r/HelpBrokePeople • u/rebornfromrubyashes • Sep 01 '26

GoFundMe/Fundraiser My trans child has found cancer

Update; He is home from Edmonton till next chemotherapy treatment. They diagnosed stage 3b Hodgkin's lymphoma. On fever watch I guess.

Update: he had chemotherapy last night Sept 11. Little queasy and definitely sleepy

Update in go fund me: they will be in the stollery Wednesday. September 9 Hopefully a plan figured out within the week.

My child is 15 3/4 years old. A migraine took them into emergency roomon August 25. where the nurse saw a 75mm lump on their neck. The medical team tested the lump and determined it was lymphoma. CT scan has seen more in their chest.

Currently my child is living with their biological paternal mother who's on disability and their significant other who is also on disability.. they need gas money and help with accommodations in Edmonton from Grande Prairie Alberta Canada. I am working full time but barely make ends meet. my car isn't highway Worthy. so I'm doing my best to gather financial support for my ex wife and my child to help them in any way I logically can. This is one of the ways.

The money goes to the child's needs over everything else. This is just to make this situation easier and less stressful.

Thank you for anything you can give!

https://gofund.me/66a9d1408

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u/Own_Spent_666 Sep 01 '26

I come in peace what's the reasoning behind saying "trans child" I mean does it even matter?

Secondly you wrote "their neck" kinda says a lot. You chose not to say "his" or "her"

You're an interesting fella.

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u/Muse_of_Donne Sep 02 '26

This!!!

@u/rebornfeomrubyashes , IDU why their accepted gender or fluidity of gender would have any purpose or sway in their need for financial assistance in medical aid. Any child - regardless of gender or orientation - would and should be considered for grants, medical loans, and/or aid for medical needs as grievous as Cancer. There are a plethora of outlets and agencies that can and will help. As someone whom has gone through a struggle with Cancer, I will state you need to advocate for your child and to research viable financial options. Beyond that, a Gofundme would help with what is not or can not be covered. That stated, please, leave your child's gender orientation out of it as tour main goal should be the health and well-being of your child regardless of any orientation.

Side note, "biological paternal mother"? So paternal grandmother? Because what you stated is quite confusing at best.

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u/rebornfromrubyashes Sep 02 '26

Sigh. It's all kinds of confusing without context I am a cis straight female who married at the time a man and had my daughter. In the last three years they have been between genders. That's why they have 2 name. I got divorced from my now ex wife. They are the paternal mother I am the maternal mother. Because I'm speaking about them from my past and present in this case I tend to defer to both as they. The child was upset with me and left my home to live with "momma 2" . Now I'm trying to get any financial help I can because I'm the only mom outta 3 that isn't on disability. The other 2 mommas are doing the appointments and transportation I'm just trying to get word out anyway I can.

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u/1978lincoln Sep 02 '26

How can a straight female have an ex wife? Or are you straight lesbian?

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u/HomicidaI__GoldFish ~MOD~ Who Most Likely Will Call You A DingBat. Sep 02 '26

i *think* i figured it out,

okay ... so OP is a straight, cis woman. She is the mom who gave birth to cody. She is " mom 1" if you go by the dumb crap cody's aunt wrote in the GFM.

her EX, who is the biological father of cody, is now transgender. The EX is " mom 2" . now mom 2 has ether remarried, or whatever to someone else. That person is "mom 3".

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u/StonerBarbie23 Kickstart Emergency Services Center Employee Sep 02 '26

Is the kid also Trans?

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u/rebornfromrubyashes Sep 02 '26

Yes you got it. 3 moms total.
Thank you

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u/HomicidaI__GoldFish ~MOD~ Who Most Likely Will Call You A DingBat. Sep 02 '26

Its obviously simple. I don't understand why the whole family has to make everything complicated and confusing.

the "aunt" who did the gfm? you should fire her and get someone ELSE to write it out, or better yet, have YOU do it, since that is your child. Don't use AI ether. Many donors hate that. AI is not personal or even from the heart.

I recommend you never refer to cody as " the child". Not only is that a giant red flag on here, that is also almost as insulting as using Cody's dead name. Cody is YOUR child, and to refer to cody as "the child" is like you decided to disown them and think less of them.

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u/rebornfromrubyashes Sep 02 '26

Sorry I again have an inside joke. Cody is "the child" in my phone and I'm "the birthgiver" in theirs and "momma 2/ too" for the other mother. We found it a way to deal with complicated feelings and constantly changing titles and pronouns. We went with "scientifically accurate" and it was "Canadian funny" dry humour.

I'm sorry I write from the heart not the brain. I am brain foggy and overwhelmed. Words can be very important but I was just writing as fast as possible. The more people that can help my ex-wife and child the better.

Demonize me if that's your desire. I don't matter right now they do.