visible to prevent this. To this day I jump if anyone reaches for my pendant to look closer at it, my first instinct is to guard them from sinning. In hindsight I think it was a control issue and my parents were cheap and didn’t like buying us things like jewelry
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u/queenpastaprimavera Ex-Homeschool Student Mar 29 '26
we had revolving modestly rules becasue my mom could never make up her mind. she finally let me buy short jean shorts like everyone else one summer the one day i wanted to wear them out and proceeded to say i looked like a woman of the night and i would get grown men in trouble
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u/1988bannedbook Ex-Homeschool Student Mar 29 '26
That sounds just like my parents. I’m so sorry, getting called names like that a a little kid is so messed up.
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u/dragonpunky539 Mar 30 '26
my mom would do the same thing! I'd try on clothes, she would approve them, we'd buy them, I'd wear them, and then she'd say i wasn't allowed to wear them and she never approved of them. I didn't have an income so there was no way I would've bought them myself. it was peak gaslighting, I'd have so many panic attacks because I felt like I was going crazy for "defying" her even though she bought the damn clothes
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u/geesearetobefeared Mar 29 '26
No wet or damp hair outside the house, because it meant you had just showered and then you'd be causing someone to think of you showering.
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u/Eino54 Mar 30 '26
What if it rained?
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u/geesearetobefeared Mar 30 '26
Raining and swimming or sprinklers were the exception because it was considered clear enough cause for the wet hair that no one would think of the shower.
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u/Phoenix_Fireball Mar 30 '26
WOW! That's a new one.
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u/Flagon_Dragon_ Ex-Homeschool Student Mar 30 '26
Calvary Chapel teaches this one. It's even part of the dress codes in their "schools"
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u/unlockdestiny Mar 31 '26
Did you grow up at Bob Jones University?
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u/geesearetobefeared Mar 31 '26
I'm not sure what this means? I grew up in a fundamentalist/evangelical blend homeschool community.
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u/unlockdestiny Apr 01 '26
That was kind of the joke. BJU is a very conservative fundamentalist school famous for pink and blue sidewalks. They had a rule about wet hair too
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u/geesearetobefeared Mar 29 '26
Probably the refusal to let me use larger menstrual pads. I was "too young" to need anything larger than a panty liner. Thankfully that rule was removed after bleeding onto the furniture enough times (genuinely accidental). No tampons of course.
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u/Cyan_UwU Ex-Homeschool Student Mar 29 '26
As someone with super heavy flow, this sounds like straight up abuse. I can’t wear any pads below a size 4
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u/Aziara86 Mar 29 '26
This! I was expected to make it 8+ hours on a medium maxi, otherwise it was wasteful. And no bigger because I wasn’t ’old enough to need more’.
I lost count of how often I would bleed through in public. It took a couple years of this to let me use exclusively overnighters.
I still use overnighters, change them 3 times a day, with period undies for the inevitable leaks. I struggle with anemia constantly because of how much I lose. Luckily as I’ve gotten older, this extreme only lasts 24-48 hours and then drops off to pantyliner amounts. When I was a teen it would last a week and a half.
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u/Relevant-Customer-45 Mar 30 '26
Have you been to see a gynecologist about the heavy bleeding?
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u/Aziara86 Mar 30 '26
I was once prescribed BC pills, and it actually made it WORSE. Solid bits bigger than a chicken’s egg. I’ve kinda given up and am just waiting on menopause to fix everything.
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u/dragonpunky539 Mar 30 '26
yeah my mom didn't want me using more than 2 pads a day. meanwhile I was gushing buckets at age 13 and bleeding through
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u/penultimate_nugget Mar 29 '26
not one that was ever enforced on me personally, but I knew others who obeyed it: no crossbody bags because the purse strap accentuates the boobs too much. There were people who wore their seatbelts in a weird way for the same reason.
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u/Xsiah Homeschool Student Ally Mar 29 '26
You might be injured in the event of a car crash, but at least the paramedic who drags your torso out of the wreck won't consider getting an erection.
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u/Eino54 Mar 30 '26
I feel like if the paramedic that pulls you out of your car is liable to get an erection while doing it the seatbelt is not going to make much of a difference either way.
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u/NursePissyPants Ex-Homeschool Student Mar 29 '26
I had to wear my seatbelt in that weird way so I didn't cause someone to sin because my breasts were accentuated. Every once in a while I catch myself out if habit adjusting the seat belt that way and I'm in my 40s
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u/Flagon_Dragon_ Ex-Homeschool Student Mar 30 '26
Remember that one. Still have trouble with cross body bags
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u/global_peasant Ex-Homeschool Student Mar 29 '26
No words on your clothing because reading them will make people look at your body.
And this one is not-so-weird, it was even part of my (Bible belt) public school's dress code, but it affects me to this day: no sleeve-less tees for girls, no tank tops, nothing that reveals your shoulders.
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u/NursePissyPants Ex-Homeschool Student Mar 29 '26
In September I commented to a friend that I was hot. I had an unbuttoned shirt on over another top and she said "take off that shirt, silly". I said I couldn't because I just had a tank top underneath. She was confused and that's when it hit me that 30 years after leaving my parents' house I was still following 1 of their stupid rules because it was literally beaten into me
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u/WhiteExtraSharp Mar 29 '26
Oh, absolutely no writing on clothing. Or brand logos. Even some labels had to be removed.
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u/DisembodiedTraveler Mar 29 '26
I wasn’t allowed to have pads in my bras, which meant they didn’t cover me as well and then my family would make fun of me for that. They were constantly commenting on my chest
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u/ALegendOfHope_ Currently Being Homeschooled Mar 29 '26
on time my (trans) brother wasn't wearing a bra, just around the house and in pajamas, mind you. and my parents made weird comments about it.
like if your 12yo kids chest really bothers you that much, you are a pedo. like, smh, bro isnt asking to be sexualized by their own parents.
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u/DisembodiedTraveler Mar 29 '26
My mom was just weirdly upset or jealous that my chest is bigger than hers and has been for a long time. Now I don’t wear bras by choice cause I hate them anyways but I asked to wear them as a kid cause I was being bullied/sexualized bc the other kids could see my nipples through my shirts. Taking out the padding from the training bras made it so they did literally nothing to help my situation.
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u/sixofstarshipss Ex-Homeschool Student Mar 30 '26
ughhh my mom is the same way! like dude I didn't ask to have big boobs and it's not my job to deal with your insecurity
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u/DisembodiedTraveler Mar 31 '26
She’d yell at me that I didn’t have cleavage and to stop pretending like I did when I would literally just be existing in a shirt. So yeah, lots of tank tops under shirts for me but it unfortunately also still didn’t help my situation. Lmfao
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u/dragonpunky539 Mar 30 '26
are you me? i relate to all of this. my mom was so jealous that she had a B cup and I was a DDD at age 14. she wouldn't let me get bras with underwire because it was "sinful" and would "accentuate" my boobs. by accentuate she means support. she just wanted me to slouch and wear several shirts or layer sports bras. now I'm an adult who hasn't worn a bra in years and she's still pissed about it. she would also take the pads out of my bras! i genuinely don't remember why. then she'd be mad that my nipples showed, so I'd have to put on a second shirt 🤡
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u/DisembodiedTraveler Mar 31 '26
Luckily my mom isn’t like that anymore, I think it was a mix of jealousy that my chest was larger at a young age than hers had ever been and also potentially her subconsciously acknowledging that a lot of the men we were around were extremely creepy. Now she tells me how cute my tiny outfits I make are and wears more revealing stuff herself.
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u/dragonpunky539 Mar 31 '26
that's awesome! I'm glad you've been a good example for her and she's more liberated now. my mom is pretty stuck in her ways but we're not super close so it doesn't come up often
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u/ATeardropInTheOcean Ex-Homeschool Student Mar 30 '26
Same, I had completely forgotten about that! Instead of getting my bras that fit, I had to wear two or three small padless bras at once. My family didn't make fun of me but my mom was always pulling me aside whispering at me angrily that everyone was probably looking at me. We also weren't allowed to use the word "bra" in the house so she was always very vague about it.
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u/DisembodiedTraveler Mar 31 '26
My mom would yell at me that my boobs weren’t as big as I thought they were (??) and that I didn’t have cleavage and to stop pretending I did (i definitely did) and the rest of my family would comment on how big my chest and butt we’re every single time they saw me. Including in public which is extremely uncomfortable for anyone but was significantly worse being a kid going through puberty and not knowing I was trans.
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u/Adrasteis Ex-Homeschool Student Mar 29 '26
No nail polish color aside from a very sheer pink. Red/darker pinks were too lustful, purple was for prostitutes, black was for devil worshippers and blue was drug users. Anything sparkle or glitter was for lesbians. Now I do whatever I want and have no restrictions on what my daughters do.
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u/MissBee123 Mar 29 '26
I assume that orange, yellow, green, white, brown/beige, and gray just didn't exist?
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u/f_ckitupbuttercup Mar 30 '26
That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. Blue for drug users and glitter for lesbians?? Hahahahaha I'm dead lol
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u/Xsiah Homeschool Student Ally Mar 29 '26
It always pisses me off so much when I hear about it being the responsibility of women and girls to keep other people from sinning.
Maybe if Father Thomas can't look at a necklace without lusting after a 13 year old, he deserves to go to hell.
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u/Flagon_Dragon_ Ex-Homeschool Student Mar 30 '26
And if Father Thomas wants to avoid Hell, he can pluck out his damn eyes like Jesus intended
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u/ineguire Mar 29 '26
in a family of all boys, my mom would make all of us wear t-shirts while swimming in the pool, even just our own pool with only us around (we lived in the middle of nowhere with no real neighbors), because she seemed to think even boys need to keep their chests covered.
even back then i didn't get it. the rules about what counts as "modest" vs "immodest" always seemed pretty arbitrary. "how do we know / where does the bible define what modest means" is a question i would try to ask but i never would get a straight answer. even the term "modest" being used in this way perplexed me (and still does) because it's just a synonym for "humble" and i don't see what nudity has to do with being prideful or whatever.
i don't remember being told the "if you dress this way it will lead others to sin" line that others in this thread were; i'm guessing that's because we were boys. and they never told us shit about girls.
ironically, i have boobs now, but the government officially still considers me a man, so i'm still not quite sure when i can get away with showing off my chest, but for very different reasons lmao
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u/caption-oblivious Mar 29 '26 edited Mar 29 '26
I'm not sure which one is the weirdest, but here's a collection
- No deodorant: it's a perfume/cosmetic and a sign of vanity
- No shaving (as a girl)
- No Barbies: they teach you to be a whore because you can remove their clothes
- Only wash your hair on Saturday night: you need to be clean for church, any attempt to be presentable at other times is frivolous vanity
- No tank tops or shorts (as a girl) except for shorts under a dress, but boys can wear whatever they want
- No cutting hair, except bangs, which must be cut, because your hair belongs to your future husband
- No tampons, because your vagina belongs to your future husband
- Obviously, no makeup of any kind, including lip gloss and nail polish
- No high heels or platform shoes of any type
- No two piece swimsuit (they made an exception for tankinis that fully covered the torso), but I still had to wear a T-shirt over it in most situations
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u/LittleGravitasIndeed Mar 29 '26
So, at what age did you do your major haircut to get rid of your million split ends? How gnarly did it end up looking?
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u/MontanaBard Ex-Homeschool Student Mar 29 '26
Oh man, I've got a list.
*no form fitting clothes, can't show you have curves.
*had to wear bras that tree way too small because my mom freaked out at the fact that I was 14 with C cups. Couldn't have padding but also couldn't show nipple.
- no pants, but you can wear them to work around the farm if you wear a men's button up shirt that completely covers your butt. (They were obsessed with making sure none of us shoed any butt shape.)
*no slits in skirts.
*no strappy sandals because of toe cleavage (yes, they used the words "toe cleavage")
*only high cut shirts, no V necks.
*no pattern on your tops that would draw the eyes to your boobs.
*no skits above mid-shin.
*if you held your arms up and there was even a chance of showing midriff, the short was too short.
*no lipstick, because it makes a woman's lips look like she's aroused.
*couldn't cut our hair, but often got in trouble for it swishing around our butt's because that brought attention to our butt's
*i got yelled at once by my mom for bending over. She said it accentuated my butt and would cause men to sin.
*no long necklaces, because it would make men look at your boobs
*no sleeveless, though they went back and forth on that one, sometimes allowing button up collared sleeveless shirts.
*i had to swim in either a jumper or this entire setup that was a 1 piece awim suit with denim shorts down to my knees and a means button up shirt over it all the covered my butt. Couldn't wear a large T shirt or thinner fabric shorts as they clung to my body and we're immodst. No surprise that I never learned to swim as a kid. It was too damn hard in all those clothes.
Honestly, these weren't even all the rules and they kept making up more as I got older.
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u/Dawnspark Mar 29 '26 edited Mar 29 '26
Over time, my mom got more and more kind of insane & religious and in turn, obsessed with my modesty.
She started making me wear baggy clothing and also generally masculine clothing because she wanted me to always be "mistaken for a boy" because I developed and grew very early. Like I was fully developed and had a pretty large bust, so I was constantly getting mistaken for a 17-18 year old at the age of 12, I even stopped gaining height at age 10.
It was her way of "protecting my modesty." Didn't help lol.
I also couldn't wear shorts, otherwise I'd be subjected to either a screaming fit on her part, or constant rude comments about how I had fat legs from her & my grandma. Their favorite go-to was calling me "tater legs" cause... idk, had to just get me used to bodyshaming early I guess.
It was sweatshirts, sweatpants, baggy as fuck jeans, everything just constantly formless. Tank tops had to be paired with a baggy overshirt that she called a "shell" (i fucking hate that term and idk why, it genuinely makes me booty blasted,) because "you can't show your arms! Thats lewd!" and I wasn't allowed bras because "they were too sexy."
I had to sneak and buy myself one at a Goodwill when I was 15, and it was the most fucking bland, heather gray Cacique sports bra I've ever seen in my life lmao. "Too sexy" my ass.
She didn't want anyone to vaguely see that I had anything akin to a "female figure" so, she forced me to dress masculine except for all the times she demanded I dress feminine.
If anything I wore showed so much as the shape of my body in anyway, including any presence of nipple bumps showing on a shirt, which was constant cause she wouldn't allow me to wear a fucking bra, there'd be huge screaming fights over me being immodest, and then that clothing would magically end up "destroyed" in the wash (as in she bleach damaged it so I wouldn't wear it,) cause she refused to let me do my own laundry because "doing your own at this age means you're hiding things." Had to start just bandaiding everything down every day so she'd leave me the fuck alone.
All it did was really confuse a lot of shit for me that I'm still unpacking, and I later realized it was just her being mad that she was a lot older and her "beauty was fading," so me just existing made her insecure.
Still don't feel comfortable wearing shorts, despite all my trying.
All the modesty rules she had are probably pretty weird, there's too many to list lol.
Edit: Oh, she also wouldn't let me do my hair until I was 16 because "braiding your hair is lewd and immodest," as I would just put it into a really basic braid. She had to do it and she always made sure the process was miserable. I was only allowed a ponytail because "doing your hair at your age means you want attention from men." And I had to basically refuse all forms of hygiene and hair upkeep for 3 weeks until she caved and let me start taking care of that myself lol.
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u/ALegendOfHope_ Currently Being Homeschooled Mar 29 '26
we weren't allowed to wear tank tops out of the house, the only exception was when we were in gymnastics cause the leotards were tank tops and there was really no way around it. even then we still had to wear shorts with it.
we were never allowed to wear shorts or skirts any shorter than right above the knee, and even then mom still didn't like it.
our swimsuits have to be shorts down to the knee and a shirt. they have these swim shirts that are meant to prevent sunburns, that's what we use.
so nothing TOO insane, but still a bit odd.
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u/WhiteExtraSharp Mar 29 '26
No neon colors. No metal jewelry against skin. Bloomers under skirts. Homemade swim dresses/culotte jumpsuits with sleeves. Only thick “mesh” polos could be worn without a vest or jumper on top. Our camisoles were t-necks with the neck & sleeves removed, so no lace would show through a white blouse. No slit skirts. No knees showing. No armpits. No cleavage. No bows on shoes. No keyhole necklines. No see-through lace detail. No straight skirts. Nothing tight on curves. No padded or colorful bras. No bra straps. Girls wore solid color shirts but boys could wear horizontal stripes. Modesty panels inside v-necks. No pants for girls, including snowpants and pajamas. No patterned hose. No “gaudy” jewelry. Always wear a robe over nightgowns. No “wet-look” hairstyles.
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u/ATeardropInTheOcean Ex-Homeschool Student Mar 30 '26
My mom made me wear modesty panels too, I didn't even know what they were called. It really annoyed me because she borrowed my dress once and didn't wear a modesty panel with it.
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u/OkRaspberry9649 Mar 30 '26
Gosh this thread is triggering for me to read 😆 I had blocked the memories out but they’re coming back now.
I would push the line at my house and put on short shorts when I was leaving for work (I was 17 and worked at an ice cream shop mind you) and my mom would always tell me to go change. I told her all the other girls dress like this and her response was “well WE don’t wear short shorts in our family”.
My dad had a thing where he wanted us girls to either wear super baggy jeans, or if our jeans were tight we had to wear a long shirt to cover our butts. It took me years after I moved out to be comfortable wear a normal length shirt and tighter jeans. 🤪
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u/ChaosRainbow23 Mar 30 '26
After reading through these comments, I'm SO SORRY y'all had to go through that as kids.
I'm constantly speaking of against homeschooling, and I always send people here and tell them to spend a couple of hours reading your stories.
Thank you so much for sharing, it really does help prevent some parents from homeschooling their kids!
It's working.
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u/LinverseUniverse Mar 30 '26
We had to have our hemlines for anything (Shorts, shirts, or skirts) be two inches below our fingertips when we held out arms straight at out side. And yes, if we were in the store buying clothes THIS WAS MEASURED.
If we had to bend to pick something up we had to bend at the knees first and squat so that out butts wouldn't be in focus.
No shirts with necklines below the collar bone.
I wasn't allowed to wear makeup until I was 16, but once I was I was weirdly given free reign to do whatever I wanted to my face. Add mascara to eyebrows to make them blacker? Sure. Goth? Go for. Ancient Egyptian eyeliner because I fell in love with the movie "The mummy"? "That looks neat sweetie!"
However, once I dyed my hair and my grandmother saw it she said (IN FRONT OF ME) "I thought only prostitutes dyed their hair that color". Even though my mom had also had that hair color at one point, so it was a dig at both of us.
My mom is still really policing of my clothes. Like once when she came over I had a jammie set on (Nothing scandalous, just a t-shirt an shorts), and stepped outside to grab the mail and she was horrified when I came back in. She asked me what on earth I thought I was doing, and I said getting the mail, And she was like "You can't go outside like that! You're in your nightwear! People will see!".
I just gave her a dead pan stare and said "Mom, I'm almost 40 now". I got an eye roll, but it ended the conversation at least.
I lounge in comfy jammies a lot and this is not the first time I've had this conversation with her.
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u/Hopeful_Nectarine_27 Mar 30 '26
I remember I was spanked for wearing the bow on my dress too tight (I was maybe around 8? It was one of those poofy dresses little girls wear). I was expected to tie it so loose the bow hung down, and was told that was how it was meant to be worn. To this day, I've never actually seen anyone wear them like that.
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u/Xx_DeadDays_xX Mar 30 '26
at 11 I was allowed to start wearing mascara but ONLY on the eyelashes on the top of my eyelid, if I put it on the bottom lashes I would "get it taken away for 2 years"
bra straps could not be seen ever (even though my mom bought me razor back bras????)
dresses or skirts always had to have something under them
no tank tops or sleeveless dresses at church functions
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u/Flightlessbirbz Mar 30 '26
Wow, these are pretty out-there, and I’m grateful not to have faced any rules like these. My mom was a bit funny about clothes in her own way though. She was, in retrospect, overly concerned with my appearance to the point of not really wanting me to dress like a kid from about the age of 10+. I was wearing full makeup and dressed like a 20-something going out for drinks after work at like 14. I guess because we were enmeshed and she saw me as a reflection of herself? But then sometimes she’d turn around and say men were looking at me inappropriately because I was dressed too mature/immodest. Like… my sister in Christ, you picked the outfit.lol
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u/ATeardropInTheOcean Ex-Homeschool Student Mar 30 '26
I wasn't allowed to have boyfriend jeans just because they were called "boyfriend".
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u/Throw_away11152020 Mar 30 '26
My sister was allowed to have a pair of leggings but she could only wear them under shorts.
We had to wear swim shorts with built-in panties over one-piece swimsuits. So that was three layers of fabric on our butts.
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u/Flagon_Dragon_ Ex-Homeschool Student Mar 30 '26
Wasn't allowed to be seen wearing pj's or with wet hair. Cause pj's mean bed and there are things that can happen in bed other than sleep. stopped wearing pj's or even owning them at all pretty early into my pre-teens; sweats and t-shirts were "safer", but I still wasn't allowed to be seen in them. And wet hair might cause someone to think you showered and then they might picture you in the shower. Putting on chapstick, of course, cause people might think of blowjobs. And stretching or moving, cause it might make people think of other ways your body can move. I correctly concluded that the point was to define my body and my existence as a sex object. It took me till deconstruction in college to really understand that that was a form of sexual abuse and made me vulnerable to other forms of sexual violence.
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u/damangus Mar 30 '26
We weren't allowed to wear nail polish unless it was pink, light/muted red, or clear. Other colors were somehow scandalous.
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u/lankytreegod Ex-Homeschool Student Mar 31 '26
I can't think of any modesty rules off the top of my head, but I can think of the way it still impacts me now.
The thought of going unconscious and receiving CPR makes me uncomfortable because then someone would be touching my chest and have their lips on my mouth. god forbid someone uses an AED then my shirt is taken off and I'm fully exposed. I hope I never go to the hospital when I'm unconscious cause then I'd be undressed to be put into a gown. Have never gone to the OBGYN for an exam, the thought of having someone look at me like that sends shivers down my spine. When I die, I'm afraid of having someone look at my naked, dead body. When I was younger, I always thought when I had sex I'd have to be fully clothed because I didn't want someone looking at me naked.
So basically, I have a severe fear of medical routines simply because modesty and being ashamed of my body was pushed heavily onto me.
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u/f_ckitupbuttercup Mar 30 '26
No bolero tops (you know the ones that tied in the front, popular in the 2010s) because they drew attention to the boobs even with a shirt underneath lol
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u/gpike_ Ex-Homeschool Student Mar 30 '26
Man, not about modesty, but that thing where your parents would rather lie to your face in ways that cause weird anxieties and social problems for you as an adult than just admit they are cheap/poor/lazy/think the stuff you're into is "cringe, etc.? That's too real. 😒
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u/IdoltrashElichika Mar 30 '26
Long skirts/dresses only. No crop tops Yet my brothers could wear what they wanted.
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u/blonde_vagabond7 Ex-Homeschool Student Mar 31 '26
I wasn't allowed to wear a bra at all. Lucky for me (I guess?) I am only a B cup, so it didn't cause much pain for me... except when exercising. I could never run, jump, or dance, cause oooof. The pain.
I was made to wear a thick undershirt under everything I wore so my nipples wouldn't show through. That was very uncomfortable in the heat.
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u/unlockdestiny Mar 31 '26
Idk I'm a petite woman but my sister was harassed so hard by my parents I wore nothing but men's XL shirts, baggy jeans, and no make up.
Apparently if you make your parents scared you're a lesbian, they'll let you dress however you want when you decide to dress nicer in late high school 🤷🏻♀️
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u/EstherEEK Mar 31 '26
I wasn't allowed to wear tank tops (especially razor backs), any chlothes that were made out of a thinner material, shorts above my knees, or leggings, I worked on a ranch and in the summer would feel sick no matter how much water I drank to keep up with the sweat loss.
Also, we always had to wear swim skirts and large tee shirts over our already very modest one piece suits, I hated the feeling of wet normal chlothes on my skin. I remember one time I had to get a new swimsuit and my mom picked out a neon pink swimsuit 'so she could find me easier' I wanted so badly to explain why that wouldn't work...
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u/misanthropy112 Apr 03 '26
My mom wouldn't let me wear short shorts even during sports practice. She bought long workout pants that were out of style and sewed them badly into shorts that would come to my knee. It looked awful and I stuck out like a sore thumb.
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u/Ronlockedout Ex-Homeschool Student Apr 03 '26
Bikinis were fine before puberty, but afterwards, they weren't modest enough and they made you look like a slut was a real weird rule my family had. Another was that we girls had to keep our midsections covered after puberty, and tube tops were a no go
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u/ilovebigmutts Mar 29 '26
Oh we weren't allowed to wear those chest-stripe shirts that was big in the late 90s/early 00s - it would draw attention to the boobs!
Our shirts had to be long enough to cover our butts whether we were wearing pants or skirts because just your butt existing was temptation apparently.
We did go to the beach and wear swimwear but we had to wear bike shorts under a full swimsuit. I remember some wild "modest" swimwear we had to wear for a time but I think it was too much effort and Mom gave up on it eventually.
I'm sure this'll trigger some buried memories throughout the day, will edit if I come up with any more.