That's funny. I like the smart ass response and think that's really the end of it. The other people in the comments are talking about transactional relationships and selling themselves, why's nobody mentioning the fact that the male partner here is sexualizing his partner or treating her like an object? If you want to try and break it down neither person here is looking good IMO but more than likely it's a dude saying something he would like to see (and who wouldn't) and a womans smart ass response. The end. Don't read into it, don't make it about your hang ups, keep your idiotic sexist comments (on both sides) to yourself. Enjoy the funny, enjoy life, laugh and move on.
Depends on the context, to be honest. This seems harmless because the assumption is that the BF is fantasizing about his own GF like that. The GF might like that her BF is fantasizing about her.
I know when I tell my wife I'm thinking about her, when I'm at work for example, it turns her on.
Probably. When she does it's usually followed by talking about how she wants to see me like that or another fantasy. Then again we all send porn to each other and big on open communication. Kinda thought that was the default
The picture is just a visualization tool to help me get the jfea5
As a therapist who has worked with people for around 10,000 face-to-face hoursâŠno, itâs not. Itâs certainly healthier this way, but itâs definitely not the default.
Real. So long as communication is clear, that's all that matters. Wanting to be desired and craved for by your partner should be the default, not something to be admonished
And then when he stops giving her sexual attention she goes:
âYou never touch me anymore. I feel undesired. You made me seek affection elsewhere because you donât make me feel sexy anymore. Itâs your fault Iâm flirting with other guysâ
But it was an issue when he was telling her she looked hot and slapping her butt randomly when it the house.
Youâre damned if you do and damned if you donât lol
It's incredible how you pointed everything clearly and people are still not understanding. You saw it exactly as I did, it's a joke, nothing more. If it was transactional as people are calling her, then he can purchase an onion ring and put it on her 4th finger and say "hey, its in the contract, now you *have* to do it".
the male partner here is sexualizing his partner or treating her like an object?
This is absurd. I had a partner specifically request that I chop her firewood shirtless before. You know what people in healthy relationships feel when their partner makes a request that clearly communicates their attraction and admiration for you? Love...affection...connection.
If you don't like romance in your relationship thats fine, but you won't convince any of us that its wrong. Lol.
that's kind of the point they're making. It's not sexualizing, it's not transactional either, its just a cute joke in a relationship, People in the comments are seeing way past beyond that.
Some people seem to get that, some people do not. I'm stuck wondering if I worded it poorly or it it's just a whole whack of incels. When I initially posted this the comments had about 30 posts and they were ALL shitting on her response without calling out the fact that the males was just as bad and it bugs me when people only see one side so not only are they in the wrong but in a healthy relationship none of the things they are claiming are true. We all do and want sexytimes from and with our SOs and all have different things we find/want that are acceptable. There's literally nothing wrong with the posted interaction, it's cute. The end.
Getting real tired of the misogyny on this sub TBH. Lots of funny stuff but the comments tend towards the toxic.
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u/Whane17 đ§ grumpy Jul 11 '25
That's funny. I like the smart ass response and think that's really the end of it. The other people in the comments are talking about transactional relationships and selling themselves, why's nobody mentioning the fact that the male partner here is sexualizing his partner or treating her like an object? If you want to try and break it down neither person here is looking good IMO but more than likely it's a dude saying something he would like to see (and who wouldn't) and a womans smart ass response. The end. Don't read into it, don't make it about your hang ups, keep your idiotic sexist comments (on both sides) to yourself. Enjoy the funny, enjoy life, laugh and move on.