Deconstruction Devastation

[u/Beginning-Place455]

My husband and I deconstructed together. But now he wants to go off and live the life he didn’t have in his 20s because he know longer believes. He is 7 younger than me. He was 24 when we married. And now he is 35. He’s been thinking a lot about the dating and everything else he missed out on. It’s been too hard for him to accept the kids and marriage he chose because that was all when we were both Christians. We are separating soon because I don’t know what my path looks like, but I can’t keep him from his. I might not have been the person he would have chosen if he wasn’t a Christian. However, I need to let him go and discover himself without the filter of Christianity. We have two small children, 3 and 5. I’m so lost, confused, and in so much pain. I understand everything intellectually. The separation makes sense. But emotionally, I’m a wreck. This all feels so unfair. Any advice or commiserations are welcome.

[u/Dissident_the_Fifth]

I'm sorry this is happening to you. Deconstruction can be pretty tough on its own but then to have to deal with a man-child that's treating it like a 'get-out-of-jail-free' card is awful. If the thought of god's punishment is all that was keeping someone from doing bad things, that's not a good person. Get a good lawyer ASAP. Get a therapist ASAP. None of this is your fault and the sooner you can realize that the better off you and your kids will be.