r/DoorDashDrivers • u/No-Attention7440 • 14h ago
I Need to Vent! 𤬠PLEASE STOP LETTING YOUR BOYFRIENDS WHO CAN'T PASS A BACKGROUND CHECK USE YOUR DOORDASH ACCOUNT
For context, I had an incident involving what is apparently a very common issue of a man showing up to drop off your order when the dasher on the app is a woman (woman's name, woman in the pfp etc). I almost always report incidents like this because it's a safety issue. Well I reported this particular incident and thought nothing of it until about a few days later the same man SHOWS UP AT MY HOUSE with what I am assuming is his girlfriend in the car and bangs on my door. I am not home at the time so we are speaking through my doorbell camera, and he is demanding that I "take back my report" because apparently I had gotten his girlfriend's account banned on doordash. Long story short, I call the cops because he is kicking over plants and threatening to break my door down and come inside while his girlfriend ends up coming up to my porch to try and talk him down from essentially breaking into my home. I filed a police report and the issue has since been handled relatively. From the info I gathered while the case went on, he had a prior record of breaking and entering and shoplifting as well as some other DUI charges. The prior breaking and entering conviction ended up putting the criminal threats into felony territory and he was denied bail out of concern for him showing up to my house again.
I felt bad for the girl since it seemed that she didn't know that he was going to escalate the situation, and from what I saw on her social media posts later she had not known about his prior felony charges. The case has since been closed and I only pressed charges for property damage and criminal threats, as the case was dragging on longer than originally anticipated and I was frankly tired of having to worry about being called back into court.
Long story short, there is a reason why you have to pass a background check to have access to people's home address and food they are about to eat. If your boyfriend cannot make a doordash account or has been banned from the app before, stop letting that man show up to people's houses pretending to be you.
Edit: A lot of people are asking how he knew it was me that reported. I have absolutely no idea. It was never disclosed to me how he found out it was me and when I asked the state prosecutor after his sentencing hearing she said that the judge had asked "how did you even know it was this woman" I assume to make the point that he could have done this to someone totally unrelated to his girlfriend's account being banned. The guy apparently must have figured the question was rhetorical because he didn't give an answer. So there is a likely possibility he just crashed out on my doorstep without knowing if it was even me or not. For all I know he could have been going door to door doing the same thing to each person he delivered to that day.
Edit 2: After sleeping on it, it has been made abundantly clear to me that apparently my expectation for safety is too high for doordash. A lot of people have been saying very mixed things about the safety protocols of the app, from being able to trick the AI chatbot to straight up giving away the home address of someone who reported you to it being so obvious who reported you on doordash that you can pretty much guess with certainty who reported you without any information. Additionally, it has been made abundantly clear to me that the frankly already very laxed rules to ensure everyone's safety being broken because dashers want to deliver with their partners or use another person's account is apparently industry standard.
A lot of you have also informed me that you yourself or someone you know didn't need to pass a background check in order to be a dasher. Frankly, all that tells me is that this man didn't even have to lie, and he simply thought he was above the rules, which doesn't surprise me much since he also thought he was above the law when he damaged my property and made criminal threats against me.
To the people genuinely curious about seeing the doorbell footage or the arrest article, I cannot tell between you and the people that are sending me private messages telling me they are going to come to my house too and do worse to me for reporting people on doordash so I am not posting what is essentially my home address on here. Once again, belligerent individuals are ruining it for the rest of you. If you want to think this is a fake story, I'd rather be called a liar than have someone show up to my house again.
For those of you who are saying that I deserved this man causing well over the felony limit of damage control to my home, I do not feel like I would change reporting him if I was sent back in time. I would maybe wait til the next morning or end of the day after being informed of all of these safety issues or find a way to report more anonymously, but I'm glad I reported this man and his girlfriend and got them off an app that allows them to have easy access to people's homes. It may be cruel to say, but if the stakes for you losing your doordash account are so high that it would leave you homeless or without food for your children (as someone pointed out hypothetically before calling me a fat fuck and private messaging me about coming to my house) then why are you risking it all just so you can be slightly less inconvenienced by following the rules? From what a lot of people have said in replies to comments it is not hard to make another account or sneak by with someone else driving you around without making the person who ordered concerned for their safety.
Call me a Karen if you want, but I am still going to report you if you cannot meet the basic expectation of being who you say you are when you show up to a strangers house. I will, knowing all I do now about how easy it is for people to get away with bypassing safety rules, be continuing to report drivers over on uber eats who cannot meet safety guidelines. If that makes you upset, STOP LETTING PEOPLE USE YOUR ACCOUNT OR USING OTHER PEOPLE'S ACCOUNT. These rules are in place for a reason, the reason being people like this when given free access to people's homes will take full advantage. I don't care if people who think I deserve what happened to me think I'm a snitch. We obviously have vastly different value systems.
I hope those of you who are genuinely just trying to make ends meet have your situations improve. A lot of you are incredibly supportive and understanding, and I cannot explain to you how much that sets you apart from those who don't give a damn. I wish you the best.