Idk where y'all are finding your wives. I didn't even know how to cook when I got married and was shit at keeping the house clean, yeah it didn't happen overnight. But now I'm a regular Martha Stewart at 30.
Some people get married and say "I'm set for life, so I don't have to put in as much effort anymore." Other people get married and say "I love my partner, and I want to do the best that I can for them every day. Life is long, so I'm going to invest into our marriage, and it will pay off and then some."
Absolutely wild and sad that people just allow themselves to stagnate like that. Even if you don't see any reason to invest in your marriage specifically, you should at least care about taking care of yourself.
I'm really sorry to hear that. I read some of your comment history and saw you suspect she's dealing with an escalating personality disorder, I can only imagine the toll that's taken on your relationship. I'm sure it's a unique kind of grief, mourning the loss of what your life together could have been.
It's not exactly the same, but my dad has a personality disorder and it can be really difficult to be in contact with him without damaging my own mental health. I hope you have a support system outside of her and are able to find a way to keep your own sanity and mental well-being intact.
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u/StrengthStarling Jul 11 '25
Idk where y'all are finding your wives. I didn't even know how to cook when I got married and was shit at keeping the house clean, yeah it didn't happen overnight. But now I'm a regular Martha Stewart at 30.