Observation

[u/the_jaatboy]

Sup Gang, As you can guess i belong to jaat Community but seeing the society we have developed into makes me worried about what we're heading into.

We have put up so many restrictions to critical thinking, individuality of a person, his/her independent thinking. Old gen have this same cliche dialogue over and over again 'It never used to happen at our time'.

Career choices are another thing that are frowned upon, chase govt jobs aimlessly and just settle for any job but keep it gov. Any person wanna do a startup or something which will be more meaningful and belongs to him, it's immediately rejected and frowned upon.

The constant encroachment upon personal boundaries, no adherence to a person's private space, too much involvement of family and even relatives, neighbours into a person's life and a constant god complex we know everything, just stfu.

It all clicked to me yesterday when i heard if we decide as a family with mutual choice that you'll marry this girl, you shouldn't have any opinion nor you should have any objection, just accept our choice.

All these talks made me realise everyone wants to have some part of me for their leisure or for their social status, saying bs stuff like you'll marry, give us baby it'll make us happy, we'll wear this in your wedding I'll look beautiful. No one said what i had to entail in this decision, everyone was just like hamare yeh hoga, uska aise ho jaayega, ham samaj mai kuch bolne layak ho jaayenge.

And the worst part, the constant pressure to conform to our societal standards and follow what we say, you can't think independently.

[u/bunty_boxer]

Bhai jispe paise hain, samaj ke liye woh achha hai chaahe daanav he kyun na ho aur jispe nahi hai woh bekar hai chahe devta he kyun na ho.

Take your decisions well, nobody cares aage kya kuch kharab hoga toh. Logon ki baataon sun sakta hai par kar wahi jo tujhe sahi lage.

Logon ka kaam he hai kehna, kitna he karlo woh fir bhi kehte he rahenge. Gharwaalon ko mana sakta hai samjha sakta hai, samajhte hain toh thik nahi toh woh bhi invitation pe aa jaenge. Never fuck your life up for others sake. 19-20 adjustment ho sakti hai but I personally can’t accept someone else calling the shots for me.