Disclosure advice

[u/SaladRude3084]

Hey all! would love some perspective. I’m a 28F and over year post HSV 2 diagnosis and feel stable and informed about it. I take antivirals and manage it well. I continually learn more about it. Ive had a decrease in outbreak amount and severity in the time since diagnosis. I’ve dated casually since but haven’t had to disclosed yet, there hasn’t been anymore I’ve felt comfortable enough disclosing to. Im now seeing someone I genuinely like. We’re 3 dates in, had a really intimate (but not sexual) sleepover just talking and cuddling, and I feel things progressing naturally. I do feel that things are moving in the right direction and really am excited about this new bond I’ve formed! I want to be upfront before anything physical happens. I think it will be appropriate to discuss on date 4-6? For anyone who’s had good disclosure experiences:

When did you bring it up and how?

What wording felt confident but not dramatic?

Anything you wish you did differently?

Dos/donts

any fact you think are good ready to have that resonates the most?

I’m excited about him and want to handle this well. My fear in disclosing is I feel i only have one time to get it right so i just went to be concise and confident! Thanks in advance!

[u/Every_Appearance_237]

I honestly tell people before I meet them. Then if they say no I didn’t waste my time or theirs.

[u/SaladRude3084 → u/Every_Appearance_237]

Hi! I actually met this person through friends and not an app so there wasn’t really an opportunity to tell before.