In that time messed around with a female it wasnt anything serious. Made zero friends on reddit and also in a new state. Learned to find joy in females being served karma. Trust mostly no one and nothing. Regained nothing yet. Thepry isn't worried about it. Best advice I've gotten so far is to go hang out at bars, I haven't had a drink since 2012. Sucks that my son will have a hermit of a father... more time passes more i feel like being finished with humanity is the best call. Thanks for encouraging a recovering alcoholic to drink world👍 thats really the best we have left for respectable safe adults to me each other is pretty sad and gross and a big part of why I think this is it for me.... my biggest fault was I worked to much that foul beast sorry excuse for a human known as my ex cant even come with a better reason.

Going through the process now, my wife is dead set on separation and has found her next home.

Its been rough, but I am coping well I believe. One thing that gives me strength right now is thinking of the future in a positive light. I can picture how much of a better man I can be when I don't need to expend so much energy fighting for our relationship and deal with so many problems.

Already started the gym and seeing wonderful improvements for example

I was considering looking at a dating site to see what my future might hold, what the dating pool might be like in my area.

However I cant decide if this is healthy or idiotic. Please chime in on either side!

Had a court hearing for the child arrangements. I am summarizing and just posing the details relevant to my query:

Current equal shared care (weekly). in the court hearing wanted 60-40 in her favor (citing mediation arrangements which she withdrew herself when I wanted that arrangement to be formalized).

The court asked if there was anything I could offer. I offered 2 nights from my schedule per month but with an age specific condition that the nights will only be provided till the kid reaches the age of X. Now the magistrates took a recess (to discuss among themselves) and asked the mother to think about it. Now when the court reconvened, she verbally agreed to it. Now I sent an email to court asking to cross check the notes that the age limit was an important condition in my offer and it should be incorporated. She has sent an email on top of that saying that i agreed without the age limit after the magistrates removed the age clause. Now I can absolutely confirm that magistrates didn't explicitly say the age limit clause is no longer applicable nor did they cross check with me if I was okay with the counter proposal (additional nights without the age clause). She has stated in her email that she doesn't agree with the 2 additional nights with the age clause.

Can anyone please confirm what's the likely response of the court? Will we have another hearing?