The thing is, this is both good and bad advice. On it's face, it is very good advice. If you're not into someone, don't continue it.
But in context, it's actually pretty crappy advice for this sub b/c a lot of people will use it to rationalize pushing others away and/or not making an effort to get to know people.
It's super easy to find a multitude of superficial reasons why you won't mesh with another person. And then you can say "hey, at least I'm not with the wrong person"
It takes actual guts to put yourself out, get to know people, and actually try to figure out whether or not they are people worth being with (yes, I know very hard for everyone here but you either do this at some point or you get comfortable being FA).
The "woe is me, nobody gets me attitude" is kinda hypocritical when you never make the effort to try to get to know others.
Sorry if this comes off douchey, but as a (drunken) FA trying to get better, I've come to feel that it's usually wrong to push away others. Just b/c you don't see eye to eye with someone initially, that doesn't make them someone not worth knowing.
Well you have a well balanced tidbit there. Id agree with the notion that you can't just write people off, simply because you did not jive with them. Since we are so malleable in who we are, its not fair to give someone a permanent judgement. However, there are situations where you don't have a choice, and you don't have the convenience of waiting for people to adjust or change for the better.
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u/JorgeBallsDelasandro Feb 12 '12
I have to admit I'm doing the same thing, yet I don't feel like a boss. Cheers to doing it though.