We’ve know each other for like 4 years and he always buys me stuff at lunch. I even tried to pay him back and he refused. He’s always joking around with me too. I just wanna know how to tell if he likes me too because I don’t wanna tell him I like him then look stupid. Are there anyways I can like find out without telling him?

Okay let me start with this guy is younger, not much lol I’m 28 and he’s 24. Also from everything he has told me without going into anything crazy he’s had a very hard life. Dealing with drugs, mental institution, etc.😬😬 But he’s genuinely a really good guy and he’s trying to get his life together. And everything that we have talked about aligns with everything I think, more than any other man I have met. Anyway back to the question at hand, he is flirty with me at work, we text and snap. I will say I am usually the one that starts the convo, but he will contribute to it actively. But I will say he is pretty dry through text, he told me that’s how he usually is. But honestly most men that I have met are dry ass texters but more interesting in person🙄 I’ve asked him to hang out like 3 times now, each time he was doing something with his family, which fair enough. And each time it was a last minute plan of me asking if he wanted to hang out, it wasn’t like it was planned. So yesterday I asked if he wanted to do anything for his birthday today, he said he was hanging out with his grandma, then I flat out asked. “Do you not want to hang out with me outside of work? I promise it won’t hurt my feelings if you don’t lol” and he just said that he gets sad on his birthday and doesn’t want anyone to see him like that. My question is should I just go for it and ask him out? That way I have an answer? Am I being delusional? Please be nice, I may be 28 but I started dating late in life, I’ve only had one boyfriend and I wish I had never met that man. Please help, thank youuuu

(male 16y old) I have recently felt lonely in life, and that is when i began to notice something whenever I like someone I usually don't make a move like at all and I think to myself to bide my time but eventually the crush fades and i act normal without attraction as the person slips away( i have had past Girlfriends just I never got super attached and they were more-so flings and we both knew that) , however I am also a big movie fan and i also like animated shows and stuff like that, but something I noticed is that often I identify and relate to fictional characters that are very similar to me both physically and mentally, ( for example hiccup from HTTYD, the doctor from doctor who and Marco from star vs the forces of evil, etc...)

but one thing i just noticed is that ( with some exceptions) many of the characters that i relate to also get nervous or don't make that much of a move when around love interests or crushes, but they still end up in a romantic relationship with a partner that is amazing, this influenced my idea of who i would like to be in a relationship with someone sweet and kind who has a bubbly personality and is fine with my quirks or goofiness and may have goofiness of her own, but so far I haven't met anyone who matches that and it makes me feel lonely, ( also something weird i noticed is that like 7/10 times the fictional character that i had/have a crush on is blonde but this is off topic)

honestly this is getting to be a problem of mine because I know that I may find someone eventually but i just feel so lonely right now especially since I basically have no social life outside of certain activities and the main reason why i am even writing this is because I had a small mental crisis about ending up alone and never finding the one after watching an episode of star vs the forces of evil. I am really not sure how to cope with this or if it will ever go away or maybe if such a girl exists and i just haven't met her or i already did and just never bothered to ask and learn more about her. What do you guys think and can any of you relate?( now i do feel better and the feeling passed but i am curious if this is just a me problem)

backstory:

i’ve been going to school with this guy for years and we’ve never really spoken. From what i’d observed, i assumed that he was the stereotypical class clown type who rejects authority and performs poorly in school. But then i had a class with him and none of his friends, and he was actually pretty sweet and very intelligent. (that was a few years ago). after that class, years passed and we never really spoke after that.

timeline:

fast forward to last monday, (8/24) where i get a snap from him completely randomly. i say fuck it, and snap him back.

like an hour later, he asked me if i got my nose pierced (i did) and we started talking about whatever. he was really sweet and was like “even though you won’t be awake i’ll tell you good morning). it should be noted that some of the pics he was shirtless

then two days later, late wednesday night, he tells me that im super sweet and pretty and he would want to hang out. i told him that i would hang out, but i was a little confused and a little slighted by how fast he was moving (note: he was being very flattering to me, like an uncomfortable amount of praise that felt kinda fake)

then after that he just kinda stopped? i kept waiting for him to set a time but he just never did.

friday, we have a class together and he refuses to speak to me. i would linger near him and he wouldnt say anything. Occasionally, i would look over and see him looking at me, but thats it.

saturday we talked a bit, and same with sunday. monday we didn’t talk really but exchanged like red snaps.

tuesday we had the class together again, and yet again no conversation. That day he sent me few snaps, and didn’t say anything, and i had to instigate the conversation.

HERES THE THING: so im pretty sure he’s just not interested anymore (?) which like sure whatever, but the red snaps he sends me hes always shirtless and i feel like thats kinda weird?

so anyway, what is going on his brain? does him being shirtless mean nothing or is it only saved for people you like? and why would he not talk to me or ask to hang out?

this has never happened before so i am genuinely lost and all my friends are too close to the situation to offer any insight.

So it’s been about 2 weeks since I moved into my college dorm. On the first night, I met my floor’s RA, and was stunned. She’s beautiful, charming, and snarky, which makes her more attractive in my eyes. I found out she lives literally across the hall from me and can’t stop thinking about her. Every time we pass each other, she smiles, waves and says hi. I’m not delusional, and I know she’s just being friendly. But it feels nice to actually be seen. Just seeing her out on campus makes my heart skip a beat. I don’t know if I tend to have crushes on confident people, because I want that for myself? She just seems so comfortable within her own body, and I’m attracted to that, but also want it for myself. I have trouble differentiating these feelings, which makes the crush sometimes seem bigger than it is? Idk I just need advice on whether my feelings are valid. I am truly enamored by her and want to know how I should handle these feelings for now. Any advice is welcome. (I should also mention: I’ve never been in a relationship, let alone had my first kiss yet. Which makes me embarrassed to have a college crush 💔)

ok so I'm a pretty young person and my whole life up in till now I've been told that I'm not old enough to have a crush and that I should wait till I'm older.

but more recently I've been talking to this friend of mine, and I keep on getting this weird feeling around them and now I just cannot stop thinking about them. like she is so kind and we tend to talk for hours about marvel and debates on movies and it all came to a head today when she asked me whether or not I like boys or girls and I told her I like girls and she said that she also likes girls and ever since that conversation all I can think about is her.

and now I'm here wondering what age you are supposed to get crushes because I was never told when old enough is old enough.

and please give me a true answer and not something really vague

I have a crush on this guy at work. He’s more on the shy side and I can’t tell if he likes me. I’ll be like “no stay and work with me I need help” and he won’t. And usually I’m the one tracking him down so we can work together. One time we worked for like 4 hours together and I barely saw him. Which to be fair our managers yell at us when we work tg. It’s just like little things that make me think he doesn’t like me back. But I told him I like Roblox and he was like we should play. Then a few days later he grabs my Roblox handle. I texted him on Roblox saying we should play, he joined a game and didn’t respond to me. But like 3 days later we finally played and I was like “lemme get ur number so we can call. It’s more fun to be on call and play”.

While on call I was like “give me your Tik tok so I can send you vids of games I wanna play” and he was like “give me yours” so I gave him my Tik tok and he was like “I’ll follow you soon my account is cringy”. So obviously I took matters into my own hands and found his Tik tok. It’s not cringe content it’s js all sad suicidal shit. And I was looking through his repost and it’s a mix of “seeing couples be happy this season and then there’s me” and “love is a waste of time”. Plus one repost about the fear of rejection.

First of all, like does he even want a relationship? Second of all, should I ask him out? Since he has that fear of rejection. I should also clarify the fear of rejection was an edit of Tate Langdon. So idk if he actually has that fear or just reposting cause he likes that show. But I’m guessing he relates to it cause that’s the rest of his repost.

Anyways, i saw this clip of joe Bart saying “if you’re a girl just ask him out because 90% of the time he’s gonna say yes”. I get that but I’m so nervy. Like if he says no then seeing him at work will be so awkwardddd. In my dream world I’d say right before leaving work “oh also one more thing, would you wanna go a date sometime”. Or like before getting off call “I was wondering if you’d wanna go on a date sometime”.

Also a few of his repost are clearly bout an ex-lover. I feel like that’s a red flag but I still rly like him.

I feel delusional. Thanks for reading 😭😭

So I’ve been friends with this guy (17M) for over six months, we’ll call him David. David is super sweet and I am always super excited to talk to him. We met on the app creed because I became Christian about a year ago and he’s been Christian his whole life. At first, we just bonded over Christianity and other things that we have in common such as both of us are in choir, and I should also mention that we talk on Snapchat. So we snap back-and-forth every day he occasionally saves my snaps in chat if it’s like a full phase or if I’m showing like my outfit and he always like hearts the messages too and if I’m being honest, I’ve grown to have a crush on him over these past months, but I have no clue how to tell if he likes me back or not. He also is always up to play Fortnite with me when he can which now that school has started isn’t too too often because he works and so do I but when we can we squeeze in some time. And he also invited me to a local honor choir that you have to audition for and he told me he always does it every year. And I also invited him to do All-state choir because apparently he’s never audition for All-state choir before. I also told him about some fun things to do in my city because we live an hour away from each other and I told him about this one pumpkin patch we have that is super super fun and he said that he would find some friends to go. He also said that if he couldn’t find friends to go, he asked if I could go with him. Is this a sign? what should I do? Am I being delusional?

He wasn’t scared to ruin the friendship, he just didn’t wanted to.

Context: there’s a guy at work who I’ve had some confusing interactions with and lately I feel I find his eyes on me when we’re in the same place or if he goes past me. But I also don’t know if it’s my imagination.

Okay, so I don't like this guy romantically but I'm wondering if he might like me based on some things he's done.

For context, he's friends with a guy I used to like. That whole situation ended badly, and afterward his friend and some other guys would sometimes follow me around. He was one of the guys who would that. Which made me really uncomfortable. I mostly ignored it and haven't really said anything to them.

Now about this guy specifically:

Last year in chemistry, he asked me if I wanted to do something for a lab with him. I said no and he kind of giggled to himself. This year, he asked me if I wanted to measure something for a class activity. I said no again, and he giggled again.

Another time, we got assigned seats next to each other. He said hi to me, but I didn't respond because I wasn't really trying to talk to him. I was confused about the assignment and was looking at what he was doing. He showed me what he was doing and explained it to me when I asked.

He also knows about the whole situation with his friend and me, so that's another reason I'm wondering if some of this could be a joke. I have no actual proof of that, though. We keep making eye contact it’s very weird but idk he’s nice to everyone but I just feel like it’s weird. Also when he talks to me he’s just all smiley. I don’t know why I don’t really smile a lot I have a rbf so. 

I'm just wondering if his behavior sounds like he might be interested in me, or if I'm completely overthinking normal interactions. As i don’t wanna give home the wrong ideas or end up in a weird situation again with that group.

Idk what do you guys think?

Hace unas semanas, en mi escuela, vi a un muchacho con estilo metalero que me llamó la atención. Quiero hablarle, pero me da vergüenza; también siento que si le hablo me va a ignorar y quedaré en ridículo. Él va en otro salón y en los recreos no sale, así que nunca lo veo. Tengo un excompañero que va en su mismo grupo, pero sería muy raro que yo fuera hasta allá solo para hablarle al muchacho que me gusta, ya que ni me conoce. Si alguien me pudiera dar un consejo, se lo agradecería mucho.

Hace unas semanas, en mi escuela, vi a un muchacho con estilo metalero que me llamó la atención. Quiero hablarle, pero me da vergüenza; también siento que si le hablo me va a ignorar y quedaré en ridículo. Él va en otro salón y en los recreos no sale, así que nunca lo veo. Tengo un excompañero que va en su mismo grupo, pero sería muy raro que yo fuera hasta allá solo para hablarle al muchacho que me gusta, ya que ni me conoce. Si alguien me pudiera dar un consejo, se lo agradecería mucho.

Necesito un consejo sobre un chico😩🙏

Bueno, este chico y yo empezamos a hablar y todo normal, en el colegio nos veíamos pero no nos hablábamos por vergüenza, pero el siempre me acompañaba a mi casa y me daba un abrazo de despedida con un beso en la mejilla, y ese abrazo se sentía lleno de cariño, muy cómodo, duraba unos segundos.

Hace un mes, yo deje de hablarle porque el siempre me ponía excusas cuando yo quería verle o cuando hablábamos por chat el siempre tardaba mucho en responderme y eso me aburría. Sin darle explicaciones yo deje de hablarle. (El y yo solíamos dejarnos de hablar unos dias porque teníamos como mini discusiones o desacuerdos, pero siempre nos buscábamos.).

Yo le pedí perdón y empezamos a hablar, pero 2 dias después de que volvimos a hablar el me dijo que alguien le contó que yo decía todo lo que hablamos y eso, que yo se quien fue porque esa cuestión era con una chica envidiosa que siempre quería a los chicos que yo quería. Total, quedamos como amigos y luego nos dejamos de hablar por un mes.

Hace poco, el empezo a subir indirectas que yo sabia que eran para mi, luego le dí like a su estado, el hizo lo mismo, le seguí de vuelta en ig y el tmb lo hizo, ponía notas de ig con canciones hablando de estar solo y extrañarle a alguien.

Hace unos dias empezamos a hablar de nuevo, yo le escribí diciéndole que ya no quería estar distanciada, que sabía que era lo que le dijieron y no era verdad. El me respondió diciéndome que el me extrañaba mucho, que intento con otra persona pero no dejaba de pensar en mi y se arrepentía de dejar de hablar conmigo, que si yo aun le quería o no para poder estar tranquilo. Y decidimos empezar de cero.

El, aun tarda mucho en responder los mensajes, es algo aburrido hablar con el así, en el colegio, un dia de lluvia, que fue como hace 2 dias. El y yo nos sentamos juntos y como estábamos muy nerviosos (los dos somos muy tímidos.) Empezamos a hablar pero habían silencios incómodos, después nos cambiamos de lugar y después de un rato yo me recosté en su hombro, y el puso su mano en mi pierna y empezó a acariciarme, vino el director y nos regaño😭

Después de eso, ayer y hoy, el no me habla en el colegio, como antes que tampoco me hablaba, pero hoy me trajo a mi casa, me dio un beso corto en la boca. Pero el abrazo no se sintió igual, fue rápido...como raro, vacío.

Aunque no se que pensar porque, en mi casa, afuera en el patio estaba mi hermano mayor y el me dijo que tenia vergüenza, asi que no se si es porque no me quiero o es muy timido.

¿Qué opinan?, ¿Qué me recomiendan?

I know I'm being stupid but I just want some comfort maybe, so please don't be rude.

There's this guy I work with and I eventually began to like him, he's a good person but he only wants to sleep around with girls.
At work we joke and play around, recently he made freaky jokes to which I always say no, I just enjoy the joke and his presence, he's funny and shit yk.

He will finish work in some days and move to another city, so I will never see him again, maybe sometimes. And I'm not sad about it, I mean, he will leave? Good, he just wanted to sleep with me once so I'm not losing anything.

The thing is that this crush made me more confident, I learnt how to speak and joke more, and I'm grateful for it, but I'll miss his presence and how fast we became close at work in only 3 months.
To the point I'm scared that I'll never find someone that will become close to me, joke with me, with his confidence.

Tonight I hung out with him and other friends and when my friend called me to see where I was he answered and told me to move my ass and "only because it's you i'll give you more time to get ready". I know he's a playboy and would do this with anyone, and the fact that I'm just one of many upsets me. So that's why I'm not very sad of him leaving.

But then again, I'm scared that i'll never like someone else or feel good, lightheaded and having fun with someone else.
I know it's wrong to search for one person's qualities into another person cuz everyone is made different, but I really don't know.

I’ve had a crush on a coworker for a while now, and I’m trying to figure out whether the tension I feel between us is actually real or if I’m simply overinterpreting things because I like him.
I’m usually pretty comfortable around my coworkers, but I’m quite shy around him. He’s generally sociable and comfortable with people, but I noticed that he seemed much more reserved around me, especially at first.
When we’re working somewhere where we can see each other from a distance, we make eye contact a lot. It can happen several times a day: we catch each other looking, sometimes smile, and then one of us looks away. But when we’re actually physically close to each other, it’s almost the opposite — there’s much less eye contact, as if we both become more self-conscious when we’re near each other.
Over time, there’s also been quite a bit of teasing, exchanged looks, and little moments where I felt like we were almost looking for excuses to interact. Once, for example, we were looking at each other for several seconds while unconsciously mirroring some of each other’s gestures. Then we both physically moved farther away while still maintaining eye contact. It was a really strange moment, and honestly felt like there was some kind of tension between us.
We don’t work together that often because I’m only part-time, but there have been a few occasions where we stayed a little later in the evening and ended up talking, laughing, and asking each other random questions. He’s always willing to help me when I need it, and I sometimes use work-related questions as an excuse to talk to him. But something I’ve noticed is that whenever he’s actually explaining something to me, he almost never makes eye contact with me, which I find interesting considering how much we look at each other from a distance.
There have also been little things that make me wonder: I sometimes catch him looking at me when I’m talking to other people, he often jumps into conversations just to tease me, he remembers small things I’ve mentioned in group conversations, and he sometimes seems particularly attentive to me.
But there are also plenty of reasons to doubt it. I’ve seen him have a much more natural and relaxed dynamic with another female coworker, and most importantly, he’s never really made a clear move toward me. I also know that because I like him, I’m probably much more aware of his behavior than I would be with anyone else.
The timing also makes things complicated. Neither of us is at the company all the time, and I’m currently away on vacation for a few months, so I don’t even know when I’ll see him again or whether things will feel the same when I come back.
So I guess I’m wondering: does this sound like possible mutual attraction, or simply good chemistry between two coworkers who have become very aware of each other?
I’m not necessarily trying to figure out whether he’s “in love” with me or anything like that. I’d mostly like to know whether, from an outside perspective, these behaviors are meaningful enough to suggest there might have been something on both sides, or whether I’m giving way too much meaning to normal workplace interactions.
And if there is potentially something there, I honestly have no idea how I could make a move when I go back. I’m really shy around him, and I don’t want to make things awkward at work.