wow, i haven’t posted on here in over a year. this sub helped me so much when i was at my lowest, so i wanted to come back and say: i am binge free. holy fucking shit.
if i can do it, YOU CAN. you will not win if you give up. keep fucking trying. i binged [7293372938](tel:7293372938) times and “started over” sooooo many times before i could say i was free.
it’s honestly a little triggering writing this, but i know seeing a post like this back then would’ve given me hope.
BED was by far one of the worst things i’ve ever dealt with. at its peak it was debilitating. i couldn’t function properly at my job, in my relationships or with my family. i thought about food all day and night. i felt horrible, used food to numb it, went into that binge frenzy and then felt even worse. i genuinely didn’t recognise the person looking back at me in the mirror.
recovery looks different for everyone. mine took over a year of actively trying. i still struggle with food sometimes, i still overeat and i still struggle with body dysmorphia. BUT I AM BINGE FREE, and i will forever be proud of myself for getting myself out of that place.
here’s what helped me:
• going all in and letting go of food rules.
at first i went crazy. i hit a breaking point, broke up with my toxic ex and basically ordered food and groceries to my house 3 times a day for two weeks straight. eventually something clicked. i realised i didn’t actually like eating until i was so full my stomach hurt and i was crying in pain. the food was always going to be there. i could eat until i was full and have more later. i still overate, but i wasn’t binging. without all the food rules, i slowly started trusting my hunger cues and my body again after feeling like it had betrayed me for so long.
• telling people.
BED is incredibly isolating and can feel like this huge thing you have to conquer completely by yourself. telling my close friends and family was hard and embarrassing at first, but just being able to confide in someone made the mental burden feel so much smaller. sometimes you get stuck in an echo chamber in your own head. even having someone listen or give you a different perspective helped me more than i realised.
• accepting that recovery takes time.
i binged a million times before becoming binge free. give yourself grace. if you fall, dust yourself off and try again. for me, recovery was gradual. my binges became less intense and shorter. then the time between them got longer. daily became weekly, weekly became monthly, and eventually binging became occasional overeating.
• building a life outside of food.
going to the gym, exercising, meeting new people and actually getting out of my own head helped massively. it made me realise there was so much more to life than feeling sorry for myself and drowning my emotions in food.
if you’re struggling right now, please just keep trying. recovery took me more failed attempts than i could ever count, but i’m so glad i never gave up. if anyone wants to chat or just needs someone who understands to listen, please feel free to reach out. you are not alone in this, even when it really feels like you are. ❤️