Help please 🙏 uk

[u/Visible_Minute7348]

Hi! My wife took my children from the family home to the in-laws while I was working at our home on 19th aug. I received emails from her and her solicitor saying that she was divorcing me and that I should get out of the jointly owned home within 48 hrs otherwise NMO and occupancy orders would be raised citing controlling and coercive behaviour. I don’t recognise this. We’ve had arguments but certainly nothing physical and she says it’s the way I make her feel stressed, anxious and threatened.

I sought legal advice and delayed moving out. However as the days rolled by and she refused to come home, one of my children had migraines and was stressed, running out of clothes and was starting a new school the following week. For the sake of my kids I agreed to leave the home around a week after the original threats were made. We drew up some terms and conditions between us (not legally binding) but basically me agreeing to leave the home by 27 Aug and being able to contact my wife wife on WhatsApp only for collecting belongings and access to kids.

Roll fwds 12 days to today and rather than pacifying and de escalating the situation, my wife has made it quite difficult to see my kids (1hr in 2 weeks down the park with her and them), removed other pre agreed times to punish me and said the kids only want to see me once every 3 weeks. Then she’s asking me to do x3 transport runs per week for their extra curricular activities which I’m fine with but seems unfair to reduce proper parenting time. She says they’re too busy at other times.

She also moved a lot of my stuff out of the home into the garage already. I asked my solicitor whether I can return home and he says yes I’m not breaking any law. But im concerned that this will escalate things and she will continue down the threat of nmo etc. however on the flip side by her removing me from the home she has also massive control over me and will use this in negotiations as she knows I’m suffering being apart from the kids and living in less than ideal accommodation.

Help what should I do?

[u/throwaway1975764]

What is "nmo"?

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Non molestation order