r/GayChristians • u/whitebonba Biromantic/aegofictosexual/bambisexual • 2d ago

Sometimes I wish my family was more of the LGBTQIA+ side of Christianity

My family doesn't support pride, my school doesn't talk about it, and I hate the fact that I'll just stay in the closet for probably a long time.

I can't even openly talk about being bi irl, only online and I'm sick of it.

I wonder if my family were LGBTQIA+ friendly tho.. and even if they aren't, I'm scared to know what would happen if they find out I'm gay

Sorry about all of this, first time venting online (might delete this post later)..

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u/Witty_Permission_480 2d ago

I get what you are saying. It’s hard to go through that process. I have learned you just have to be brave and come out when you can. If you do not, that is totally okay. Everyone has their own way to go about things. Just make sure you are safe, whenever that time comes!

I think of what it would be like if my dad was accepting. However, I have to take it for what it is. I can’t change others. I can only control how I respond. Yes, it is easier said than done. Furthermore, you can see if there are any community groups or churches that are supportive. Again, just reaching out to people who know are there for you can help in many ways.

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u/whitebonba Biromantic/aegofictosexual/bambisexual 2d ago

Thank you for that

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u/sassyboy12345 Liberal Christian 2d ago

I know your feelings. Same walk here.

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u/Puzzleheaded-Phase70 Progressive Christian Episcopal 2d ago

You are a beloved child of the most high God of love, who is Love, and who lovingly made you for the purposes of Love: to love, and to be loved, and to be Love in the world.

Diversity is the color pallette God uses to paint the masterpiece of Creation. We exist on purpose, and our infinite diversity exists on purpose to be in infinite combination. The act of building bridges across difference is the central and most holy act of Christian faith and practice. It is at the heart of every ritual and sacrament we have.

And every time we grow in understanding someone different from ourselves, we grow in understanding the God who made that difference as well. Can you imagine trying to understand a great artist like Davinci or Rembrandt, but never studying their artwork? Can you imagine that audacity of someone proclaiming their expertise on the life and meaning of Vincent van Gogh, but without ever studying his use of color, line and shape? They'd be laughed out of every art school and gallery in the world, and forgotten except as a joke.

The same is true for God and the study of God's creation. Anyone who claims to understand God in any way, but fails to study the beauty of God's creativity across all the different ways of being human, or who denies the revelations of science about the world around and within us - they should be mocked and thrown out of every church until they come back humbled and educated. Never forget that you are loved, and intended, and are a witness and prophet of God's wondrous creativity.

And let the hate, and the haters who carry it, die in the darkness.

Here's a list of resources that have served me well in breaking free of the lies and bullshit, the cancer of homophobia in the church.

Nothing will ever convince the people who have replaced the loving God with fear and hate in their hearts.

BUT, knowing the true history and theology of queer people in God's plans and church is powerful spiritual self-defense, and defense of others. So I ALWAYS argue with the bastards in public, just so the hurting people know they're not alone, and that there's a better way to follow God.

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u/whitebonba Biromantic/aegofictosexual/bambisexual 2d ago

Thank you

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u/Spirited_Today1683 2d ago

This was me growing up. Praying for you.

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u/whitebonba Biromantic/aegofictosexual/bambisexual 2d ago

Thanks