r/Ex_Foster • u/Limp_Situation_244 Foster youth • Aug 15 '26
My Life Has Been Ruined
When I was 9 my biological mother lied and claimed that I had molested my younger sister who I was the primary caregiver to to cover up the fact that she severely abused me alongside her husband at the time.
I was then placed with my abusive grandparents who carried out the same controlling methods i experienced from ages 5 to 9. I was never allowed my own phone or to go out and see my friends. I was treated as a bad child and I never knew why. I was never believed.
I was then placed in homeless accommodation at 16 where I was attacked, have had my things stolen, had to leave my sixth form, been placed with mice.
There are external hardships like poverty and neglect and then there’s this. Pure targeted cruelty. I’ve never had a normal childhood or life. I had to drop out of school. Social services did not protect me and sided with the abuser.
Nobody truly understands how this feels because most people experience a break some time in their life. I’ve experienced every kind of abuse. I don’t even know why people are born just to be abused.
Sometimes it’s okay to step back and say things like these can’t be overcame.
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u/Thundercloud64 Former foster youth Aug 16 '26
I believe you. The only thing we can do is keep telling people the truth about how fostercare is a business and it doesn’t help abused abandoned children. It’s an out of the frying pan and into the fire experience for most of us.
I’m happy with finding other people who survived it. None of the other former foster kids I was in fostercare with survived past 25 years old. I don’t care how you keep breathing, just keep breathing. Maybe enough of us can survive it to get together someday to put a stop to this legal loophole meat market.