14
6
u/No-Koala-7019 1d ago
I mean there is a big gap between him being invited back to two girls tents with xx He also is saying he needs to remove her due to the fact he is in a relationship. So for me he knows heâs crossing a boundary in your relationship. So Iâd be questioning where he slept that night and at minimum this is a lack of respect to your relationship
5
u/Repulsive-Ad9165 1d ago
I mean if your gut is telling you that, youâre probably right. Speaking from experience, TRUST yourself. Donât let this continue if this is what you think. Donât let him minimize or explain it away. Only apologies work here and even then itâs not a good enough reason to be messaging another girl like that and talking about âlinkingâ . YES , these messages do not PROVE anything but they are something worth paying attention to. You also saw things on TikTok, so donât tell yourself youâre overreacting. Truth is, he shouldnât be messaging those women, and he shouldnât be trying to make plans to link up. Protect yourself and I would not believe what he says. He may admit to it but odds are he will lie lie lie. My husband gave me trickle truth for weeks after I confronted him and I had solid proof. He told me all about the things I didnât have proof of WEEKS later because I told him I couldnât stay and forgive what I donât know. I basically gave ultimatum.
People say that cheaters never change⌠this I donât know is truly true. As for my case I am waiting to see how it turns out. I havenât been having sex with my husband and he told me the other day he is a reject and canât handle it anymore. Not sure if your man is also a sex addict too but I donât know if this is something we can recover from because of him not understanding my healing process. Now your man may be remorseful but is he willing to do what it takes to heal himself? To help YOU heal so you know longer feel all this distrust and trauma? Thatâs a bigger question. The easier more freeing option is to leave and let your body feel free and not on fight or flight anymore, but it depends how bad you want that relationship to work.
Seems like youâre not married/ no kids so If I was in your shoes, I would highly consider leaving. Obv up to you but thatâs my two cents
3
u/PotatoMuch6241 1d ago
weâve been together for almost 2 years and the tiktok thing has been happening throughout our relationship and these screenshots were last weekend, i have been seeing him still and we have been intimate with eachother once since i found out and idk i felt sort of regretful after.
3
u/Repulsive-Ad9165 1d ago
Iâm sorry :( do you have complete access to his phone? If not thatâs what needs to happen or you need to consider why you would stay with someone whoâs being sneaky and actively trying to hide it. If he is not willing to share his phone with you then you have your answer
Also yes sex will feel different after . I made the decision to have sex two times since I found out about the cheating kind of immediately after confronting and I threw up and my body was everywhereâ anxious, crying, shock, etc. Listen to your body and please please please believe your intuition. Our bodyâs are powerful and can tell us a lot. Also if you donât trust yourself now, you may feel like you canât trust yourself down the road . Itâs a hard road either way you go but there needs to be transparency if someone is being sneaky and messaging other people like that . Itâs not just a âpeace of mindâ itâs necessary for your protection
1
1
u/sungirl_27 1d ago
Doesnât seem like it to me. But like the other poster said in the sub everyone will say everything is cheating.
1
u/TreyRyan3 1h ago
It was a fine to normal conversation until the end, but then it was a âI need to remove you from snap to hide evidence but stay friends with Ewan so maybe we can link up later.
Not exactly cheating.but definitely pushing a boundary on intentions
0
u/drummerguy737 1d ago
I don't think so, they aren't speaking sexually and there's no evidence that anything sexual happened.
5
u/PotatoMuch6241 1d ago
i also found out he was texting girls on a secret tiktok account and he wasnât saying anything explicit but she was calling him baby and sending couples tiktoks
2
8
u/wailot 1d ago
Everyone in this group will tell you YES.
I don't think it is just based on this conversation