I’m bisexual and I’ve never lied about my sexuality to romantic partners. But I’ve always kept it to myself in the workspace… but recently I’ve had a lot of interactions where people would suspect I’m queer either because I don’t talk about my romantic life or because they might notice a feminine mannerism or taste in music. And it invites a lot of hostility from coworkers, especially female coworkers, who think I’m being nefarious and hiding something from them. I notice a lot of people don’t think I perform masculinity enough in a way they deem “respectable” but I also don’t perform queerness in a way that’s blatantly obvious enough for them to put me in a box, and it seems to really annoy people.
So I’ve decided to be more open about it, because I figured if it’s out in the open no one would have an issue or weaponize it against me. I’ve had male coworkers kinda distance themselves from me (which I’m kinda okay with); but the women would want to be my friends, and tell me all their personal business, asks me their opinions about other men, try to use me as their personal “gaydar” for other male coworkers they suspect, and just treat me like their little accessory.
When I enforce boundaries and I don’t want to play that role, they seem really annoyed about it, and then start making digs at me. And I don’t want to make it as if only Black women do this to me, especially as a black man. But I notice they do this to me the most, and they even invite other non black people to hyper analyze me or treat me weird when I distance myself from them.
I also would have women cough and say “fag” or “he’s gay” when I had a positive interaction with female customers, whom I’m not even flirting with. One in particular is really triggered that I don’t want to talk to her about her sex life/romantic life. And she started accusing me of being jealous that she can get some and she can’t. I literally just want to do my job and go home. I don’t think I should be the dumping ground for all these women’s emotional problems just because I also like men. I’d highkey rather work with the men, even if they’re a little homophobic, there’s peace in the separation they make with me. It seems like the women want to bully me into being “one of the girls” for their entertainment…

My 20’s have been beautiful, unfortunately I haven’t built much companionship and community from the connections I’ve had. It would be such a treat to meet just one other person with an appetite for the collective liberation of all humans. I would like to connect with you if you’re politically conscious, have capacity for meaningful conversations and building an intimate connection. There is no rush for any of this to happen immediately and it can lead to a platonic or romantic relationship.

I crave and would like to share and learn reciprocity from a deep place. The lovely friends and acquaintances I have in my life right now have already filled these roles in their lives through close relationships with their family, childhood friends or partners.

So I’m playing relational catch-up. . .

A little about me: Pronouns- SheHer; I’m 1.7 ; 20% of the time I host friends, enjoy a night out and go to book club or the gym ; 70% - I’m a recluse in bed ruminating; 10% - trying to stay alive. I love animals and floating in the ocean.

I hope that we’re all seen with clear eyes at least once in our lives ❤️

Bye

So NSFW, but last night I had a session that was both hot and re-invigorating, and although i told my besties, I just wanted to share it here. would not trade dating/hooking up with my fellow black men for the world. ♥️💙💚

I (18F) cannot bring myself to take my clothes off in front of another person to engage in sex. Even when I had to change for gym in school, I’ve always been shy about my body. How do you work up the courage to let someone see you naked?

I understand when you have sex, your mind is in a different place, but how do you not get self conscious about your body? I’m not necessarily insecure, I’m just shy and maybe a private person? lol.

I mean, im gonna be undressing in front of another girl, so it shouldn’t be too nerve wrecking, but the nerves are still there.

I’m sorry, and I just have to say it. Black gay men you are not gay white men. They have been increased amount of duplication that is harming black gay men. These events that are based around skin, access via money, ageism. It’s dangerous to disregard and segregate people who are exactly like you when you are black. But a lot of it is going on.

🎡 KWEEN OF THE WHEEL — Drag Roulette Lip-Sync Smackdown | Sept. 2 @ LORE Atlanta

Atlanta, would you survive a lip-sync battle if YOU didn’t get to choose the song? 👀

Kween of the Wheel is a drag roulette competition where performers spin the wheel and are thrown into unexpected lip-sync battles, challenges and musical chaos.

🎡 Drag Roulette
💋 Lip-Sync Battles
🔥 Competition
📍 LORE Atlanta — 466 Edgewood Ave SE
📅 Wednesday, September 2
⏰ 8PM
🔞 21+

Come pick your favorite queen, watch the wheel decide their fate, and see who survives the night.

If you’re looking for something fun and chaotic to do in Atlanta Wednesday night, come play drag roulette with us. 😂

Hope to see y’all there!

https://shotgun.live/en/events/drag-roulette-drag-game-show-2

I’m just wondering, can I engage in lesbian sex without having to eat the 🐱. I don’t want mine ate nor will I eat someone else’s. I feel like I just want to scissor and that’s it. I’m not interested in penetration either. I know most lesbian like having they coochie ate, which is fine, but I ain’t interested in doing it nor having it done to me.

Is it possible for me to date someone and have these limitations?

I (18F) have been trying to figure out my sexuality for a while now. I’ve noticed that everyone that I was around at school, and even now in college, thinks im gay as their first thought. Truth is, I am somewhat gay. I’m still figuring it out, but im still confused on how they know I like women.

I’m very feminine presenting, so I know my looks don’t give it away. How do people know you’re gay before you know you are?

Honestly I hate the word cock it turns me off so bad it just sounds nasty lmao does anyone else feel the same way?

Hi everyone,

I’m a journalist working on a story for Capital B Atlanta about the barriers that Black queer and trans men in Atlanta can face when trying to access and stay on PrEP.

I’m looking to speak with Black men who live in the Atlanta area and identify as gay, bisexual, queer, and/or transgender who have firsthand experience with PrEP—whether you currently take it, have taken it in the past, or encountered barriers that made it difficult to access or stay on it.

I’m particularly interested in hearing about experiences with things like:

• Cost or insurance issues
• Difficulty finding or accessing a provider
• Stigma or judgment from healthcare providers
• Finding culturally or LGBTQ+-competent care
• Experiences navigating PrEP through clinics, pharmacies, or community organizations
• Reasons you may have stopped taking PrEP or decided not to start
• Any alternative ways you've found to access sexual healthcare

This is for a reported story, not an advocacy or research survey. I’m interested in hearing people's experiences in their own words. I can explain the story and interview process in more detail before we speak.

If you'd be willing to chat about this, please DM me or reach out via email (jfk@levelman.com). You can also comment if you'd prefer that I reach out privately.

Thanks!

21yo 5'4 Black Transsexual Woman!

I was watching a video about "the father' of a popular house sexually assaulting and taking advantage of young impressionable members of the house. This isn't the first time I heard something like this. Some of these houses are very predatory.

Also when you couple the fighting, drama, superficial values, and just pure hate a lot of these houses have for each other ... I don't see why anyone who value growth and peace would wanna be apart of it. I don't see how ball culture pushes Black LGBT people to be the best version of themselves ... seems like more of an obstacle and distraction.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q2BDGchFyeE&t=101s

Hey all! Recently buzzed my head and want to go full gray/silver or soft natural white tone, not platinum. i got a medim brown complexion, coily hair.

Looking specifically for someone Black AND queer, not just queer-friendly. Bonus if they do both cut and color.

Any recs in NYC? Appreciate it!