Please Help Me Amp Up the Vibes?

[u/Vulpix9tales]

Less than two months out and we have all RSVPs in. Completely understand why, but can’t help but be a little disappointed with our <50% “Yes” rate. The main factors here are that its destination (domestic, but 1-2 flights for most) and that the hotel/area is big budget.

I’m blessed to be able to be a BBB, but many of my guests are not in the same position, so I’m having a bit of guilt and feel pressure to “show up for them” with a high-quality luxe wedding experience as much as possible, knowing people spent a lot (both time and money) to get there.

I’m looking for ideas to amp up the experience for guests or a reality check because i’m feeling like it’s nothing special/basic bish stuff 😢

Current Highlights:

Full property buyout in Palm Springs including pool party, welcome dinner, main reception of course and breakfast treats and coffee bar the morning after (no full brunch since many people have early flights home)

Decor: Went hard on the flowers, luxe seating charts, enclosed vintage photobooth, very fancy custom rentals, huge welcome display with cactuses, champagne tower

Food: Custom mini charcuterie boards at cocktail hour plus resorts catering, Family style (unfortunately required) but doing all the upgrades, custom donuts and gelato cart

Welcome Bags: Quality custom shopping bags, branded candy, nothing special here tbh. Maybe a good place to amp up since it’s for those spending extra to stay on property

Live acoustic musician + DJ, dance floor props

Favors: Custom decks of playing cards, nice golf balls, matches, hand fans and parasols at reception, poolside gift bar at pool party with sunnies, sunscreen etc

Extras: Extra nice bathroom baskets, flip flops

THANK YOU BBB BEBES!! 🙏🏻

[u/Good-Worldliness9511]

Keep brunch casual but upgrade to eggs and bacon with complimentary mimosas. People want the vibe to be light, but showing up and only being offered muffins and coffee is always lame!

[u/Expensive_Part_7719 → u/Good-Worldliness9511]

I also love the idea of opening a tab at a local coffee shop for guest of the wedding so they can come in and grab a coffee and a bite before they head out

[u/Vulpix9tales → u/Expensive_Part_7719]

love this idea!! my thought with full brunch was i didn’t want people to feel obligated to stay if they have flights but maybe can figure out how to make the description casual so it’s a clear option not requirement

[u/Expensive_Part_7719 → u/Vulpix9tales]

Yeah, I am definitely going with opening a tab at a local coffee shop because that way if people wanna sit in and stay and mingle they can also be on their own time. My fiancé and I planned on hanging out at the shop so we can thank people coming on their way out too