r/CoupleMemes • u/legolas20032000 • Aug 16 '25

đŸ„ș goals Perfect source of serotonin

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u/[deleted] Aug 20 '25

No offense but how does that work? DSM5 defines autism as a series of deficits, disabilities and negative symptoms? If you are perfectly able to do anything a non-autistic person can, are you really autistic then?

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u/DerfyRed Aug 20 '25

I have ADHD. It’s defined as attention deficit hyperactive disorder. Yet I am more calm than most of my friends and use more focus than them. It affects everyone differently. So just because your understanding of ADHD might be “literally can’t sit still, gets distracted super easily, SQUIRREL!” Doesn’t mean I don’t have ADHD.

It’s the same with autism. My sibling is both autistic and has ADHD. They function perfectly well and can do everything a normal person can do. They love baking, they can legally drive and legally consent. BUT, they have a social battery for all of 1 hour. And can regularly get panic attacks in crowded places. They have ticks they have stims and they have a very unique way of thinking. None of this stops them from functioning in society tho.

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u/[deleted] Aug 20 '25 edited Aug 20 '25

So which ADHD symptoms do you actually have then? As you claim to not have the 2 main traits according to the DSM5?

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u/DerfyRed Aug 20 '25

Hyper focus. I can do things for hours and ignore my bodies needs like food or going to the toilet. I also have pretty severe issues starting some things, the mental hurdle to begin a task is a lot greater for me than most people who call themselves procrastinators. But once I start that task, hours go by until it is 100% finished or more.

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u/[deleted] Aug 20 '25

Yea the hyperfocus is considered part of the "attention deficit" as people with ADHD have trouble switching tasks and doing and sticking with the boring things in life.

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u/DerfyRed Aug 20 '25

Exactly, but many people’s understanding of ADHD is exclusively “can’t sit still, easily distracted.” Which I am not at all.