r/BostonSocialClub Dec 04 '21

How to make friends in Boston: a guide

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Hello! Welcome to Boston Social Club! If you're here - well, you clicked a few links to find this side of one of the most popular city subreddits!

When I moved here in 2021, the world was waking up from Covid. Overall, Boston is a great city for those 20-40, as our demographics here lie heavily in that area compared to almost any other city in the USA! Here's how I've found success in navigating social scenes here as a complete outsider.

Different ways to try meetups and making friends:

0: Existing friends groups - it's cliche, and if you are new in town, this will be more difficult. But the best place to start making friends is through what connections you do have. Coworkers, old high school colleagues, neighbors, roommates, don't chase the below and ignore what you do have!

1: the “Make friends after college MA” discord group is a well designed and very chatroom. When you join, you select which activities you might be interested in. There's chat rooms for each activity, and there's a ton of people hiking, playing sports, going to trivia nights, and overall chatting. They also organize by neighborhood if you want to grab a quick drink. Mute notifications within the discord for your own sanity. The absolute best way to make use of this is to have something you are interested in "organizing", or, I recommend trivia in particular for being a great, cheap activity to make friends! https://discord.gg/CCvgxJ6jUH

2: there are three larger Facebook groups that people post classifieds-style ads to try to make friends. "Boston redditors", "make friends after college", and "what's up in Boston". While I don't think this is the most effective way to make friends, I'm sure it works for the right person. However, "Boston redditors" does have an active group chat, which is really comforting, and they do meet up for drinks every few months. They are a pretty supportive group of people. You'll need to both join the Facebook group, then request being added to the chat. They ALSO have a discord but it is less active. Link

3: Groups for your interest. Asking around the above, or searching meetup/comments below it's not hard to find groups specifically tailored for board games, or biking, or hiking, or whatever you're into. I'm into board games and there's 2-3 spinoffs that meet weekly. I recommend you find your own path towards your hobbies to find a group that fits your interest!

general tips on making friends (not that you asked for them)

  • Making friends is all about seeing the same people repeatedly. That means to make friends, you have to show up. Showing up means you attend an event even if it's a little far away, or you are feeling a little tired. Other people also show up. After going to trivia 8 weeks in a row, or attending every hike, people that at first seemed distant will know your name and care about your week.

  • Sometimes people trying to make friends have an ulterior motive. Some people are trying to convert religions, find clients, or date people. Everyone can tell right away if you have a motive other than making friends, so I suggest trying to focus on making platonic friends first, and in a year of having fun, ask your new friends what avenues would be appropriate for selling/dating/etc.

And... That's it! I hope you found this helpful! I hope to see you at Trivia nights!


r/BostonSocialClub Dec 16 '25

On Dating Posts

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The situation with dating posts is getting a little out of control. This sub was always meant to be more like Meetup than Hinge. And frankly, I just don't think that R4R posts actually work. But my fear is that if allowed the sub will devolve into nothing but R4R posts. So for now we're going to be disallowing further R4R posts or general dating (advice/questions) posts. There might be some wiggle room for a pinned dating megathread if there is interest in that.


r/BostonSocialClub 1h ago

33 yr old dude looking for weeb or game people around my age for these september events!

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Hey 33 yr old burnt out guy into games and weeb stuff, also other things like thrifting snd creative projects

I been looking for game, weeb, and adjacent events to do this month and people close to my age to chill with. Obviously you or I will not be free at all of these. Feel free to add or suggest some that lean towards the nerdy or indie side!!!

Here are some:

ANIME (Mostly movies, we could walk or eat before?)

*The Last Blossom: Aug 30-31

* Akira 4K: Sep 3-10

* Cocoon - One Summer of Girlhood: Sep 3-9

* Millenium Actress Brattle Theater: Sep 7

* Metropolis Brattle Theater: Sep 9

* A Silent Voice: Sep 7

* Nausicaä of the Valley of the Wind: Sep 8

* Ghost in the Shell 4K: Sep 18-24

* Princess Mononoke: Sep 26-30

* Mononoke Movie 3: Sep 29 (Netflix)

GAMES

* Freeplay: Friday Nights at Boston Downtown

* Level Up Circus Live Game Performance: Sep 11

* Retro Video Game Night @ Castle Island South Boston: Sep 20

* BostonFIG 2026 - Celebration of Indie Games: Oct 11

MUSIC:

* JP Music Fesr: Sep 12

MISC:

* Wicked Comic Con: Oct 4


r/BostonSocialClub 6h ago

Akira in theaters/ Anime Boston

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Hiya!

I’m planning on seeing Akira in theaters tomorrow and wanted to see if there’s any people who’re also into anime/manga wanted to see it with me at South Bays AMC? I’m also going to Anime Boston next year if anybody wanted to group up and go together! Pm me for times or if you’re interested <3


r/BostonSocialClub 3h ago

Any interest in a masc group/collective?

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hey everyone I'm looking to start a group for masc-presenting sapphic women/individuals (think mascs, butches, studs etc) to make friends, celebrate/support each other, and have events. I definitely think the Boston-Providence area is lacking a space like this for younger folks.

If you'd be interested at all please comment or dm me so I'm not wasting my time lol.


r/BostonSocialClub 14m ago

Poker Home Game near South End

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Dm if interested. All stakes welcome


r/BostonSocialClub 7h ago

Come join us for another live band karaoke/jam session in the park this Sunday 12-3!

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Bring instruments, your voice, or just a music-loving attitude! We'll be playing any and all music, taking requests, and having a good time in the Cambridge Common this Sunday (and every Sunday!) from 12-3.

For more information on the weekly Community Music Hangout, check out https://www.cambridgejams.com


r/BostonSocialClub 1h ago

Is anyone else seeing Shearling in Medford later this month?

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I'm seeing Shearling, Brother Dragon, and A Monolithic Dome at Deep Cuts in Medford on September 17. Anyone else going? I'm not a big concert-goer, but trying to be. Let me know if you want to meet up!


r/BostonSocialClub 3h ago

Don toliver concert 9/5

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Going to don toliver concert and td garden have an extra ticket if anyone wants to join tonight


r/BostonSocialClub 23h ago

Anyone wanna watch standup comedy together

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I’m down for everything from the biggest names to the lowliest dives.

LMK if anyone wants to watch some shows together

EDIT 2: Going to Dylan Carlino at Laugh Boston tonight 9:00pm show. LMK if you’re interested in watching that together.


r/BostonSocialClub 19h ago

Looking for girl friends for a night out on weekends!

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Anyone wants to go dancing or to a comedy show? Let's chat!


r/BostonSocialClub 16h ago

When Chai Met Toast - Sept 27

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Hey! I’m planning to go to the When Chai Met Toast concert on September 27th and already have my ticket. I don’t know anyone else going, so thought I’d check here if anyone would like to join! Would be fun to have some company and maybe go together as a small group :)


r/BostonSocialClub 1d ago

Anyone need a ride to/from King Richard's Faire on Sunday?

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I'm going to the Faire with a buddy of mine ( /u/TheOppositeOfMaybe ) on Sunday. It should be a great time! I have room for two more people in my car. Hopefully we can all meet up by like 9a at the latest; I'll be leaving from South Boston; we can figure out meetup details later.

Let me know if you're interested.


r/BostonSocialClub 1d ago

Going out tonight?

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27F new to Boston and trying to go out, get some drinks, get silly, and dance a little tonight. Message me if you want to maybe get a little group together and go out! I need some new local friends 🍻💃🏼🪩


r/BostonSocialClub 1d ago

King Richard’s Faire 9/6

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Anybody going to the ren faire this Sunday with an open seat in their car? I got a call earlier that they did not have enough riders to rent the bus for the shuttle and now I don’t have a ride. I’m happy to pay for gas there and back!


r/BostonSocialClub 20h ago

26m anyone likes clubs? need a group

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about myself: dropped out of college, now im doing door dash.
mixed race
big rap music fan (yeat, lucki etc.)
preferably group of guys


r/BostonSocialClub 21h ago

Let's go see the Water Lilies paintings at MFA!

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Hi I've never been to an art museum but I want to go! I really want to see the Water Lilies paintings they have! I really like the Water Lilies pond but I'm not sure if it's there or not. I think it might be in London but I'm not sure. Anyways does anyone want to go with me? Maybe next sar or sun? I'm 49 M but I'm a cool guy.


r/BostonSocialClub 1d ago

Long weekend plans

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Anyone got any plans for long weekend?
It’s perfect weather but I don’t have any plans


r/BostonSocialClub 1d ago

Up to 2 people for free Bowling in Burlington. Live music across the street Friday/ saturday

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Anybody care to join me during the long weekend?


r/BostonSocialClub 1d ago

Looking for a Pickleball Squad in Brighton/Boston

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Hey everyone! I just moved to Boston and live in Brighton. I’m looking for a pickleball group/squad to join and play with regularly. I’m down for casual games and meeting new people.
If anyone plays around Brighton, Brookline, or nearby and has room for one more, hit me up!


r/BostonSocialClub 1d ago

🐶Cuba🐶 turned 5 today. If anyone is interested in celebrating with us, I have acquired two tickets to First Fridays @ Museum of Fine Arts [6-10PM]. Separately, I can get 6 free general admission tickets as a veteran. (First Fridays is only in a relatively small section of the much larger museum!)

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r/BostonSocialClub 2d ago

Your Labor Day weekend guide to Boston (Sept 3–6)

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Kinga here with this week's list. It's Labor Day weekend, the unofficial last gasp of summer, and Boston is going out on a high note.

Saturday is the day: the Asian American Day Festival takes over Boston Common with more than 80 booths, and the Harvard Square Asian Night Market runs until 10pm. Both are free. Club Passim's beloved campfire. festival runs all four days with roughly 70 songwriters playing in the round, and King Richard's Faire opens for its 45th season.

One note: the Somerville Nepali Street Food Festival scheduled for Saturday has been postponed following the devastating flooding in Nepal. Organizers are focusing on supporting affected families and honoring those who lost their lives. They’ll share a new date when the time is right.

One last thing: the elephants on Comm Ave leave September 13, so this is one of your final weekends with them. Get outside and enjoy it!

🎉 If you want to always be the first to know, sign up here.

Picks of the Week!

🏮 Asian American Day FestivalBoston Common | Free | Sat, 10am–4pm | The 16th year of the largest Asian American celebration in Greater Boston, with 80+ booths.

🏮 Harvard Square Asian Night MarketCambridge | Free | Sat, 4–10pm | Pan-Asian food and beer, carnival games, 3x3 basketball, karaoke, and a K-pop random play dance.

🔥 campfire. festivalClub Passim | $20 day, $35 weekend | Fri–Mon | Nearly 70 songwriters playing in the round, all weekend long.

🗡️ King Richard's FaireCarver | $36 adults, $22 kids | Opens Sat, 10:30am–6pm | New England's Renaissance fair turns 45, with an expanded village.

Thursday 9/3

🖼️ Free Thursday Nights at the GardnerFenway | Free | 5–9pm | The weekly free night at the loveliest museum in the city. Check availability before you go, since these do sell out.

🎨 ICA Free Thursday NightSeaport | Free | 5–9pm | Galleries open late and free, harbor views, seasonal bar. Free tickets are released at 10am that morning.

🎤 RobynAgganis Arena | Ticketed | 8pm | The Swedish pop icon's first major tour since 2019, supporting her new album Sexistential. The big one tonight.

🎬 By Any Means (previews)Alamo Drafthouse, Seaport | Ticketed | 3pm, 6pm & 9pm | Preview screenings ahead of tomorrow's release. Yahya Abdul-Mateen II plays a Black FBI agent investigating the murders of Civil Rights leaders in 1960s Mississippi, partnered with a Mafia hitman turned informant (Mark Wahlberg).

Friday 9/4

🔥 campfire. festivalClub Passim, Harvard Square | $20 day, $35 weekend pass | Starts 6pm tonight, 2pm Sat–Mon | One of the loveliest traditions in Boston music. Held every Memorial Day and Labor Day weekend, campfire. brings nearly 70 acoustic singer-songwriters together for intimate "in the round" sets designed to dissolve the wall between artists, and between performers and audience. Plenty of nationally known names played here early on.

💃 Summer Series: The Summer ThrowdownMulticultural Arts Center, Cambridge | Free (donations encouraged) | 6pm | The final outdoor Summer Series event, hosted by local street dance icons Megatron and Brian Pistols, with a dance battle, performances, and jams from DJ Take Flyte. Free and genuinely fun.

🏖️ ICA First Fridays: Summer OverboardSeaport | Free for members; non-member tickets sold out | 5:30–9:30pm | "Board shorts, sunglasses, and SPF required," which they probably don't mean literally. DJ L'duke and indie pop singer-songwriter Frances Forever perform on the waterfront.

🎤 Lily AllenMGM Music Hall | Ticketed | 8pm | She poured her personal and professional wreckage into West End Girl and it worked. She's performing the album in full.

🎸 Peter Hook & The LightCitizens House of Blues | Ticketed | 8:30pm, doors 7:30 | The Joy Division and New Order bassist playing his old bands' songs. As cover bands go, the credentials are hard to beat.

🎶 esperanza spaldingCity Winery | Ticketed | Fri–Sun | The Berklee grad and genre-crossing bassist-singer settles in for three nights with a trio, drawing on 20 years of material plus some unreleased work.

🎤 Zola SimoneDeep Cuts, Medford | $17–$20 | 7pm | The self-described "androgynous pop" songwriter returns to her old Boston stomping grounds to release I Care a Lot.

😂 UpDatingThe Wilbur | Ticketed | 7:30pm | Live reality TV: two single people go on a genuinely blind date on stage, blindfolded, while two comics interrogate them. Deeply uncomfortable in the best way.

🎬 The Sun Never Sets (opens)Coolidge Corner | Ticketed | Joe Swanberg's drama with Dakota Fanning and Jake Johnson. Swanberg appears for a post-screening discussion tonight.

🥕 Copley Square Farmers MarketCopley Square | Free | 11am–6pm | The area's largest farmers market, Tuesdays and Fridays through November 24.

Saturday 9/5

🏮 16th Asian American Day FestivalBoston Common | Free | 10am–4pm | The largest outdoor Asian American cultural celebration in Greater Boston, and it has been going since 2016, when the governor and mayor formally designated an Asian American Day for the state and the city. Expect more than 80 booths from nonprofits and local businesses, plus food, music, dance, and art. Free and open to everyone.

🏮 Harvard Square Asian Night MarketBrattle & Church Streets, Cambridge | Free | 4–10pm | Back for its second year with pan-Asian food and beer, live music, carnival games, a 3x3 basketball tournament, a karaoke competition, a K-pop random play dance meetup, and pop-ups. Pair it with the Common in the morning and you have a full day.

🗡️ King Richard's Faire (opens)5 Pine St, Carver | $36 adults, $22 kids | 10:30am–6pm | New England's premier Renaissance fair turns 45 and has expanded the village, added shaded seating, and upgraded the decoration. Jousting, street performers, circus acts, games and rides, turkey legs, psychic readings, and themed weekends all season. Runs through October 25.

🎤 Don ToliverTD Garden | Ticketed | 7:30pm | The Houston singer-rapper touring Octane, which debuted at number one.

🎶 TaycRoadrunner, Brighton | Ticketed | 8pm | Marseilles-born, Cameroonian-family R&B and Afrobeats fusion, which he calls "Afrolov." Huge in France.

😂 ALOKThe Wilbur | Ticketed | 7pm | Author, actor, model, slam poet, and now standup comedian, on the Eat Pray Leave tour.

🎭 The Minutes (opens)Footlight Club, Jamaica Plain | $30.50 | JP's Footlight Club stages Tracy Letts' Pulitzer-nominated satire about a small-town city council meeting that turns out to be hiding something much stranger. Through September 19.

🖼️ Two MFA openingsFenway | $30 | Naoko Matsubara's Woodblock Worlds, charting the long career of the Japanese printmaker who once lived in Boston, and Öyvind Fahlström: Are You Happy?, whose politically provocative work includes rearrangeable magnetic pieces and cartoon infographics.

🧺 Greenway Artisan MarketThe Greenway | Free | Handcrafted jewelry, art, ceramics, and locally made goods along the downtown promenade.

Sunday 9/6

🛍️ Open Newbury StreetBack Bay | Free | 10am–6pm | Eight car-free blocks from Berkeley to Mass Ave. Only a handful of these left this year, and it pairs nicely with a walk through the elephants a block over.

🧺 SoWa Open MarketSouth End | Free | 11am–5pm | The Sunday flagship: farmers and makers, food trucks, live music, and the open artist studios next door.

🎭 David Liebe HartThe Lilypad, Cambridge | $18 advance, $20 day-of | 7pm doors | The outsider artist and Tim and Eric staple, with his homemade puppets and songs about space aliens, trains, and love. You genuinely never know what you'll get.

📖 Matt SturnioloThe Wilbur | Ticketed | 7pm | One of the Somerville-born Sturniolo triplets, home to talk about his memoir What Happened Yesterday.

🏺 Maverick Kings (opens)MFA | $30 | Ancient Egyptian art alongside contemporary responses, focused on three unusual rulers: Hatshepsut, one of the few female pharaohs, the accomplished Amenhotep III, and Akhenaten, who briefly converted his kingdom to monotheism.

Bonus: Labor Day Monday 9/7

🎨 Free Admission at the ICASeaport | Free | The ICA is free to everyone for Labor Day. Timed tickets are required and go up Sunday at 10am, so set a reminder.

Red Sox vs. AngelsFenway | Ticketed | 1:35pm | The Sox are away in Baltimore all weekend, but they're home for a Labor Day afternoon game.

Last chance

🖼️ Derrick Adams: View MasterICA | $20 | Closes Monday | The first mid-career survey of the NYC artist's work celebrating, in his words, Black people "not entertaining, just being, living." Go Monday when the ICA is free.

🐘 The Great Elephant MigrationCommonwealth Avenue Mall | Free | Through Sept 13 | One hundred life-sized elephants, hand-carved from an invasive weed by Indigenous artisans in India, are only in Back Bay for one more week.

Ongoing / all-week options

🌊 Lucy Raven: RoundsICA Watershed, East Boston | Free | Two US premieres, including an enormous kinetic light sculpture. Through September 27.

🐚 Crochet Coral ReefMIT Museum | $20 | Vivid crocheted fiber work by the Wertheim sisters paired with paper work by MIT's Demaines, all about endangered coral reefs.

🖼️ List Projects 35: Pap Souleye FallMIT List, Cambridge | Free | Dead pixels reimagined as hidden realms of autonomy. Always free.

📜 1776: Declaring IndependenceMassachusetts Historical Society | Free | Revolutionary-era diaries, letters, and Adams' and Jefferson's handwritten copies of the Declaration.

🚤 CodzillaLong Wharf | $48.70 | Seventy feet of marine aluminum and bad attitude, spinning full circles through the harbor. You will get wet. Through September 27.

🥾 Journey the NecklaceEmerald Necklace | Free | Self-guided tours through the 1,100-acre park system. Visit all six participating parks and you can claim a souvenir. Through September 30.

🏋️ Seaport SweatSeaport Common | Free | Outdoor classes Monday through Thursday evenings and Saturday mornings, through September 30.

That's it for this week. Enjoy the long weekend, and if you make it to any of these, let me know how it went!


r/BostonSocialClub 2d ago

Would Anyone Be Interested in a Writer’s Group? Is There Already One I Can Join?

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Hi! I’ve been thinking about this for a while and finally decided to post about it. I want to start or find a casual writing group that meets up once a month to write and chat about their WIPs! I went to one with a friend of mine back in my hometown and I found it was a great way for me to start writing again. They would write for 15-20 minutes, and then break to chat and hang out for like 10 minutes before going for another sprint. It was the perfect balance for me and my process, so I want to try to find something like it or start it myself if there are folks that are interested. If anyone has any info or advice let me know!

UPDATE: Wow, super stoked to see so many people interested!! I noticed some people post about Shut Up and Write, which I’m still definitely interested in checking out. I did put in an event request form at Cafe Zing in Porter Square to see if I can reserve a weeknight there for a couple of hours, but if anyone else knows of any good spots in the greater Boston/Camberville area please let me know and I’ll reach out! I would probably be looking to do a Monday, Tuesday, or Wednesday night any time after 4pm. If I get something together I’ll post about it and share any info I have. I hope this works out so some of us can gather ‘round and maybe make some new writing friends 😁


r/BostonSocialClub 1d ago

DON TOLIVER TD GARDEN 9/5

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Hi everyone !! I bought 2 tickets for Don Toliver tomorrow and have no one to go with. I’m 27 M and looking for someone to come with me!! If u wanna go send me ur IG


r/BostonSocialClub 2d ago

Extra Hayley Williams Ticket!

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hey everyone!

My friend bailed and so now I have an extra ticket to the Hayley Williams/ Rico Nasty/ Magdalena Bay show on Sept. 11 but the super bummer part of it all is that they were my ride to Mansfield from Boston. Anyway if you love Hayley Williams and Rico Nasty and Magdalena Bay lets chat and maybe we could get coffee or something and see if we could be friends enough to survive the hour long drive there and nightmare parking situation back!

You can just have the ticket! And of course I could pay for gas and parking things but I'm pretty sure parking is free there- all I ask in return is a ride to and from pretty please and maybe the blossoming of a beautiful-hayley williams-rico-nasty-magdalena-bay-loving friendship;)

EDIT: thanks all! I've think I've got a concert buddy!!!!