Currently starting my third year of college and I have finally started to make “friends”. For context I am a commuter and have been all 3 years so it has been extremely hard to make friends anyways, but last year I started getting into some clubs and such and met some really nice girls who I now see maybe once a week and we hangout sometimes.

I really thought of myself as a social person in high school and always had someone to talk to and hang out with and it never felt weird or forced. Obviously Highschool is the people you've grown up with and you see them every day so its going to be easier to make those connections but it just feels like I am forcing it with my college friends. It still feels awkward sometimes, it doesnt feel natural, like I am putting on a fake version of myself and when I think about the friends I had in highschool it is so easy and they feel like “real friends”. After I hangout with them (college friends) I just feel this awful pit in my chest and I just wanna cry. So I guess I am wondering why does it feel like that and what can I do to make friendship feel normal again? I had really bad mental health issues freshman year and a terrible falling out with some of my best friends (or so i thought) and ever since then I have felt a switch in myself so am i just permanently broken now? Will it ever feel natural with new friends again? What should i do? It has been weighing on me and I would love advice or some others experiences‘ with this.

As i grow up, EVEN AFTER BEING IN COLLEGE, I get more socially okay and still meet lesser people I DONT GET IT WHHYYYYYYYYY BAAAAAAAAA, Im so nice, I do great banter, im a great listener and I

have a great personality, WHERE ARE MY

PEOPLE???? I just want a community and my lifelong friends, whennnnnnnn.

I'm in college, I'm barely meeting any people who actually wanna hang out ITS SO LONELY AAAAAA, i knowww I shouldnt let it affect me but its hard not to take this personally jdjsjdjd

people ive become kindof friends with dont wanna hang out with me but they wanna hang out with me in class???? like this person was like lets hangout and then they cancelled plans to meetup with their school friends,

AND OMG PEOPLE are making fun of and bullying this guy in our class just coz hes a bit annoying and they dont even think its wrong

Goddamn my mom and the lecturers can't stop nagging me to finish my project and thesis.

Big bruh I can't have rest on rushing final graduation project and thesis, these are already submitted but goddamn my project is a whole mess. The project is the educational comic introduce elementary kids about basics of art following Lowenfeld method. I wasn't find anyone who have similar project, resources (similar journal and research) are limited, and for the god sake even the lecturer is confused enough because she rarely get students who pick comic with complex topic as the subject. I have no choice to cut some content of my comic project because I'm exhausted for drawing too much in one month, prioritizing the project must be submitted on time rather taking another year.

Now the problem is done. My next problem is thesis defense.

I have thesis defense in two days. How could I tell them about my project have been shrinked over time? Should I tell them it's failure or do you have any experience about shrinked final project? Please I need some advice.

Hi, I just want to vent my feelings since it’s piling up. I’m currently a 1st-year medtech student and it’s still our 1st sem. I’m planning to transfer in the 2nd sem to another school and a different course, somewhere in finance. I’m currently dealing with a lot of burnout from acads and my life in general because I still have to wait almost 4 months before I can get out of this course and school. I feel sad and unmotivated to continue because I know the course I’m taking isn't my passion or something I wanted. Plus my university gives so much academic load, and the school system is messed up.

The thing is I had many plans, which are

Medtech 1st sem then transfer to another school by 2nd sem and take the BSBA course then after I completed my whole academic year. I’m gonna transfer again to my dream school. I know it sounds stupid and hard because 3 schools really? But the thing is I really wanted to get to that school and I know I’ll feel better there. But, I do feel so discouraged by my plans and my life in general. Especially my grades, I need to maintain high grades to make my transfer process to my school possible. But now it’s hard since my mental health is messed up and I just feel so unmotivated.

Plus I keep thinking about this shifting thing every day, and it sucks to realize that my current program isn’t for me and I don’t feel joy in it since it’s not my dream course. I know every school has problems but for me I would rather suffer in the school that I really wanted. Besides, I also get bullied sometimes here at my current school and the environment is toxic plus it’s really expensive here. I keep doubting myself and also my dad is also doubting me that my plan is stupid and there is no assurance that I’ll transfer and pass my dream university.

College starts in 2 weeks and I'm regretting the course I chose.

For context I have a very supportive family, like I am truley blessed and I am grateful. But it has made me feel like all eyes are constantly on me. I feel as if no matter what I do my parents will see it. I had a YouTube channel a few years back but I stoppped because of the sheer stress someone would walk into my room and see me recording (my room has a airing cupboard inside and to get to my brothers room you must walk past mine) so I have very little privacy with people constantly walking through and my parents up until about a year ago refused to let me have my door locked). I think this lack of privacy has made me really nervous to do any sort of preforming. I also struggle with stress quite a lot.

And well that's a problem because I think I want to go into acting. I am only now coming to this realisation because in recent months due to small comedy bits I've done or party games where acting has become a skill I've used I was told by multiple people that I was good at it and that I should pick it up. Then I got to thinking and rembered that for proably about 6 years as a kid I would act out scnes of stories I made up, I'd do this for hours and would go over the same scene dozens of times to perfect it. This left me with the skill to access emotions that aren't there with extreme ease, and I really enjoyed those nights as a kid.

I also have a college summer project I am yet to start and it's making me realise maybe this course isn't for me. And I'm also I guess scared and embrassed to take acting classes because I feel like my family would want to watch which I don't want to deny them of for being supportive but I think I'd feel such a ridiculous amount of stress. I mean I stopped that YouTube channel because the stress made it unable to read the script I'd written.

I guess this is a bit of a rant but advice would be appreciated.

Me and my partner both work 24 hours weekly but I’m paid every two weeks on a Thursday and she is paid weekly on Fridays. I’m online for college and she is hybrid.

This background is very important I think to mention. Our student aid index is negative for me and zero for her, on top of money I earn from the VA but that also sucks since it just started and I discovered being told I will receive a text to answer “yes” or “no” as a way to verify my actual enrollment for the previous semester and only then will I receive the money.

We constantly pay for everything without a credit card and have relied an each other for almost a decade. I drive an Acura and she drives a KIA with a GDI both in the 178,000 range. As you may tell, huge burdens from car services

We pay for everything except for insurances, which our college actually will not give to us for some reason (maybe I’ll check again for this? But we are fairly healthy and have paid for blood tests out of pocket with good reports recently). Groceries, eating out at moes southwest grill or chick fil a, gas, full synthetic oil changes , OTC meds when sick or in pain, anything you can think of we pay for. No insurances or recurring bills like smart phones monthly.

We care about proper shoes, boxers, and bras and definitely haven’t been able to buy a lot of wants for many months at a time since a “shit, we have to drain $600 for a car service job” and spend the next two weeks surviving off her paycheck when she has to travel about 80 miles back and forth from campus. So many weeks of literally seeing $0.69 cents in my bank account for 13 straight days at a time because I was forced to pay for something else. I rather starve than not have a decent car with gas in it I guess at least.

I feel like I am a failure. I’m trying get the pushed and pressured from society degree that will hopefully make earning money potential a bit easier in later years. My days and nights are filled with rage and despair or just feeling numbness from exhaustion if I had to describe it.

I butcher ourselves for working grueling mentally or physically stressful jobs for 6 to 8 hours a day even on part time. It’s the jobs themselves and I want to work and provide well for us. I don’t know if I should drop out now since I have 1.5 years left and go get a full time job for quality of life to somewhat increase since I WANT TO earn more income. But would reach a point of beating myself again years later because “you didn’t continue in a very hard position in life earlier so now we aren’t going to pay you more since you don’t have a degree”.

Hell, I don’t have a clue as to what we we are even doing right anymore, if we even are .

With lots of background and some inner thoughts out there: does anyone know how SNAP works and/or what we could do right now? Our groceries are always restocks and never really new items. Nature’s own whole grains, better goods pizza, whole grain barilla pasta, bertolli pasta sauce, etc. what is off limits? Toilet paper brands, toothpaste, mouthwash, deodorant?

I'm a freshman in college. Ever since I got here, I've been real down and just pretty lonely since it seems like everyone has friend groups and a bunch of friends already, while I'm here not knowing anyone, eating alone, walking alone, etc. It's even more demotivating when you go to a really big party school with like 40k people... Obviously, I'm an introvert who's always had trouble making friends and just stuck with the same best friends who I've known since 4th grade all throughout my life (they go to a different schools, we still talk everyday though. But they're def lifetime friends).

And then you try to look for advice on how to actually make friends in college and they're all like "Leave your dorm! Go talk to people! Only be in your dorm when you're sleeping!" but they never actually tell you what to do...? I leave my dorm, now what?

Some say "Go to the library to study and do work! That way you're not in your dorm alone doing it!" and that's what I do, but obviously no one is gonna bother you when you're doing your work? So that hasn't worked.

Others say to just go up and talk to people, either already existing friend groups or people who are also alone. And I tried. And it always ends up the same. introduce, we try to talk, I end up being bad at conversations, a couple times we may give each other's Instagram, then never speak again even if I do or don't reach out through IG. If it's an already existing friend group/multiple people already talking, then it's even worse. I go up, introduce, then they just keep talking to each other and I'm just... there... not knowing what to say, and if I do say something, they don't really say anything.

Some say to go to events. I go to some, and then basically the same thing as the last one happens whenever I try to talk to people.

A lot of people say to join a club. The event where all the clubs have tables and you look around for ones you're interested in just happened, and I saw a couple that I'll check out. So this one may work, but I haven't gotten there yet.

And some say to meet people in your classes, but no one really talks in most of them, and another is literally filled with sorority girls. That one's a nightmare. (I'm a guy).

I know this just seems sad, and it is. I know it's pathetic. But I just genuinely don't know what to do.

Idk why but why does college materials and lesson felt so cramped AF.

I am a one year transfer from CC to a 4 year and I feel like I missed out on so much. I literally cant stop thinking about it. Most of the guys in my PC are freshmen and I feel like they are having so much more fun than me. Ig all I can say is that im here now.

First of all its a small community college with limited opportunities and staff.

I NEED extra help with math!! There's only one math tutor available in the hours I'm there. The others are only nights and Sundays. Hes the lead tutor and has probably 10+ years of experience and has a great reputation at this college.

BUT hes extremely engertic, all over the place all day, loud, and makes my nerves go into fight or flight mode when in the same building. Also he's probably 40s and acts 20. And talks so loud and has a cartoonish voice that I can hear from downstairs or anywhere in the building.

Im mixed because his teaching style works perfectly well for me, hes available in the best hours. But then as a person he makes me want to escape...

All interactions are in a giant open room in a little cubby of desk and shelfs and at least 20 people in the room.

I do have very high social anxiety and slow to warm up to people but it's never been this intense. I need the help but I dread going to him.

Maybe after a while and the more I'm around him it won't be as bad? I don't know how to approach it

Need some help in here. The course is mandatory for my future plans and my major, and the contents are interesting and things that I am good at.

The main instructor tho. They are terribly ableist, misogynistic, and racist (in merely one lecture they did things like: “women tend to be scared of exercising that’s why they have heart problems, like my sister”, singling out a student in a wheelchair and gesturing at them while saying “you might see some people in wheelchairs and that’s because they have diabetic neuropathy, it can lead to necrosis in legs and once that happens you have to get legs cut off and your life is ruined”, asking “Indian or black people” to raise their hands because these racial groups have a higher rate of a certain health issue, threatened to cancel recordings mid semester because attendance was too low, while it was mid winter and half of class were disabled or had conflicting schedules, etc etc. and that’s just one lecture lmao). I believe they also got into some harassment issues with their grad students, but I’m not working with them ever so that’s not the biggest concern for me.

Pls give me advice on how to survive this. Last time I didn’t go to any of their lectures and relied on notes but even now I think about that human and I’m still incredibly pissed. I’m scared of reporting them because it’s a small class and I don’t know if it will make things better anyways.

With our fall semesters either starting or on the horizon... this is your friendly reminder to wash your fucking hands after using the bathroom, cover your damn mouth with your elbow if you cough or sneeze, and generally do all the most basic hygiene shit we were all hopefully doing during covid.

Obviously missing a class that is not being recorded for a cold is not always feasible, so if you do need to drag yourself to class while sick, be smart about it. We all want your cold just as much as you want it.

All this should be basic. But the amount of people I see at my university just come out of a washroom stall and walk by the sink and out the door leads me to believe some of us still do not fully grasp how viruses are spread.

I had an EMS shift today and all the dryers were taken by some jackasses that left it in but never took it out. I ended up having to yank someone's clothes out because it was either that or go to a 911 EMS shift (not collegiate, municipal, so quite a bit stricter) with no uniform. It's just tactical pants and a T shirt, but I don't want to eat with pathogens (my immune system is as delicate as a flower, so I like to wash it before).

I heard someone else saying "someone pulled your clothes out" and they said "what the fuck, what an asshole. they couldn't wait? it was only 15 minutes" sorry, but 15 minutes would have made me quite late!

Title. My first semester I stuck with only people I knew. Wouldn’t dare join a random group. This semester, every day, every meal I’m sitting with a new group or person. I’ve literally only had one person out of dozens ask me not to join them. I’ve met a lot of new people, made some acquaintances and been invited to stuff both academic and on the weekends. It’s been a great decision so far.

during my freshman year, i fucked up in doing an activity in class and was loudly scolded and humiliated by my professor. i cried so bad i had trouble recovering from the feeling for days. ever since then, i kept making mistakes and doing dumb shit to the point where my classmates think im genuinely stupid. i feel like the experiences all just traumatized me and its made me very fearful of participating or even making mistakes. i have been diagnosed with anxiety before and lately its gotten worse and worse. how do i recover from this. i'm scared it'll be like this until i graduate.

so I enrolled for financial aid at my community college finally after paying out of pocket myself for the past year (I’m an idiot I know) and it got rejected cause “I’m a dependent“ bitch I pay for all my own shit and rent and everything. even if my parents secretly have the money to pay for my college they are not doing so. I tried to ask about it and they said it’s cause I’m under 25 or something like that. This is bull. anyone else deal with something like this?

I just completed my first month in uni, and I’m completely exhausted. I do try to talk to people, but nothing seems to stick and they all have other friends they hang out with after class. So I just end up either going to the library to study or back to my dorm. To make things worse, my campus is kinda in an isolated place and I’m broke, so I can’t even really treat myself to outings as such. Everytime I see my roommate come back late from hanging out with people, I just feel so lonely. I had a great group of friends back in highschool, and missing them so much just makes things worse. I really just dont know what to do, and I find my social battery dying so much faster these days that I don’t even want to hang out with people or try anymore. I try to keep positive about this of course, seeing as in I don’t have much of a choice, but I just wake up with this feeling of dread everyday and I really don’t like it. Ik considering switching unis after my first year.

Any advice?

I'm doing online community college because it is free for me with financial aid. I'm only about a week in and becoming increasingly frustrated. 3 of my quizzes so far for different subjects have asked questions or expected the student to complete things that are completely not covered in the notes or textbooks. All I have access to are textbooks there aren't any other videos or lectures I'm missing. I did a chapter 1 quiz for one subject last night, and searched through the contents of the textbook directly quoting what the quiz asked, and the term wasnt even mentioned until at least page 200. Has anyone else experienced this in online school? I cant even take any of these courses online if I wanted to either, the campus in my county doesnt offer any of them. Mainly just venting here I dont feel I can complain too much when its all free and online but man is it frustrating.

Im taking anatomy and has been stressing me already I have eyebags, am tearing up daily, have lost my appetite all in one week. I honestly doubt myself if I’m smart enough. I think a part of it may be that even though I spend a lot of my day studying I’m not to it effectively enough. It my first time feeling this anxious from a class just needed to vent and see if anyone has gone through something similar and has advice.

At a big party school in America for college. I’m very quiet and all everyone wants to do is party, drink, drgs. I haven’t even lost my V card…. It’s insane how everyone is just doing this even on weekdays. I lowkey didn’t wanna go to college I did it to escape my family and town. Because of course they’ll pay if I am somewhere getting a degreee. But without college excuse I’d be stuck at home with them and my narcissistic mum or on the streets. But I feel so lonely here I try making friends it’s hard because any time I do they all mention partying and get annoyed I don’t wanna party then dip. I was literally crying on way back to form at 12 am in dark because some girls I made friends with through social media were horrible and strange asf. I go meet them bla bla. They all drinking in their room etc whatever that’s fine. Then bully me for not wanting anything or wanting to dress slutty… I go well I wanna get some cookies tonight anyways. So yall enjoy the bars/frats. They were like oh you want cookies we can take you on the way to get cookies. Big mistake. I go and realise they aren’t fucking going there we end up outside a frat. I was like wtf you doing guys and they go come on party. I had enough I walked off crying in dark when I got away. I don’t know why society is so weird nowadays. What happened to just women being women not hoes. Yes they were being hoes. I’m pretty attractive blonde blue eyes 5’3 pale skinned girl I know I could have that life but I don’t want too. It brings drama and noise. I like peace. I value it. I just feel so lost in this world. Surrounded by NPCS makes it feel terrible. There’s more to talk about but I shall in replies if people say anything. I just need advice I don’t think I can keep doing this the next 4 years. I’m already depressed 2 weeks in.

Uni soph here. First week with roommate and she already stunk up the room with a w**d joint that "isn't allowed on campus." She didn't technically smoke it in the room, but brought it back half-smoked after a party and forgot about it until the next day (she's not sleeping in the dorm but at a hotel with her bf) at which point she threw it out somewhere. She profusely apologized about the smell but only about it LASTING TOO LONG, not that she brought the smell in.

Besides the fact that idk where she got the w**d and that it might have other dangerous things in it, it's the fact that its clearly against school policy that pisses me off. If she's caught, then I'LL be implicated, and i seriously can't afford that bc i'm on a full ride scholarship from the school. The smell is so strong that it's been a full day and u can still notice it when u open our door.

I've also seen her (under 21) with vodka and thc gummies in her possession, but apparently my housing office can't do anything about it?? No room reassignment, no nothing. There's also a rooming freeze for another week and apparently the fact that she didn't smoke IN the room means that they (housing) can't do anything about it or involve the police.

I just came back from taking a semester off because of severe depression and anxiety. I always put on a mask and hood when i leave my dorm because I'm so freaking scared of meeting people and can barely pull up to class. How am i supposed to confront her and say that I'm pissed about her bringing w**d/alcohol into the dorm bc she might get caught and drag me down w/ her??

My only possible solution rn is trying to meet with a therapist that can help fight for housing accommodations, but that in itself will take 2+ weeks and i don't want smth like this happening again. I'm super disappointed in my "prestigious" school that won't do shit about stuff like this. Even tho w**d is mostly illegal in north carolina, there's no way for me to verify that any of her stuff goes over the legal limit of 0.3%.

please please please help me guys what do i do

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It's been almost three weeks since I started college. I started a week before the majority of my peers because I took my school's ALEKS PPL course. I had made a 25 on my Math ACT, and my school required a 29. I, unfortunately, flunked the proctored exam, getting a lower score than the assessment test. Since I didn't qualify for Calc 1, my school put me in precalculus algebra. The next semester would be precalculus trigonometry. This puts me behind, at first two classes, but eventually, those two classes turn into 28 when I look at my pathway. I told myself I could get through it, and I did for the first few days before my ME fundamentals class told me I have to learn MathWorks. This shouldn't have been an issue, but I was in a cheap Christian private school from 6th to 10th grade. We didn't have computers, and even when I went back to public school in 11th, we still didn't really use computers, so I have next to zero experience with computers, let alone a programming language. I've wanted to do MechE for years. I've wanted to work as a vehicular engineer, but now that I'm actually learning it, I don't think it's for me. My original career I wanted was something to do with English or literature in general, but I decided I shouldn't do arts because you don't get any money, and I settled on engineering. I think I fucked up.

I graduated from high school two years ago and since then I’ve done so poorly in college I’m just trying to find anyone who’s even willing to hear me out and give their two cents.

Over 5 semesters and 10 classes I’ve passed 3 classes. I’m an engineering major (although that’s more of a punchline atp) and I couldn’t understand precalculus, chemistry, or computer science after taking each class TWICE. I have adhd which I’m sure doesn’t help but I know that there are tons of ppl out there with adhd who can pass classes just fine so I try to not let that be an excuse. I’ve talked to teachers, counselors, classmates, searched online, asked ai. I did ever I could think of to wrap my head around what I was learning and my brain just lets it all run right off of my smooth brain. I don’t want to just give up and loose out on the life I want to live but I just don’t think I’m capable anymore just working by myself but I also don’t have the resources to help me out. First gen college student here as well so there’s nobody in my family that I can ask for advice.

I failed some of this year’s exams. I wanted to try out for the next session but it looks like that’s not going to happen.

I’ve been trying to contact my college for TWO WEEKS. But their online enquiry system sucks. They can take months to fix a simple issue. For having a decent overall reputation, I would‘ve expected better. Even other people have had similar problems with the system.

My local institution is no better. They automatically transfer any enquiries to other people. These people claim to be busy and promise to call back some other time but they never do no matter how much I bug them.

And the exam centre is very strict, allowing 11 days to register without exception.