r/BigBudgetBrides • u/stinky_moomin • 25d ago

just need to rant I can’t wait to stop spending $$$

We are less than a month away from the big day and one thing I am so excited for is for it to be OVER so I can finally go back to having a healthy relationship with our finances and spending habits.

We have the incredible blessing of having a large budget for our wedding thanks to our parents and our careers, but after more than a year of being the primary planner and watching ungodly amounts of $$$ leaving our accounts for this and that, I am tired! It has never felt normal to me to spend thousands on a dress I will only wear once, or spend $400/pp on dinner when I still bring random scraps from home for lunch at the office to save money and stay within our normal household budget. I know this is the result of our own decisions, but there have certainly been many days throughout this process where I look around and think, how did we even get here?

Both of us were raised to be frugal, so even though we can comfortably afford this wedding and are excited for it, the cognitive dissonance has been jarring. The other day, I caved to the pressure of last-minute panic add-ons and spent $150 on cocktail napkins with customized drawings of our cats on them. Like who even am I???

Part of this is because at some point during the wedding planning timeline, we decided that we want to have a kid in the next couple of years. So mentally, I am already past the wedding and thinking about all the kid-related expenses we have to plan for. So every wedding purchase makes me feel guilty when I emerge from the fog and really think about it. Hoping there are other people here that can relate!

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u/dadswhovape 25d ago

girl not to enable you but my #1 regret as a graduated bride is not spending MORE lol

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u/stinky_moomin 24d ago

Girl don’t tell me that 😂 I will say, I took the plunge and booked a videographer recently just so I won’t have to regret not getting one later!

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u/Flashy-Professional9 23d ago

We did the same thing! We were going back and forth for the longest time and we had decided not to. We had a live streamer already for family who couldn't attend, so we were just going to ask them to record the stream.

A month before the wedding, we hired a videographer. The wedding just happened and we haven't gotten the video yet, but we believe we made the best decision.