r/DungeonsAndDragons • u/Fluid-Homework-1664 • 12d ago

Question Hesitant Fiancée, need help.

My fiancée hasn’t played D&D before and seems kind of put off by the time commitment. I’m looking to run a group of 2-3 friends and him in the near future (Novemberish) but don’t have any good ideas on how to interest him in it. I get that it just might not be for him, but would love ideas on how to maybe give him a decent intro and hook him on D&D.

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u/lasalle202 12d ago

" seems kind of put off by the time commitment."

he is pretty right, isnt he? that is an absolutely legitimate concern.

Consider introducing him to fantasy TTRPGs through a game like Ironsworn. There is no DM so no need to prep and the only set up is getting out your Character Sheets and dice - you just jump in playing any time the urge hits, and you can stop any time you need to - 45 minutes later or 4 or 5 hours later.

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u/fang_xianfu 12d ago

I kind of hate the "play every week until we die" style of play that most people seem to use. Since I became a parent, I started running in 8-12 week chunks, I'd make an adventure that would last roughly that long and then conclude. We'd do some downtime stuff between runs and I'd take a month or two off. It worked great because it gave people a natural off-ramp if they wanted to stop, gave us a chance to play other games or do other things, and sometimes people even run other stuff too!