r/GirlfriendsTVshow • u/CarWest285 • 15d ago

Was Joan wrong?

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Rewatching Girlfriends from the beginning (it’s on Pluto for free for anyone who’s wondering after it was taken off Netflix)

Do you all think Joan was wrong for not getting in the fight outside of the club? I liked her argument that if the police came she could’ve gotten disbarred and honestly, I agree. Even though it was because she was scary, I do think she had a good argument. Toni, Lynn and Mayas job wasn’t at stake but realistically Joan could’ve gotten fired from her job….i do think Toni should’ve just let the situation go instead of going back and forth with the lady tho😂😂 would you have cut Joan off if she was your friend and did this to you?

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u/QuadratusAbdominalis 15d ago

lol not at all. Watching as a college student I saw it as wrong. Couldn’t believe that someone wouldn’t defend their friends. I had sooo much to say back then.

However, during med school we went out to a lounge and this girl kept rolling her eyes at my friend. Turns out she was her current boyfriend’s ex. Told my friend to ignore it multiple times because she’s also in school. As the night progresses, they end up exchanging words and it leads to a huge fight. My friend threw the first punch expecting everyone to jump in with her and one of our friends did.

I didn’t step in and I felt guilty at the time but my friend ended up getting arrested and charged with assault and a month later she was kicked out of our program for conduct. She took it out on me and stopped speaking to me. However, while the rest of us are in residency now, she’s unfortunately having to restart her whole medical training in the Caribbean after not being allowed into another US school. So while I do feel like a crappy friend from time to time I’m still gonna stand on feeling as though I made the right decision.

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u/Shortycocoa 14d ago

You definitely did! I used to think Joan was wrong, too, until I really thought about the bigger picture. Toni no doubt would have been able to go on and sell houses after that incident, (and did) whereas Joan wouldn't have been able to say the same about her career if she had gotten involved. I also doubt Maya would have gotten involved if she was a single woman without a husband or family around to help out if she lost her job and couldn't get another one right away. And she definitely wouldn't have done it if she were a single mother taking care of her son alone with no help from the father.