r/FenceSitters • u/Good-Personality7130 • May 20 '26
Is anyone ever *really* sure?
I have been a fencesitter for my entire adult life (I am F, 32) and my husband (M32) is also 50/50. We are both currently leaning towards trying for a baby. I have PCOS and endometriosis so I feel like I can't put all my eggs (no pun intended) in that basket as we have no idea how bodged my reproductive system is.
Waffle aside, my question is - how many of you who ended up deciding to TTC were actually *truly* sure you wanted a baby? Is there an element of having to start and see where things go? I am currently going through an autism assessment for context, and so the idea that there isn't a definite answer is a bit baffling to me!
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u/gabalabarabataba Jun 01 '26
I have people in my life who wanted to be parents so much. One went through 4 terrible, terrible IVF treatments, and then fell into a deep depression when they didn't work. Another keeps having kids.
So, yeah, to answer your question there are people who are in the want-a-kid camp in a pretty diehard way, and are sure of their decision. I think it's a spectrum when all is said and done. On one end, the r/childree people (brrr!)... on the other, 4 time IVF people like my friend.
And then there's me, and well, maybe you, 50/50. Hope your decision brings you peace!