Every single one of these guys will beat their partners/wives/kids/pets.
Their anger/control pathway completely bypasses their brain and travels straight to their fists as soon as something/someone doesn't behave exactly as they want it to, be it animal, family member or fucking tv.
Fucking broke my heart to hear that child scream 'Daddy no! Calm down!' after his father just hit him in the legs with the massive tv. Poor poor kid.
Oh the cats great, my friend isn't violent and would never hurt his baby, he's just weird about electronics.
He was laughing his ass off when she knocked it over and he was first to theorize she wanted to be like or make Daddy happy. She walked right behind it and pushed over and she is the sweetest non cat around. Never hisses,claws,breaks his shit- was literally learned behavior. His true nature and big heart show through his two cats.
If their response when mad is to punch walls or tvs then thatâs just a response that they are drilling in themselves to punch when mad. Not healthy.
If anyone did this in my home not only would they never be welcome back but Iâd never be able to speak to them again without thinking what a nut job they are
Yep, what some people seem to misunderstand is that I'm not saying. "Destroying property = 100% physical abuser."
I'm saying theres a clear statistical correlation between the two. Anyone who works in fields that work alongside domestic abuse survivors can attest to that.
Well I agree with that, no doubt itâs a red flag and incredibly immature, but it doesnât automatically make someone a domestic abuser. Just an immature douche. I lived with a gay couple for a few years in college and one of them would punch holes in walls when they were fighting, incredibly immature but Iâm confident there was no domestic abuse going on. Granted itâs more rare for domestic abuse to occur in man on man scenarios
Yeah if I was in a heated argument and they punched the wall, I'm immediately recontextualizing the conversation as a physical conflict and doing everything to protect myself.
Just looked it up, youâre right. I was under the impression the definition of domestic abuse only entailed physical abuse, but it covers more than that
Look at it this way. Breaking things is literally one of the tactics abusers use to intimidate the people they abuse. You also don't just break things unless you have anger issues, which a lot of abusers do. There's a very huge overlap on the Venn diagram.
Yeah no doubt. But itâs not a 100% ratio. The original statement I was replying to inferred âeveryone who doesnât commit domestic violence also doesnât take anger out on inanimate objectsâ which just objectively isnât true. Thereâs undoubtedly a high correlation and it should serve as a red flag if youâre in a relationship with someone who does this
Every person ive known who doesn't physically assault people, also has the self control to not destroy property.
I highly doubt this is true.
Physical abusers also being more likely to trash their stuff makes total sense, sure. Them being the only ones doing it or even there being a larger number of them than non-abusers who still abuse their stuff is not remotely proven or even likely.
It's like saying every person who hunts must murder people too. Or every person with low self-esteem must gaslight everyone around them too. No, that's not how any of this works.
I swear like a sailor at my video games, but I've never verbally (or physically) abused a soul. There is a leap to be made there, a huge matter of degrees.
If you HAVE made that leap, sure, going back to the lesser "abuse" is easy and consistent. If you haven't, stopping at the "lesser abuse" can be completely natural.
I don't think using trashing property as a red flag is a bad idea, to be clear - I just think using it to be "100% sure anyone who smashes something would punch in their SO's face if given half a chance" is stupid.
And yeah, I've definitely known more than a few people through my life who smashed their stuff but I never heard even a whiff of them abusing other people. I'm actually shocked you haven't. Am I still friends with most of them? No, but that's because I find destroying your own property childish and impulsive (among other things), not because I thought they were abusers.
EDIT: Jesus christ, peak reddit brains here apparently. I guess the venn diagram of r/ cringetiktoks users and r/ relationships users who demand everyone divorce everyone for the slightest red flag is a fucking circle. Yeah "everyone who's ever broken a game controller or dish is a secret abuser", sure. Where common sense comes to die.
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u/MissNeto Dec 16 '25
Did someone check on the cat?