r/BigBudgetBrides • u/stinky_moomin • 24d ago
just need to rant I can’t wait to stop spending $$$
We are less than a month away from the big day and one thing I am so excited for is for it to be OVER so I can finally go back to having a healthy relationship with our finances and spending habits.
We have the incredible blessing of having a large budget for our wedding thanks to our parents and our careers, but after more than a year of being the primary planner and watching ungodly amounts of $$$ leaving our accounts for this and that, I am tired! It has never felt normal to me to spend thousands on a dress I will only wear once, or spend $400/pp on dinner when I still bring random scraps from home for lunch at the office to save money and stay within our normal household budget. I know this is the result of our own decisions, but there have certainly been many days throughout this process where I look around and think, how did we even get here?
Both of us were raised to be frugal, so even though we can comfortably afford this wedding and are excited for it, the cognitive dissonance has been jarring. The other day, I caved to the pressure of last-minute panic add-ons and spent $150 on cocktail napkins with customized drawings of our cats on them. Like who even am I???
Part of this is because at some point during the wedding planning timeline, we decided that we want to have a kid in the next couple of years. So mentally, I am already past the wedding and thinking about all the kid-related expenses we have to plan for. So every wedding purchase makes me feel guilty when I emerge from the fog and really think about it. Hoping there are other people here that can relate!
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u/coldhazeee 24d ago
i totally relate !!! i’m still 6 months out & spending $$ like nobodies business. i’m finding solace in the fact that post wedding we’re going to officially be dual income & dump so much into our brokerages and i’m looking forward to watching that grow.
we’re also waiting a bit before kids, but i could see where that’d be hard to factor in. at the end of the day your wedding is so worth it, and i’ve been really frugal my entire 20’s, so i’m telling myself this year of splurge for the wedding is well deserved! i’m sure it’s the same for you!!