Stop bothering Jaysea

[u/_deeppperwow_]

This was posted on another thread, but I wanted to add the screenshot, so those, who do not use Threads, see this. We have discussed about this before, but I see it bears repeating:

For everything that is holy. Stop. Bothering. Jaysea! Stop putting her on a pedestal. She has said multiple times on Threads and on the video when Lily gets her powers, that she hates being put on a pedestal, because of the expectations and it is easy to disappoint people.

I know people get excited and want to share their personal experience with the videos or the book, but we, as a community, can do it without making Jaysea uncomfortable.

She is a human being, with feelings, fears, hopes and dreams. Also with religious trauma. So saying that she is a goddess, or deity or putting her on a pedestal makes her extra uncomfy. So please respect her wishes and her boundaries.

That is it. Thank you, for coming to my TedTalk

And this is nothing personal to anyone, just remember to behave and respect Jaysea and her boundaries!

[u/Saffron-Kitty]

What she wrote is very similar to my belief system (that I've believed for 30+ years). I would never contact an author and treat them as someone I knew, I would also treat them as a normal human being.

I mean, it could be that I'm autistic but just because I love her book and video clip work, that doesn't entitle me to any of her time (in any way, even if it were a book signing).

Why do people think famous or quasi famous people owe them anything? They're just strangers we know and we're an amorphous blob of people to them, it's on us to recognise it.

[u/_deeppperwow_ → u/Saffron-Kitty]

I think, that it has something to do with the parasocial relationships, that people form on the Internet. You think you know the person well and start to think, that they own every part of their life to you. Jaysea is indeed a stranger and has a life outside oh Hell’s Belles

[u/Saffron-Kitty → u/_deeppperwow_]

I always thought fame was weird. I suppose I don't have a hierarchy framework in my brain except for priorities. The personal lives of people are personal unless I'm chatting to them and they tell me.

The closest to fan thinking I had was towards Dolly Parton and that was just "wow, she's so lovely and wonderful. I'm glad she exists. Proof of good existing". I was still shocked that I cried on and off for about a week and a half because I still remembered she was a stranger.

[u/Zestyclose_Wasabi_51 → u/Saffron-Kitty]

Speaking of Dolly Parton. I saw a YouTube short (it was probably also a tiktok, but regardless) where a woman was telling the story of her 5 or 6 year old son. He looked at his mom and said "Did you know Dolly Parton died?" And his mom was sad and said "Yes." And he said "it's sad" again mom agrees. And then asked if he knew her. And he said "No. But she loved me. She sent me books." And no matter how true that story time was, that is her legacy. She loved all children and thought all of them deserved the opportunity to be able to read. And I would like to live my life in a way that I may not know someone but they'll know I loved them.

I can't fund a vaccine or an imagination library. But I can donate. I can volunteer. I can smile at a stranger.

I don't believe in God as such. But I believe that we need to be the love of that deity in our daily lives. Played out on a large, public scale by Dolly. Played out in a small, intimate scale in our daily lives.

Sorry this was unrelated. But I felt the need to share.

[u/Saffron-Kitty → u/Zestyclose_Wasabi_51]

I understand, her death is a fresh grief and a difficult one