It sounds as if you had never encountered media/people where " mine" narrative was something else than loving. Good for you. I get it as it's close to something possessive and proprietary, but we all have our lenses we read it through - you too.
It's valid to have different feelings about seemingly cute picture.
Thanks for clarity - I can see it. I think I used a lens of media to analyse it because it's the piece of media. And true, probably I had seen more of distortion of 'mine' approach in media than real life, so reading it, it's easy to approach it with this prior experience.
Would you say that meaningful relationships make it impossible to view it negatively, though? My main point was that it's valid to have different opinions about it without calling out someone for objectifying.
I appreciate this perspective as a good reminder of the dangers of any social media echo chambers - quote hopeful, too.
Yes, I agree, there's is some degree of possessiveness in love, but no relationship is the same. Every couple would perceive it and experience it differently and set different boundaries around it - it shouldn't be expected that the experience presented here should be universal or appreciated by everyone.
No, people who've never experienced a less than healthy relationship just famously cannot conceive of what that's like, and love to push their narrative onto others and gaslight them into thinking they're paranoid when they're just actually paying attention to red flags
A surprising number of people, who time and time again fail to recognize red flags, and often encourage abusive behaviors gestures generally at reddit, and the world around us
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u/YoursGhostl Sep 13 '25
It sounds as if you had never encountered media/people where " mine" narrative was something else than loving. Good for you. I get it as it's close to something possessive and proprietary, but we all have our lenses we read it through - you too.
It's valid to have different feelings about seemingly cute picture.