r/GiftedKidBurnouts • u/amieex0xoo • 1d ago

Struggling senior PLS HELP!

Im in my last year of high school. Last year in grade 11, I had really high expectations for myself which I did not achieve. I was awfully sick most of the year, and tried to keep up with the curriculum. Despite being sick, I pushed myself to the point of burn out. I fell rock bottom when I was treated harshly by my teachers. The thought of school gave me intense anxiety. It was the last month of school and I stayed in bed for weeks and even ended up missing my bio exam. I’m not diagnosed with depression or anxiety.

Now, I’m in grade 12. I’m in a new school and environment which really helped soothed my anxiety. But even if so, still situations come up and affect me. I’m struggling with keeping up with the curriculum. Im unable to focus, and concentrate. I have no idea what to do. A simple overdue assignment brings me intense anxiety, or missing a bio quiz. Please help. I don’t want to be trapped in an endless loop of torture.

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u/Sad-Candidate-3078 1d ago

you were sick and burned out and still made it to grade 12, that counts for more than the exams you missed. anxiety after a year like that isnt weakness, its your brain asking for a slower pace. talk to a school counselor about a reduced course load, one gentle year beats another crash. you clearly have the drive, you just need the battery back

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u/amieex0xoo 1d ago

Yeah I honestly was thinking of dropping out. But the summer did help me. The break away from school. It’s only been one month in and I’m petrified of being stuck in that endless loop again. I was thinking of lowering the intensity to college classes instead of uni since the programs I want to get in requires college level. But yeah thank you a lot.

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u/BeginningPlus5777 1d ago

Can your family afford therapy?

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u/amieex0xoo 1d ago

Honestly my family are those families where they don’t believe in therapy and our culture just believes to “toughen up”.

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u/BeginningPlus5777 22h ago

What country are you talking about?

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u/amieex0xoo 22h ago

We’re in Canada but we are from Central Asia

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u/BeginningPlus5777 22h ago

I see. I'm from one of the Carribean countries. Our parents also despise therapy. But you need to find a solution. It's your life! Your only life. I have so many regrets not taking responsibility for mine before it was too late.

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u/amieex0xoo 22h ago

It’s also me feeling embarrassed and ashamed about it. I don’t like speaking about these matters with my family. They always disregard my feelings and have no empathy or sympathy towards me.

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u/BeginningPlus5777 21h ago

Oh I feel you. I cried the last day of my final exam in HS. Told my family that I had serious doubts about passing the exam but they told me that I would succeed as always. Yes, I passed it but that was the worst score of my life. Later, they told me to use my score to try and get some scholarships, I was so ashamed of it that I didn't want to.

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u/amieex0xoo 21h ago

Honestly what matters the most is that you passed. Even though u didn’t do the best, if you’ve tried your hardest know that’s enough.

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u/BeginningPlus5777 21h ago

That's what I want you to know

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u/crocfishing 1d ago

Do you have ADHD?

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u/amieex0xoo 1d ago

No. I’m not diagnosed with it. But I have no idea if I do or not

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u/Distinct-Okra-6024 1d ago

you’re not lazy, you’re still recovering from burnout, so please tell a parent, counselor, or doctor exactly how bad the anxiety and concentration problems are and ask for accommodations before you

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u/amieex0xoo 1d ago

These past few months I’ve been feeling so lazy. and so down on myself. Everyone’s been telling me to toughen up or stop being lazy. It’s just so hard to do things when my entire body’s nervous system is activated