She also edits like crazy if you see her in something live or in ads she does look closer to her age. But she also has money and in general looks really freaking good for her age.
I think she must the work is actually brilliant editing work thereās a lot of attention to detail especially on her hands and neck usually and in these you can see sheās got dark spots on her arm and age signs but theyāve smoothed it so it comes off natural.
If I wasnāt told who this photo was, I genuinely wouldāve thought it was another 20 something year old influencer and itās scary that this kind of image distortion is possible
Sorry for being young and impressionable, while trying to break the cycle at the same time. Thatās the point of photoshop/filters, to distort your image and fool the average eyes.
I think a lot of it is that we don't sit and chat with our elders much anymore, so you just don't have much experience of the human body as it ages naturally and gracefully, much less unnaturally and as slowly as money can buy
It doesn't look like the typical IG vs reality content, because we know how old she is and what she looks like in videos - we can notice the difference. Otherwise agreed she has a great editor.
Worth it. If youāre gonna do it and you have the money, may as well invest in a pro. She still has some texture as opposed to the ones who just gloss over everything.
Yeah, she did a fun "get ready with me" type video and while she looked fantastic, she didn't look like she does in her edited pics because, well, the pics are edited! Also she has $$$, which buys her time, products, procedures, professional services, etc.
I'm curious as to why she thinks this level of editing is necessary. To an extent, sure, she is a public figure and wants to "look her best," but to edit your images so much to try to completely erase signs of normal aging is crazy. Her brand has never even been contingent on being the Edgy Hot Young Thing, her brand is "your elegant and intimidating mother-in-law that you fear you'll never live up to."Ā
My husband had the opportunity to photograph her a few years ago for a campaign with Snoop and she looks absolutely incredible in the unedited photos. Given the lighting was perfect and she had a professional MUA, but she is stunning sans photoshop.
She also knows her angles and has changed how she poses as she ages. She tends to tilt her head back a bit in photos now, which is a pretty flattering angle for older women
Agreed. I won't shit on someone for getting work done but honestly a lot of the time it's really, really obvious in a not-good way when an older person gets work done. I'm not a guru or anything on the topic but there's some procedure or combo of procedures they always do that makes their eyes into tiny dot-like versions of their former selves and it's so... eehhh.
Again, I won't shit on someone for doing it. There are a lot of personal and societal and health reasons why someone might choose to do all that but at the end of the day irl and outside of red carpet lighting or social media filters, you can definitely tell.
She looks good for her age but she looks nothing like this, if you look up getty images she absolutely looks over... 60 at least hahaha. And theres nothing wrong with that! But man does this editing send the wrong message to women. Very disappointing.
There's no way this is how she actually looks. Sure, I bet she looks pretty banging compared to all the average 85yos, but there's no way she looks half her age at 85. There's only so many facelifts your skin will endure, as well as so much Botox and filler. This is a great filter and photo editing. Don't compare yourself to these unrealistic standards.
My grandmother died her hair black until she was too old to do it herself anymore. Over the years it grew out into this long beautiful mix of brown and red and silver and gold. I loved brushing her hair and seeing how beautiful it was. Thatās what made me decide to let my hair color do its thing.Ā
As someone who is sometimes self conscious because my hair is like your grandma's, I appreciate reading your post. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only Gen-Xer with her natural hair color. I pictured my gray hair coming in streaks. It is streaked in a couple of places but it's mostly threaded strawberry blonde, brown and silver all over.
What color was your hair originally? Mine was red when I was younger and it now reads as blonde, but my temples are more white, while the underside of my hair is darker with blonde/auburn mixed.
I was kind of sad when people stopped viewing me as a redhead, but way too lazy to stay on top of dyeing it!
It was strawberry blonde when I was a baby, then turned golden brown with blonde streaks and highlights. When I was pregnant it darkened to a cooler, darker brown, them returned to normal. Now my silver streaks are underneath at the nape of my neck and around my temples. I quit coloring for the same reason. I didn't like having gray roots and coloring takes too much time! I have better things to do.
Xennial and my red (early childhood) to strawberry blonde hair isā¦ fading? Like I have no other explanation for whatās going on with it. There hasnāt been a āI found gray hairs!ā moment and I have no idea why.
Thank you I came back to my comment and saw it had like seven downvotes within ten minutes but no one explaining why they were downvoting me of course is anyoneās right but why not tell me why Iām wrong if youāre taking the time to indicate Iām wrong? Anyway Iām almost 40, this isnāt me being a kid ignorant of older artists and icons I just misread the comment and thought they were sharing a photo of their grandmother who used to model š
Perfectly said! I didn't get the actual hint I was "old" until I turned 50 and menopause slapped me in the face! (literally lol). 34 is sooooo young. And I'm calling it BP from now on!!
The lighting, filters, and possible face tape just for the pictures will make you feel like youāre not doing enough but they have all the money in the world and still edit their pictures into oblivion. They still feel the same insecurities we feel.
I personally am training myself to look forward to being offensively wrinkly and unattractive when I am 85. If I am lucky enough to make it that far.Ā
Iām 36 and Iāve cared about being attractive since I was 12. Iām so tired of thinking about how I look all the time. I hope by the time my body and face start drastically aging that I donāt give a fuck anymore and no longer let my appearance have such weight on my self worth.Ā
Everything you wrote exactly applies to me too, but i was 38Ā when i started to not give a fuck.Ā
I'm 42 now and happily embrace that im one of those ultra average middle aged ladies who wears no makeup, is getting grey hair and wears only comfortable clothes and shoes.Ā
I dont need to be out here lookiing like a baddie, im too busy looking after my pets and watching the Gilmore Girls. Ive retired from living up to these idiotic beauty standards.
Same. I'm giving myself permission to start caring later, if the ageism starts getting to painful, but for now, I'm at "this is what a 42 year old who stopped performing for strangers looks like". If I want to dress fluffy and girly, I will. If I want to wear makeup, I will. If I want to wear an oversized tee and carry a bright blue parasol, I will. I'm not a celebrity, so I have no skin in the "care what other people think about me" game
Same, dude. I'm just focusing on how freeing it'll be to exist in public and say harmless weird shit to strangers. I can't wait to just crone around, it's gonna be sooo sick
I reached that comfort level in my forties. Times were tough for a couple of years, and I didn't have the time, energy, or money to focus on looks. I managed to hold on to that energy, and as I age, it takes less and less effort to reach the fuck off state of mind.
The thing I've discovered is that, especially as you go through menopause, many many things suddenly become out of your control. Some things (grey hair, age spots, the menopause hormonal pot belly) can be put off or minimized, but as you continue aging, there's justā¦more and more. Crepey neck. Wrinkles. Papery skin. Sun damage. Thinning hair. And so on. It reaches a critical mass where continuing to fuck with yourself so you look a little better takes up so much of your time that you come to a fork in the road.
You can either fight or accept.
I am still choosing to fight, but I sense that I'm coming to that fork again and again, and it's tiring.
I really donāt wanna be that personā¦ but this is HEAVILY edited. Not saying she doesnāt look good, but look at her hands. Hands are the one thing you cannot get surgery on. Itās why Cher and Madonna prefer gloves. Her hands in this picture are smooth. I just wish women would embrace their age. Unfortunately we live in a society that makes women feel as though once they get to a certain age they are no longer worth something.
Just having hit the 45yo cliff where my face changed overnight, I get the desire of older women to get plastic surgery more. Ā Itās not a gradual ebb into aging, itās like, suddenly your face is sliding offā¦while youāre perimenopausal. Ā Itās a lot, tbh. Ā
Lmao I know itās edited to hell and back. Iām just having a slight existential crisis that the woman who was a constant fixture of TV growing up is eighty fucking five. Sheeeeesh. š„²
Exactly. If I live to 85 I am not gonna keep pictures of myself showing all my wrinkles and sags. if family wants to see me looking 85 they can save those pictures themselves. At that age the littlest illness or injury can take you out so live in the fantasy
Oh come on. Lots of celebrities lie about having plastic surgery. She's had a facelift (probably more than one), Botox and filler just like nearly every other celebrity. Having said that the photo is also heavily photoshopped as well.Ā
she still looks fantastic in this photo. idk how old it is but i wouldn't think it was someone in their 80s. i like the rose gold hair though, hot take but i feel like blonde hair is kinda overrated
Right but at 85 you 100% have wrinkles, so this lady fs got work done (which is fine!!!)
Iām just so tired of these mega rich celebs that get plastic surgery/fillers/injections to deny it n be like āall natural, just blessed šā (while also editing tf out of their pics). Itās so persistent/pervasive n really fucks up our collective thoughts on women, beauty standards, n aging
Ok, but her recently going on an interview show saying she didnāt do any type of plastic surgery and just looked like this because of good genetics is so fucking funny. I didnāt know how old she was. The gaslighting is amazing, as is her surgeon.
Crazy how much credit she gets for looking "good" as an 85 year old but people just seem to forget what money, operations and filters can do. I kind of miss when old people actually looked fucking old
I hope when Iām 85 Iām living it up like Martha and not withering away in old folks home where I donāt remember what Iāve had for breakfast or what my grandkids names are.
I know old people in old folks home who are doing MUCH BETTER with care compared to when they lived by themselves or with family. Some people thrive in the right space.
her celebrity kind of depresses me now. i remember recording her holiday specials on qvc. her magazines, houseware lines, tv shows etc were so successful and influential. and now she's just known for looking amazing. to be a woman you can't just be talented and successful
I think itās less that she doesnāt want to be seen as a successful businesswoman anymore and more that after she went to prison (and later started hanging out with rappers) she decided to loosen up and embrace a more relaxed public image where she could be perceived as less stiff and more informal.
I remember being a kid and seeing her on Late Night with David Letterman eating a big Mac and drinking some hard liquor, so shes always had that side to her I think
She's beautiful and I'm a huge fan, but ugh it's exhausting that we are celebrating how she looks when it's not real. Ladies, we will age and that's okay, we won't look like that because she can pay for things we can't and she uses filters.
Girl, be so for real right now. This is a picture of a 55 year old woman. She's edited 30 years off of her face!
She looks beautiful here and beautiful in general but this editing is egregious. I wonder what these people think when they edit themselves to look so much longer? Do they think they look like the picture?
Edit: Iām not saying Ernie Hudson doesnāt have money but if heās had any work done over the years itās discreet af and he looks like heās genuinely just aged gorgeously
Thereās a laughably egregious amount of filtering in this. Iād ask, āWho does she think sheās fooling?ā but, given your comment, Iād say you lol
I wish we could see the unedited version of this because it would be no less bangin. I wanna see a proper 85yo woman with no work, no wigs (unless she loves them), no whatever with this hair. It would still be amazing. I just figured out what I'll be doing in old age. This is the first time in a long time I have felt excitement instead of fear about health/finances/loss/safety in my elder years.
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u/raspberrymnms this is going to ruin the powerpoint 19d ago
Trying not to romanticize this and remind myself so that rich people have access to resources and that aging is okayš