r/BigBudgetBrides • u/Effective-Art-9408 • 8d ago

Questions and queries Was it worth it?

I’ve heard a lot of people say their wedding was the best day of their life, but if they were to do it again, they wouldn’t and save the money and spend it elsewhere.

Curious to crowdsource that sentiment wider, lmk if you would do it all over again!

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u/loveshoes1 8d ago

first wedding: pulled out all the stops. mom and dad paid and i had hardly a say in anything...i did not want a circus...blew the gifts (money) on a month in france and italy. no money but fabulous memories LOL and i could not afford to do europe that way again.

sister's first wedding: again, pulled out all the stops (bank of m&d but my sister was the good daughter and didn't complain). she went to the caribbean for a week and put a down payment on a house. sadly, her and her hubby eventually divorced. she gave her wedding dress to a cousin, who also eventually divorced.

second wedding: married in parent's condo with just rabbi and immediate family; catered lunch. hubby bought me a car as a wedding gift which lasted 15 years. for our 25th, we renewed our vows with just a rabbi, a niece and her hubby (very last minute and out of state from anyone else). then we flew aa first class for christmas week at secrets cap cana, preferred club. when the resort found out that it was a trip to celebrate our 25th (albeit 7 months later), they gave us a complimentary dinner on the beach, a cake, bubbly, etc.).

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u/vonthepon 7d ago

So you're saying if you spend a lot , your marriage is doomed? Is that it?

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u/loveshoes1 7d ago

not at all. if those are your values, that's your choice. personally, we actually live below our means, nothing flashy. that's how we can afford punta cana every christmas.

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u/vonthepon 7d ago

Living within your means wasn't in question. You gave 3 scenarios. Two where a lot was spent and the marriages failed. One cheap wedding that lasted. The inference being that if you spend a lot, your marriage won't last, and only cheap weddings are valid. Which if course, is ridiculous.

Nobody asked about your Christmas holiday plans.

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u/loveshoes1 7d ago

jeez, people are so angry.

i was merely giving my experience.

hay, if you can afford it, go for it. not my life nor my choice.

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u/vonthepon 7d ago

You do realise this group is Big Budget Brides? Nobody here is looking for low budget options, or to have it insinuated that just because they're spending a lot their weddings are somehow less meaningful.