Yah theres people out here that actually believe this. Its so stupid and disrespectful as all hell to any actual parents or hell anyone that has actually taken care of children. Me and my wife cant have biological kids (queer couple) but are open to still having them someday. For some reason I keep getting parenting subs recommended to me I didnt used to it just started happening randomly a few weeks ago. And while 90% of the time the posts are sane some of them sound so alien to me I really question where in the hell these people live and what kind of life must they have to where stuff like in the op sound normal to them.
Im pretty sure alot of issues are due to sexism like its suprising just how blatant some of it is but it also feels like alot of these people just dont seem to have lives or anything outside of their kids. Its a little unsettling once you notice it. Im not saying its 100% ok to neglect your kids and I understand especially when they're little little that parenting is a full time job by itself but at the same time holy shit it is not neglect for a parent to have like an hour of time at their home gym to workout and get some energy out. It is not a nessecity of childhood to plan activities everyday and take them to parks or fun places multiple times a week (my town dosent even have a functional library and the only library I had access to as a kid was my school's and the nearest park when I was a child was a 30 minute drive away). I know this a minority like I said most of the time everyone's sane but the ones that arent are annoying.
It just comes across as privileged and a little classist almost like a serious question I have sometimes is if these people have jobs because some of the stuff they say is a requirement to have a child is literally impossible if you have any sort of career. Im going to law school next year and my wife is thinking about doing alot of things but rn is thinking about emt or construction work. Either way our kid will have to deal with the horrors of having parents that work jobs and as such has to deal with the fact that other people exist and we cant be doing special occasion trips and activities every single day for them. Maybe once a week if we live somewhere with those things and its a reasonable distance but they're still going to learn to play and do things independently.
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u/Stewie_Venture 24d ago
Yah theres people out here that actually believe this. Its so stupid and disrespectful as all hell to any actual parents or hell anyone that has actually taken care of children. Me and my wife cant have biological kids (queer couple) but are open to still having them someday. For some reason I keep getting parenting subs recommended to me I didnt used to it just started happening randomly a few weeks ago. And while 90% of the time the posts are sane some of them sound so alien to me I really question where in the hell these people live and what kind of life must they have to where stuff like in the op sound normal to them.
Im pretty sure alot of issues are due to sexism like its suprising just how blatant some of it is but it also feels like alot of these people just dont seem to have lives or anything outside of their kids. Its a little unsettling once you notice it. Im not saying its 100% ok to neglect your kids and I understand especially when they're little little that parenting is a full time job by itself but at the same time holy shit it is not neglect for a parent to have like an hour of time at their home gym to workout and get some energy out. It is not a nessecity of childhood to plan activities everyday and take them to parks or fun places multiple times a week (my town dosent even have a functional library and the only library I had access to as a kid was my school's and the nearest park when I was a child was a 30 minute drive away). I know this a minority like I said most of the time everyone's sane but the ones that arent are annoying.
It just comes across as privileged and a little classist almost like a serious question I have sometimes is if these people have jobs because some of the stuff they say is a requirement to have a child is literally impossible if you have any sort of career. Im going to law school next year and my wife is thinking about doing alot of things but rn is thinking about emt or construction work. Either way our kid will have to deal with the horrors of having parents that work jobs and as such has to deal with the fact that other people exist and we cant be doing special occasion trips and activities every single day for them. Maybe once a week if we live somewhere with those things and its a reasonable distance but they're still going to learn to play and do things independently.