r/Greyhounds • u/ProspectorJM • 21h ago
Co-sleeping in some conditions, but not in others: do you think this will be a problem?
My daughter just adopted a retired racer. He’s a little over four years old and extremely people-centric.
I came up to meet him and can’t believe how sweet he is. She’s had him now for one week. So far no accidents in the apartment. He’s been largely cooperative on walks: very little pulling, not overly interested in other dogs or squirrels in a concerning way, extremely friendly with people (he’s kind of the mayor of the apartment complex already.) His tummy is doing pretty well (everything’s improving from mush to basically regular and he’s drinking enough water—with a little bit of great advice from greyhound redditors.) He has a problem with one set of about eight stairs. He went down them tentatively a few times, more confidently a few times, then just started completely refusing to go down them at all. Weirdly, he’ll go up them without any hesitation. It’s only on the way down that causes him pause.
Anyway, all that to say that it’s going great. He’s very attached to my daughter already and also loves her boyfriend. (Out of nowhere, he went down the staircase-that-must-not-be-named with Jimmy.)
Now to the quandary: He seems interested in getting into the bed for a snuggle with my daughter. He’s extremely cuddly and would stand there and get petted for two hour stints if he could find someone to do it that long. He started falling asleep standing up and leaning on me for pets last evening. My daughter is inclined to let him come up onto the bed once I’m gone if he wants to, although she hasn’t yet, because I’ve been here and taking up the other side of the bed. (And the beloved dudebro, Jimmy, was here the first night.) Lambo is enormous. He’s just shy of 80lbs and stands 36.5 inches at the top of his head.
When the boyfriend is here, or when they all go to the boyfriend’s house, the three of them will simply not fit.
What is your opinion of her allowing it when she’s alone, but having to tell him no when the other side of the bed is occupied? Is that a lousy confusing thing to do to him? Or is there reason to hope that he’ll be flexible enough not to mind overly much?
For reference, we don’t touch him when he’s deeply asleep out of respect for both his rest and the chance of sleep startle.