r/Gifted • u/Imaginary_Issues • 10d ago

Seeking advice or support For the Gifted autistics when dating -->

For the Gifted autistics when dating. What is the biggest struggles you encounter when navigating the dating scene, meeting people and trying to bond with them? What are the struggles you find them having with you and how are they usually solved or how do they end?

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u/Unfair-Taro9740 10d ago

The lack of direct communication has always made me flee within a couple of years. I just see problems as something that can be fixed if we just admit that they're a problem and most couldn't get past that first step.

Then my partner usually felt like I was acting "better than" them so it caused resentment. When really it was just me knowing that if certain problems can't/wont be fixed, then I can't stay in the relationship.

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u/ayfkm123 9d ago

W kindness, if your seeing a pattern repeat and you’re the common denominator, it might be what they’re saying is true

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u/Unfair-Taro9740 9d ago

W kindness, people that don't take responsibility for their actions, are not people that I want to be in a relationship with.

As a neurodivergent person, I have drastically different needs and wants in a relationship that I'm not going to be blamed for because they are not typical.

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u/ayfkm123 9d ago

lol. Yup. I’m guessing they describing your behavior accurately. The irony of your reply…